01
Cousin's brother and sister-in-law have been divorced for three years. The two children, brother and sister, have suffered a lot. Since the divorce, the cousin's wife has been outside, the children have to live with their father, grandfather and grandmother.
In the beginning, the cousin's wife and brother-in-law went everywhere hand in hand, and when she was pregnant, the whole family was happy. Next, it is the trivial days of firewood, rice, oil and salt. The two people also more and more contradictions, deeper and deeper.
After the two were separated, the cousin ran a taxi to earn money. Sometimes it is inevitable that things do not go well, coupled with things at home, life is full of grievances.
Once the child made a mistake, the mood is not good, the fist is the reason; in a good mood, it is sweet words. The grandfather will not be able to teach the child, only believe in "under the stick out of filial piety son", grandmother will only a drowning.
The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of a long journey, and I was able to get to the bottom of it. The first time I saw this was when I was a child, and I was so happy that I was able to get to know my child, and I was so happy that I was able to get to know him.
The truth of the matter collapsed, people's abandonment, and finally all cruel back in the young heart.
It is said that the environment determines a person's character, and the environment comes from the family's careful creation. Without mom's home, is not complete home, also can not get complete love. How to let the child have a healthy personality?
When we give life to our children, we give them hope and promise, but we forget about it as the days go by. Just focusing on their own life, only thinking about their own feelings and desires, let the child innocently become a victim of love.
02
My student Xiaoyuan, not only his grades are a mess, but he is always in trouble in class.
His father works outside the home for a long time. His mother dresses up every day and either goes to play mahjong or square dancing.
The child's situation at school is never questioned. Very often, the clothes worn are dirty and only changed once every long time. Sometimes, Xiaoyuan made a mistake in class, communicate with parents, but instead to blame the teacher did not deal with the problem, delayed her time.
The class teacher went to his home to understand the situation, only to realize that even the child came home from school, but also had to go to the mahjong table to find her. The child did not eat, but also just send a few dollars, they go to buy snacks to solve. The child's physical health do not care, let alone supervise the child's homework.
The child's grades are getting worse and worse
The child is not an accessory to life, he has flesh and blood and feelings. Maybe we are forced to make a living, we can not accompany, but as a mother, should give the child more companionship and care.
For a child, the mother's love is indispensable, he will have a good heart, he will love you, will know how to love others.
03
Last week, a few teachers went to the home of a virtuous boy to take some information, I have nothing to do, also followed.
Before I arrived home, I heard that when he was five years old, his father died of a work-related injury, and soon his mother left him behind. The first thing I've heard is that I've been living with my grandparents since I was a kid.
Nearly there, I saw a thatched roof from afar, hanging diagonally on the hillside. Nearby, only slowly see the inside of the scene. There is a short stove crowded in the corner, the ground is pitted, a small table crooked there. Next door should be put bedding, I have stopped, can not bear to call the child feel embarrassed.
Two old people, from the field to hurry back, nearly seventy years of body, look at people call heartbreaking.
It should be that the two old men are limited in physical strength, and the simple canopy built is very short, and people have to bend over in it. There is no cover behind the stove, and it's hard to imagine how frightening it is when it's raining!
The vacant lot next to the house was leveled and the soil was piled up, which was said to be the policy of poverty alleviation, and they were going to build a house for them. Just before that, I pray it doesn't rain too much.
And look at this child, a sixth-grader, but only as tall as a fourth-grader. Listening to his class teacher said, he usually can pick tea leaves to earn some pocket money, but also can save a lot, before also saved more than a thousand dollars. But by the aunt's children to go along.
You see, children without parental care are always subject to a lot of bullying. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Dad's departure, and mom's farewell, I think as an outsider is very difficult to understand the grief he suffered.
Life has suffered a change, the child has lost his father, as a mother, how can you bear to deprive him of his mother's love? Let him bear the ups and downs of life alone.
04
The movie "Afternoon with Margaret **** degree", the main character Jie code, is his mother accidentally pregnant, before he had him. Growing up without a father and not knowing who his father is, he is not loved or cared for by his mother.
At school, he is ridiculed by his teachers and classmates because he is not smart enough. At home, his mother scolded him for being in the way.
All he heard were rude words. In Jemima's own words, there are 12 disrespectful words in 15 words, and language ruins everything.
He says to himself, "Adults should think twice before they have children." He said this because he grew up in a loveless environment and his mother's lack of attention to him in particular left a deep trauma in his heart.
When he grew up and did many jobs, he would be bullied and have his due wages deducted. There will also be complaints inside. Even he didn't dare to have a child, he felt he was too bad to be a father.
Then he meets Margaret, a beautiful old woman wrinkled like a dried plum, who has no children of her own, but slowly changes his destiny.
Margaret says, "Indifference is the worst thing in the world, especially a mother's indifference." But she also told Jemima: a child who grew up without a mother's love, there is more beauty in life, waiting for him to discover.
Later, his mother dies, leaving him a house that she never told him about. The first time he sensed his mother's love for him was after her death.
We have all grown up as children, and we should be better able to appreciate what we most desire as a child. These growing hearts need to be respected and loved, even if his arrival was an accident.
If I had a child, I would be prepared to never give up on loving her, no matter what the difficulties of the future!