Mark Twain once said this. Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponents and relieve your friends." Therefore, the point of view of psychologists is: do not easily lie, even if it is a well-intentioned lie.
The second defense of the other side please note that even if it is a well-intentioned lie, but as a lie itself, it is already an act against integrity, so whether the lie is in a good purpose or not, as a lie itself is bound to impede integrity. Therefore, here I would like to raise my voice, let us reject the well-intentioned lies, *** with to build a society of integrity.
The well-intentioned lie is not factual, saying falsehoods, falsehoods, exaggerating, covering up, distorting the truth. From the well-intentioned lie phrase structure to analyze, it is a partial phrase, the center word is a lie, and thus well-intentioned lie is essentially a lie. Although the motive of the well-intentioned lies for good intentions, but because of the good intentions itself there is a certain degree of uncertainty, and thus repeatedly by some "professional liars" to take advantage of - this is an indisputable fact. The "lie" itself is dark, the good and bad things are not measured by the purpose of things, the good intention of the lie itself is false. Although it faded away the beggar clothes put on the cheongsam, but still can not get rid of the essence of its lies, and lies mean deception, thus impeding the integrity. The starting point of the lie is good, but often this lie once punctured, the other side of the harm will be deeper, as the lie itself, has been contrary to the integrity of the behavior.
In China **** Central announced the "Citizen Moral Construction Implementation Program" in the proposed 20 words of moral norms, "integrity" is a very important norms, integrity is to seek "true", is the pursuit of justice. The ancients said that "truthfulness" is the most sincere of all. The first time I saw this, it was a very important part of my life, and it was a very important part of my life.
As General Secretary Hu Jintao said in his speech: "The harmonious socialist society we are trying to build should be a society characterized by democracy and the rule of law, fairness and justice, honesty and friendship, vitality, stability and order, and harmony between man and nature."
Through the above multi-faceted analysis, we believe that no matter whether the lie is in a good purpose or not, as a lie is bound to hinder integrity.
Because if you tell a well-intentioned lie, but the well-intentioned lie is found out later. Then the person who was lied to by the well-intentioned lie will be even more upset.
Honesty and trustworthiness is a good quality of the children of China, and we can't ruin our good quality of China because some people tell some good lies.
The reason why a lie is called a "lie" is that it is a false, untrue and deceitful word. If a person often has a lie flow with the mouth, so as to deceive others, over time, he will lose people's trust. We still believe that a lie is a lie, and it is still a lie in spite of good or bad intentions.
A lie is still a lie after all, this is a fact, can not be changed, no matter what lies are said, are lying, people should be honest, can not lie, even if it is a goodwill lie ...
Examples of speaking honestly
1.Youth's Success in Speaking Faith
There was a young man in America whose father died young and left behind a pile of debt power. This young man did not like other people as a pretext for the death of his father and avoid debt, on the contrary, he visited the debtors, hoping that they grace period, and to ensure that he will pay all the debts for his father. The creditors were very sympathetic to the young man's situation and said that they could extend the repayment period.
This young man, through 20 years of hard work, humored his father and paid off all the debts he left behind, and even returned the interest. People who knew these things were very touched, but also y felt that this youth is a person of faith, so they all came to him to cooperate in business. As a result, the young man achieved great success.
2. must be delivered on time
The United States IBM degree of computer companies develop rapidly, nearly a century and does not decline, relying on the company's service personnel in the work of a high degree of responsibility and abide by the virtues of good faith.
One day, the city of Phoenix, a user in urgent need of reconstruction of multi-functional database computer parts. The company was informed, immediately sent a female staff to send, on the way to meet the pouring rain, the river soared, flooded 14 bridges along the way, the traffic jam, the car has been unable to drive. According to common sense encountered this special situation, the female staff have every reason to return to the company, but she did not do so, she thought the company has promised the customer, no matter how to do. At this time, if they return to the company, the company's credibility may be damaged, thought of this, she used the original stored in the car a pair of roller skates, skating to the destination. Usually drive only twenty minutes away, today has become a four-hour trek. The woman arrived at the user's location, and then ignored the fatigue of the journey, in time to solve the user's problems.
