Why can't mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along as sweetly as mother-daughter relationship?
The difficulty of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship is a worldwide problem since ancient times, and it is even more significant in China, isn't there a saying that there is a woman's place is more right and wrong? Originally so, not to mention the two women from different living environments and generations together, if the two women are not between the role of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then even if there are age boundaries buyers and so on, but also can be peaceful, at least more peaceful than a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The so-called mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, the role of these two women but opposing, although they both love the same man, but the life of the mother-in-law will instinctively feel that my son I'm in charge, no matter whether the mother-in-law has not manifested obviously, but this is every mother-in-law's instincts, the mother-in-law will feel that this man is my October pregnancy I gave birth to me to raise, so I'm just a sense of superiority. This is for the son's thoughts, and for this woman called the son's wife, in the eyes of the mother-in-law to say the vulgar point is that this is just more than twenty years after I raised my son, just do not know where to come out of the wild girl. This came to share my son with me, how can the heart be comfortable? First of all, already in the subconscious inside the daughter-in-law has hostility, people are selfish, standing in the mother-in-law's point of view is indeed my hard work for more than 20 years of results actually have to share with a yellow hair girl.
Originally, I was not happy, not to mention that this girl is still an articulate character, make my son, perhaps with my son and I love me. The same sex, surely the heart is not comfortable. Generally have a daughter-in-law when of course many mothers-in-law will first feel fresh, my son married wife, I want to hold grandchildren my daughter-in-law pregnant, but usually mothers-in-law will ignore the daughter-in-law to this home before and after the not easy, completely ignoring the daughter-in-law's credit, completely forgetting that she herself was also uprooted from their homes and left their loved ones to live in another unfamiliar family environment at that time of the isolation of the scene! The only thing she thinks about is her grandchildren, and she is not at all thankful to her daughter-in-law. Beware of the mother-in-law will be everywhere to limit the daughter-in-law's various sexual behaviors, think the daughter-in-law to her home to eat his home to live in his home to obey the order to listen to the command, can not have their own circle and their own space, otherwise it is unfaithful and unfilial. This kind of mother-in-law abounds, of course, reasonable and open-minded mother-in-law also have, but very few, but the reality is found but where the mother-in-law is the kind of particularly reasonable mother-in-law that kind of family, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is generally no big contradiction and problem.
? Daughter-in-law is your son's choice, daughter-in-law is what kind of person your son is what kind of person, if you look down on the daughter-in-law that is to look down on their own son is to look down on your own, why?
General broad-minded mothers-in-law will meet a good daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law will be more and more excellent, but no matter whether the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law each other is not good, that, the contradiction is there, only if one of the party can be generous is an enlightened person, the contradiction will be relatively fewer, I don't know in the eyes of mothers-in-law daughter-in-laws are how, and how to be considered a good daughter-in-law, because I am now only a daughter-in-law did not do a mother-in-law, so I don't know how to do a mother-in-law. I don't know what kind of expectations and comments mothers-in-law have about their daughters-in-law's roles because I'm still just a daughter-in-law and not a mother-in-law. But in the past, our next door mother-in-law I think really appreciate, her granddaughter is very difficult to serve, born to her to bring, day and night on the back of her granddaughter, her daughter-in-law was only 7 months on the call for cesarean section, her reason is that the child grows fast in the late stage, will be the stomach will not be able to lose weight, and too tired, so go to the cesarean section, the child did not come to the ripe time of cesarean section, and after that kind of difficult to serve Only that kind of mother-in-law can stand, day and night can not rest day and night back shaking holding shaking, every day to instill medicine, the child's body is too poor, every day crying noisy death, but people that mother-in-law has the ability to never in front of anyone complaining about the daughter-in-law half a sentence, the daughter-in-law came back from work to eat and then go to bed, will not care about the child, and that the daughter-in-law never wait for the child, the child stinks of her mother-in-law, she is very busy she also has to wait for the child, and the mother-in-law is very busy. The mother-in-law is very busy, and she has to wait for her mother-in-law to change her clothes.
But when those other people's mothers-in-law gossiped about their daughters-in-law, this mother-in-law didn't complain. I don't know if she ever complained in her heart, but she has always been conscientious about bringing up her granddaughter. My daughter and her granddaughter are about the same age, his granddaughter is two months older than my daughter, but not as big as my daughter, my daughter is very good, I have never carried, eat during the day to sleep, never get up at night to eat, since the full moon has been like this. The mother-in-law is so envious ah, sometimes my daughter cried a couple of times I said a big man still crying do not know shy, in fact, that is my daughter is only 6 months old, and then the mother-in-law said that the little baby crying is normal, your family this crying up is not like crying, casually roar two even if it is a cry, so well brought up, my granddaughter so you have seen, I do not think she how. My goodness, this is the legendary other mother-in-law, good mentality, good patience, every time the daughter-in-law shouted mother, the little baby stinks, the mother-in-law is very gentle answer, good I'll be right there, very calm and peaceful feeling. So I think that kind of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is very brain fire of the family, first of all the daughter-in-law does not understand, and then the mother-in-law is even more excessive to intensify the conflict.
? Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law want to get along like girlfriends, it is absolutely impossible, girlfriends do not have so many complex relationships involved, and between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law said to be a family, said to love the same person, in fact, each has its own position. I stand in the position of the daughter-in-law, when the daughter-in-law just to this new family environment, and the general daughter-in-law just married the beginning of these years is the most difficult time in life, give birth to children, work to earn money, anyway, is very bitter, this time the general mother-in-law is relatively free, even if not free at least not as serious as the daughter-in-law, this time the mother-in-law, if the mother-in-law can stand in the daughter-in-law's position for the daughter-in-law to think about and help, I believe that as the daughter-in-law side will be the most important thing to do, and the mother-in-law will be able to help. I believe that as the daughter-in-law side will be touched by gratitude for a lifetime, even if there is a little friction in the future life, the daughter-in-law will be willing to understand the mother-in-law to stand in the position of the mother-in-law to consider the problem, and after the daughter-in-law tough years just mother-in-law is old, before you help the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law at this time will be grateful to go to her mother-in-law's heart.
The first few years is the easiest time to accumulate contradictions, only to get along with each other, a self-hidden nature of their own real other side, if the daughter-in-law just came to the home of these years mother-in-law chose to avoid, then the seeds of conflict have been buried, this time the daughter-in-law's position was forced to pose a very obvious for the daughter-in-law of the mother-in-law as if she were jumping parachutes, at the beginning, I need you, but you actually did not play a role in the case of the daughter-in-law. You, but you actually did not play a role, and so I have fallen, then you are still important to me? So when it comes to mutual understanding, it starts with the mother-in-law. In short, if there is a mother-in-law in this world is able to do girlfriends, then I'm sure it must be the mother-in-law side is a reasonable, open-minded, generous and decent knowledge of the book anyway, good can't be better than the mother-in-law, can be like a mother to tolerate all the shortcomings of the daughter-in-law of the mother-in-law can be with the daughter-in-law each other like girlfriends. On the other hand, if the daughter-in-law to tolerate the mother-in-law like a mother that is impossible, daughter-in-law herself is still a child, full of young and vigorous little princess temper, so I personally feel that the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship with how to get along, 80% of the factors in the hands of the mother-in-law, a personal point of view.