As my personal perspective, I just want to express: it's a happy obsession! Since I became a mom myself, and then my parents are long gone, I can appreciate both the importance of children to their parents, and the importance of parents to their children.
Parents are always interfering with you, in fact, this trouble almost every child has had, of course, I'm not to do your parents lobbyist, we face the problem need to be rational and objective.
First of all, we need to reflect on ourselves, is it that we are not enough to reassure them? Or is it that they have been able to be independent and they still want to interfere in everything?
In fact, in the eyes of the parents, the child will always be a child, and will always want to control the worry for you, so think about it, why not a sweet burden?
But we have had our own ideas since we were teenagers, and we don't want to be controlled anymore, which is the beginning of our independence.
So what is needed is a good communication with your parents. Some insignificant small things (such as nagging you to wear more when it's cold, walk don't play with the phone and so on), you can agree with them, and respond to their concern in time, also let them take care of themselves. But in the big things, we have to have their own sense of proportion, listen to their own, but also have the courage to be responsible for their own choices, so that parents see you mature, natural heart will not be too worried about you, nagging and interference will be much less.
Generally speaking, children do not have a family before, parents are going to feel that you are still like a small child, they will always feel that the road you have traveled is not as much as the salt they have eaten it, but this is also a kind of love for you, do not do confrontation, but to skillfully to retreat, you can work hard to grow up in their own schooling or work, so that they can see that they are able to be on their own. People always have to learn to grow up on their own, and they need to bear the storms in the future.
If you are still interfering more after you start a family, reflect on yourself, is it that you need their assistance? As the saying goes, "the person's mouth is soft and the person's hand is short", catching the big and letting go of the small is the main thing. Then take advantage of the convenience of the parents to help grow their own, until there is a certain achievement, these are not a problem.
If you don't want your parents' help (which is basically very rare), gently but firmly reject their interference and reflect on yourself.
Summary:
1 The nature of this problem is mostly out of your parents' love and concern for you, and it is necessary to distinguish for ourselves (as long as you did not grow up being abused by them, which is the kind of thing I am talking about), and it's important to have the ability to think for yourself.
2 Respond to your parents' concern and nagging and return the same love. Don't be confrontational, back off and have a long talk too.
3 The main thing is to grow yourself, and to find out more from yourself, after all, they will always interfere with the day of immobilization.
4 If you can't stand it, you can also be wise, such as you take the initiative to care about their lives. (Mom you see you are fat, go to the square dance fitness, dad you less smoking, bad for the body and so on, according to the actual situation adjustment). If they can't stand your "concern" for them, the time is ripe for you to solve your problem.
ps: Regarding the fourth point, I saw a video on Jitterbug. A middle-aged man in his thirties was videoing his father, and the first thing he said was: "Dad, have you eaten? What did you eat? Was it good? Who made it? Did you have mooncakes for Mid-Autumn Festival? ......
At the end of the operation, his old father was annoyed, and said: leave me alone! Just give hang up the video.
Practice makes perfect, the words are not coarse, if you do not believe, you can try!