IBM is the staff responsible attitude and integrity of the behavior, won the praise of the majority of users.
3. Cried wolf
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Isn't there such a saying: A good lie is beautiful. When we lie moderately for the sake of others' happiness and hope, the lie becomes understanding, respect and tolerance, and has magical power.
Reading the American short story "The Last Leaf", my eyes are always moist and wet. When the sick old man looked at the fading leaves and desolate despair, full of love, the painter carefully sketched a green leaf to decorate the dry tree of life, so as to maintain a period of life is about to be extinguished light. Is this not the ultimate lie?
Lies out of good intentions are the nourishment of life and the source of faith. It allows people to light up the fire of hope from the heart, sure that there is love in the world, there is trust, there are touched, and thus find more reasons to smile at life. Kindness lies, is to give the spirit of human nature, embodies the emotional finesse and maturity of thought, prompting people to be strong and persistent, can not help but go to work to fight for the final victory over the fragile, desperate to survive.
The parents of a lie, so that the world is not deep child face like flowers, brilliant; teacher of a lie, so that the uncertainty of the students are no longer confused, the better to grow; the doctor of a lie, so that the fear of the patient by the destruction of the new life ......
Good faith lies simply does not impede the integrity of, and do not think that the Kindness lies will hinder the integrity of the issue, because as long as you think in your heart is for the sake of others, then kind lies is precious, it will neither cause a crisis of trust, nor tarnish the civilization, and will not distort the human nature.
Good lies have the magical power to inspire you to make progress again and again, and to never give up lightly for the dream in your heart. Because the road ahead is completely illuminated by a joyful mood, and life is better for it.
If being open and straightforward is a mistake, I choose to lie.
If truthfulness and frankness are a disservice, I choose the lie.
If it is for the sake of oneself or others no longer in pain no longer sad, a little more lies, what is the harm?
Positive
"Lies" is called "lies" because it is false, untrue and deceitful words. If a person often has a lie in his mouth to deceive others, he will lose people's trust over time. Just like the child in the article "the lying child", every day shouting "the wolf is coming" in order to seek excitement, happy, but when the wolf really comes, he only one person to face independently, to bear by himself, no matter how much shouting will not help, and there will be no one to help him again. Because the people who may come to help him have gotten used to his shouting, and thought that he was "teasing you" again.
It is my great pleasure to present my opinion on the argument of whether or not lies are a hindrance to honesty and integrity. The following is our view:
The goodwill lie itself is a lie, which is unquestionable. Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, immoral things are unpopular, these are playing small teachers and elders have been assiduously taught. But we ask ourselves, and who has not told lies? Whether it is to their loved ones, friends, or do not know each other, there are many kinds of purposes, but when we add a lie to the "good intentions", as if everyone may accept it, which is precisely the weakness of human nature is the focus of the performance.
Mark Twain once said this. Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponents and relieve your friends." Thus, the view of psychologists is: don't lie easily, even if it's a well-intentioned lie.
I think a person should be honest.
And a well-intentioned lie tends to give a person a misleading impression, thus making him make a wrong judgment.
And your good intentions may not be the same as what others think, and no one has the right to interfere with another person's freedom.
Many things should be dealt with on their own, and no one else should have to intervene (good intentions, intervene from information.)
What you consider to be a well-intentioned lie, do others consider it so?
Can you be sure that your opinion is the right one? ,To do so is to use one's subjective will to change the will of others, and to interfere with their freedom.
Because a well-intentioned lie belongs to interfering with others, so do you think it is wrong or right?
Even if it is a well-intentioned lie, but as a lie itself, it is already a behavior contrary to honesty, so no matter whether the lie is in a good purpose or not, as a lie itself will inevitably hinder honesty. Therefore, here I would like to raise my voice, let us reject the well-intentioned lies, *** with to build a society of integrity.