But in this leisure time, if there is no one to accompany you, it is inevitable that there will be some imperfections. After all, the days are still long, and you need someone to spend the rest of your life with you. If someone talks and chats, they won't be lonely.
Of course, some people think that a person's life is also very good, and there is no need to find someone to restrain themselves. Generally, such people either have money or a pension, or like and know how to enjoy loneliness.
More and more people choose to find a partner to spend the rest of their lives with, regardless of whether the partner is remarried or cohabiting. However, can a life with a partner really be happy?
The answer is definitely no, and there are many concerns about living with two people! As Uncle Du, a neighbor, said: If you want to get rid of this concern, you need to talk about three things in advance to set a good tone for your future life. Otherwise, even if you find a partner and marry a remarried wife, life will be like a chicken feather, and you can't catch up with anyone, which will not only hurt your feelings.
I'm Uncle Du. I am 64 years old and my wife has been gone for six years. I have an only son who has been married for more than ten years. At present, the little grandson is old and nobody takes care of him.
In the past few years after retirement, life suddenly became carefree and particularly boring. Every day, I do nothing but play chess and ball with people my age in the community.
In the third year after my wife left, I began to want to find another partner, but now several years have passed and I haven't found the right one.
Faced with such a situation, I can't help but start to reflect. Is it really that I have too many conditions to find a wife? However, I also want to have less twists and turns in my future life. After all, I am looking for a wife to live with and grow old together. It's to make a warm home into a battlefield because of constant quarrels over trifles every day.
This is not what I want, and I don't think many people who are looking for a boss again want to live a quiet life. Who wants to live a noisy life and who is not stupid?
The first thing: before boarding the plane, both parties go for a physical examination. It is really important to have a good body in one's later years. This is the cornerstone of happiness.
In order not to let either party suffer, I think before two people get together, they must know each other's physical condition, whether there is any disease, whether there is any medical history and so on.
As we all know, people tend to get sick when they are old, but it is difficult and expensive to see a doctor now. A serious illness may consume all the money, but it may not be cured.
In the face of this phenomenon, when I look for a wife again, I want to find someone who is similar to me, or not too different, so that I don't suffer, and she doesn't suffer.
After all, nobody wants to. As soon as I found another partner, I found myself a burden. It's not what I want to do before the days are over, so I take out my old money and pay for each other's medical expenses. Even if I am selfish, I don't want it.
The second thing: economic distribution after boarding. Whether two people are in charge of accounts, AA, or one person, the other party can check.
Why should I mention the economy? Because I have seen people get into trouble because of money, and finally they can't stay. To live, there is no shortage of daily necessities, and naturally there is no shortage of economic exchanges.
In order to make the partnership stable, the economic management after the partnership must be agreed in advance and strictly implemented. Otherwise, if you feel that you have spent money today, you will have the initiative. If you feel lost tomorrow, you won't be able to get through the day.
Economic transparency. When two people are together, they all know where the money has gone and where it has been spent, thus reducing unnecessary suspicion.
Money is spent together, work is done together, something needs a lot of money, and two people in big trouble discuss it. If you are in trouble, I will help you. This is a good day.
The third thing: children's support and pension are clear. Whether young or old, it is not their own business for two people to form a family, but the integration of their families. Therefore, it is important and necessary to communicate with children before boarding and remarriage.
After all, children are their closest relatives. When people are old, the feelings they can give to the other half are limited, and most of their energy is given to their children. For the elderly, it is more reliable to rely on their own children.
When you remarry, listen to your children's opinions more, so as to prevent them from disagreeing in the future, damaging their feelings and finally hurting their health.
When you remarry, you will get the blessing of your children. If the relatives of both parties are in general contact, it is the best blessing for remarried people. A happy marriage is what everyone wants.
I heard that an old man in the neighborhood next door remarried without the consent of his children. Her children have a tense relationship with her. When she was sick and wanted her child to accompany her, the child sneered and said to her, "You chose a man and gave up on us. What are you doing with us now? " .
Although her children take care of her in the end, there is still a big difference between intentional and unintentional. When she heard this, it was really painful. Her children became enemies with herself, sneering at herself. Think about how painful it is.
Children's opinions, although sometimes out of other considerations, but also have to say that they are outsiders, sometimes see more clearly.
If the other child doesn't agree, I'll call you once every three days. I'm afraid you'll treat the other person badly, or say something unpleasant and mean, and you'll feel uncomfortable after listening to it too much.
It can be seen that children's opinions are really important. In order to have a stable and happy life, we might as well consider the previous one.
Although I am still searching slowly, I believe I can find an old man who can meet these three points and live a happy sunset life with her.
Finally, I still want to ask, are these three things too much?
When you are old, you don't need to hide some of your demands and be ashamed to speak. After all, your time is limited, so it is better to say it in advance than to find out the problem after boarding the plane.
Physical health, financial problems, children's consent or not, all these must be considered in the next love relationship. Strictly speaking, people who can consider these three points are all people with wisdom in life. Speaking these concerns in advance is also a kind of responsibility to the other party.
Of course, the opinions of those unfilial children can be selectively ignored, because their opposition is not for your own good, but mostly for fear that you will give your savings to outsiders.
In fact, what the elderly need is companionship, care, mutual support, and discussion and handling problems together when encountering problems. If people with good conditions are willing to pay more, they will only make their partners feel happier in their later lives.