When being urged to get married, everyone can deal with it skillfully, which can not only avoid nagging and complaining, but also avoid the embarrassment of direct refusal.
1, going from customer to customer, disrupting the opponent's situation.
When asking about love and marriage, first care about each other's situation. "Aunt, when will the first cousin get married?" "When will the second cousin have a baby?" "Uncle's salary has been rising in recent years. How much has his salary increased? " "How is your square dance? Have you learned the dance steps of the little apple? " The other party either pokes a sore spot and loses interest in chatting, or is immersed in personal life and forgets your existence.
2. Risk
When it comes to marriage, you will feel sad and tell the unfortunate experience of your last relationship like Sister Xianglin. It's better to add "I don't believe in love anymore" and "My heart is still hurting. What should I do? " "I'm not ready to start the next relationship" and other lines. When the elders see that you are hurt, they will stop talking and bring it up later.
3, honey trap, coquetry has no lower limit (not applicable to boys for the time being)
Blinking watery eyes, looking at each other's face: "Damn, I'm still young!" " "Don't you like me? You want to marry me off so soon! I still want to spend more years with my parents! "
4. Be prepared when facing the enemy.
Answered confidently: "I am also considering it. Don't worry! " If you don't want to be nagged by your parents about getting married, you'd better put on a confident look and make people feel that you have found a good way out and everything is going well. However, in order to prevent cheating under the questioning of parents, we should make more preparations, such as forging the image and information of a nonexistent boyfriend and making everything watertight.
Second, what should I do if I am urged to get married?
1. Never leave home.
In the face of parents urging marriage, many people will choose not to go home and make perfunctory phone calls to save listening to their parents' nagging. However, this is not the fundamental solution after all, and parents mean well. This may be effective, but it hurts parents' hearts.
Step 2 change the subject
Parents often talk to you about getting married and finding someone when they are on the phone or chatting. You can change the subject and easily divert their attention. They will be restrained when they see that you have changed the subject.
3. Tell them what you think.
If your career is busy now, or you don't really want to find a boyfriend/girlfriend now, or you have other factors, I think you can tell them what you think directly, and I believe they will understand you.
4. Make a plan for yourself and give them a guarantee.
You can think of your plan according to your actual situation, and then tell them when you plan to find someone. If your plan is reasonable and they won't stick to it, then you can easily get rid of their urging marriage.
Step 5 give it a try
If you are also interested in finding a boyfriend/girlfriend, you can also take this opportunity to ask your parents to provide you with a blind date, and maybe you can find someone who looks you in the eye during the blind date. If the blind date is not suitable, it is also a friend!
Step 6 retreat for progress
You can also choose to accept the blind date arrangement of your parents and go to see the blind date. If you don't like it one after another, it's just a reason to tell your parents that blind date is not suitable for you, and you can find someone yourself.