In the program "Dear Me", Wang Zulan and Fan Liu Li (范湉湉), they went to a Shanghai family, which, like all Chinese parents, has a mother who takes the initiative to take care of her two grandchildren when her daughter is busy with her livelihood.
Wang Zulan, who also has a Shanghai mother-in-law, also shared that his parents-in-law help take care of his wife and daughter. In their own out of work, the in-laws to help take care of his wife and daughter, when the daughter is still small, the night of the night feeding, father-in-law overnight care, mother-in-law 100 days care, the two took turns to take care of the child, even if the hard work is not to say.
In fact, this is not the status quo faced by all parents now, now grandma with children has become a common phenomenon, only a small part of the grandmother with. China's news network has launched a poll, the results of more than half of the vote is the grandmother with children.
The son of her upstairs neighbor, Linlin, is four years old and will start elementary school in two years, but the local policy is that you must have a local hukou to go to school. She's thinking of working in the area for a few years and getting a local social security check so she can settle down in the area.
Because the first few years I was at home with my own kids, I didn't have to deal with the elderly to take care of them. But now that you have to go to work, and your child has to be picked up and dropped off at the kindergarten every day, you want your mother-in-law to come and help you for a few years. But her mother-in-law refused to help with the child on the grounds that it was inconvenient to go out and speak the dialect with other people and that there was a language barrier.
Linlin had no choice but to ask her mom for help. When she discussed it with her mom, she said: ? You can go to work if you want to, I'll take the kids to and from school, and you can work without worrying. In this way, the mother every day to send the child to school, during the day to clean up the home health, cooking. A dry is three years, three years mom and dad living apart, dad in the hometown work, every holiday dad rushed over a piece. Look at the mom for them to work hard in this family, Linlin is very heartbreaking, feel ashamed of parents, did not follow the enjoyment of blessings, in turn, over also help. Linlin can not help but sigh? I'm not sure if I'm a good person, but I'm a good person, and I'm a good person.
Why more and more is the grandma with children, the reason is the following four points:
1, heartache, understanding, tolerance of the daughter
Home is the warmest place No matter how you live outside the home is always your harbor. The most caring, the most tolerant of you is always the parents. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get the job done, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get the job done, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get the job done, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get the job done.
I remember one time, the child was still small, the mother at home to watch the child. The mother took advantage of the child's nap to quickly clean up the home, the results of health cleaning half of the child woke up, the mother did not find, the child woke up and did not cry to climb to the bed, the results of the predictable fall from the bed, wailing, my mother rushed over to pick up the child to coax the child, the child's brain red a large part of the crying on the breath. Mom rushed to call me to explain this.
I was in a hurry to say something heavy to my mother, and then I wanted to apologize for not being able to pull my face, so I sent a text message to my mother, and I apologized and thanked her through the text message. Mom said back to me? It's okay, mom has forgotten. At that time, after reading this text message, immediately burst into tears, feel especially ashamed of mom. Pity the world's parents, mom for me to work all my life, but I can not let her enjoy the blessings, but also let her continue to work for my children. Mom is always sympathetic and tolerant of me.
2, avoid mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship
Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along with, it is difficult to determine the family affairs, it is possible that a family can not tolerate two hostesses it! In the education of children, consumerism and other different ideas lead to conflict. Two unrelated women pay for the same man, together will inevitably have conflicts, need a long time to get along, I always think that as long as the mother-in-law does not have too many shortcomings, the daughter-in-law and very open-minded, can be exempted from a lot of contradictions. As long as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are adhering to the principle of family harmony, many conflicts will naturally be solved! Many families ask their grandmothers to take care of their children in order to avoid this kind of conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
3, pass the time of retirement
If help with the children, they will stay on your attention to the child, worry about the child's food, clothing and housing, not too much energy to pay attention to the children. I.e., it kills the mom's free time and makes it easier for again us to be daughters. I will now more and more to my mom about work things, on the one hand, I hope she can understand me more, on the one hand, but also to save her at home mentally more boring.
4, the mother-in-law is not willing to bring
Now many of the mother-in-law pursuit of freedom, it is not easy to bring up the children, finally liberated, can do some want to do a thing, square dancing, shopping with friends get together dinner, travel to enjoy our country's great mountains and rivers. I don't want to be surrounded by children anymore, I want to live for myself.
The person who gave birth to me coaxed me to give birth to the person , grandma to help bring up the child is not because of how idle she is, but she knows that letting go of the matter is the most tired person is her daughter.