Relatives are farther away than family, but closer than regular friends, and naturally have some blood ties. When I was young, I liked to be active and live in groups. After middle age, I began to see through the warmth and warmth of human feelings, understood that relatives will not have any substantial impact on my life, and began to leave my limited energy to my family. Blandness is the greatest happiness. Visiting relatives will bring you endless exhaustion. People in middle age do not love to visit friends and relatives. The reason is very realistic, just these four points. When people reach middle age, they don't like to visit friends and relatives. The reason for this is because of the four reasons.
01. Mixed bad don't want to be mocked
Young self-esteem is very strong, can't stand other people say bad things about themselves. Middle-aged grew up in fact, I do not want to face their own less than others. And relatives dinner, others are talking, talking about business, talking about happy things. Only myself was still guarding an acre of land and not really accomplishing much. Even though no one is laughing at himself, every move reveals that he is inferior to others in every way. No one is willing to face this cruel reality, but it's still a dull and happy life, and in the eyes of others, it becomes a lack of progress. The worse it is, the less you want to visit your relatives. Even in middle age, you have a thick skin, have their own self-esteem, do not want to face the huge gap that is difficult to make up.
02, mixed well, do not want to be climbed on the bow
No one asked the poor in the city center, the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. Everyone has a bit of snobbery, those who do not help their own life of poor relatives gradually fade away, and those who help their own life of noble relatives in any case certainly do not want to give up the relationship. After one reaches middle age, one sees this reality factor more clearly. When you get along well, when you go to visit your relatives, you hear nothing but one or two things. They brag about their current lives, talk about the other person's difficulties, and express a desire to help.
If your MoMo refuses, surely they will say you have eyes higher than the roof. If you do agree, you're setting a precedent and there will be no peace ever again. It's not that you don't want to get along with your relatives, it's just that this kind of fake communication is just boring, and you don't enjoy being pleasing to others at all, but it's just so hard to chat on an equal footing.
03, weak character, do not love the crowd
I like to make a fuss when I was small. When I was in a crowd, I called the shots. Visiting family was an opportunity to show off. Yet in middle age, one realizes that socializing doesn't make sense at all. Visiting family is just superficial. If you have time to show each other off, you might as well be alone and enjoy the quiet time. Human beings are different in their joys and sorrows, you don't have to put yourself into their excitement, you can enjoy this good time by yourself.
04. I've been unhappy and resentful
Every family has a difficult time, how can we live together without conflict or stumbling? Especially between relatives who maintain a degree of estrangement but are related by blood, familiar and strange to each other. In such an awkward relationship, a little friction doesn't really break the war. They can only keep it in their hearts, remembering those new and old grudges without having to take any real action to retaliate. It is a response to each other. People in middle age, more open-minded, more open-minded. However, the former unhappiness and conflicts can not be easily resolved overnight. They can only choose not to leave this loved one, to give themselves a little more relaxed and happy living space.
This kind of relationship is impossible for a relative to cut off. From then on they owe each other nothing. It is also because of the embarrassment that they can not give up their worries, and people are more tired of visiting friends and relatives. Perhaps in the past, they disrupted each other's schedules, smiling on the surface even if they were unwelcome inside. It would have been better to live a good life then, simple and happy, not interested in gossip, not willing to get involved in strange conflicts. When people reach middle age and see through the nature of socializing, they don't bother themselves. Streamlining their social circle can also bring themselves a more relaxed atmosphere. Because they don't feel the need, they choose to forget.