A beauty means using the utmost love to understand you, love you, listen to you and not be attached to you. What is a confidante? Lifting the veil of confidante, the exact explanation is nothing more than a female confidant - a female friend who is independent in spirit, equal in soul, and able to achieve profound mutual understanding with you. It’s not just an emotional trash can where you just talk about your troubles, or a nest where you only want to return when you’ve been hurt in the outside world. It is difficult to find a same-sex confidant, and a confidante is naturally a treasure among treasures and needs to be maintained with heart and affection. In front of her, you don't have to be as aggressive as you do in front of friends of the same sex, let alone hypocrisy. Depending on your taste and needs, she can be kind, wise, sharp or even vulgar, but she must be considerate - able to understand what you want. ***Ming's thoughts, and giving appropriate advice and suggestions, can enlighten you and comfort you. Love is short-lived, but friendship is eternal. She can make you feel a deeper and more shocking long-lasting touch than erotic love. In marriage and love, she can be your pillow, just like Vubova is to Sartre, she is not only a lifelong partner, but also a confidant who understands and supports each other in career and academics. In marriage and career, she can be a true partner. Flying together, this kind of confidante is something you can only hope for. You can only let fate give you a gift, and you must know how to discover and learn to cherish it. In fact, sometimes, in some long or short stage of life, our spouse is always our best friend. How many people can we grow up with and understand us better than anyone else? It’s just that when you realize the value of this point, you often have to lose it completely. This is the reason why some people have better friendships with their original spouses even though their marriages have disintegrated. What we can do is to continue to communicate and give each other humane trust, care, consideration and care when the heat of love gradually fades away. Understand, a woman who can understand and care for herself in this way is certainly worthy of being called a confidante. In marriage, the shortcomings of each other are often exposed because of the distance, and the good desire to communicate with each other is lost. Because of this, the distance between the souls becomes farther and farther, and the possibility of knowing each other and being in the same spirit is lost. . Only a mature soul with rich experience can understand how to turn the closest person into a confidante. Every man probably always has such an emotion in his bones: he wants to have a confidante. This beauty is not his wife or his lover, but the one who lives in his spiritual realm. She may not necessarily be beautiful, but she must be demure, holy, and considerate. The spatial distance between them will not be too close. If they are too close to know each other, they will not be able to know each other. It is best for them to meet on a business trip, or through an accident, such as dialing the wrong number, sending the wrong email, or a random click on the Internet. He has his city and his home, and she has her city and her home, but this does not hinder their understanding. It was just a casual chat, and we ended up chatting all night without realizing it. We talked so much, were so speculative and full of interest. He was suddenly very moved. He had not been so moved for a long time. The mechanical daily life day after day had washed away all his passion, and he had unconsciously learned to be numb. But her appearance was like a touch of spring green, brightening his rusty eyes. He was looking at her across the computer screen, or across a city, holding the receiver in his hand. From a distance, his faint laughter was like the sound of nature, beautiful and indescribable, reaching straight to his soul. From then on, he had a concern in his heart, which was light and long-lasting, with a slightly sweet drunkenness. He hid her in his heart, in his spiritual home. Every once in a while, he would miss her very much and would ask her to chat or call her. He didn't have any other thoughts, he just wanted to talk to her. She understood everything about him, even his sighs and sadness. Men are sometimes very weak, and most of the time they don't want their wives to know about this weakness. It's not that he doesn't love his wife, it's completely two different things, one in reality and the other in spirit. Men hope that they will always be the image of a tree in reality--tall and majestic. She listened quietly, as thoughtfully as a cup of warm tea on a winter night. She would not probe to find out the cause of his sadness, nor would she laugh at his childishness. She doesn't have the tyranny of a wife or the greed of a lover. She is a quiet lily, exuding a faint fragrance in the middle of the night and entering a man's heart bit by bit. After the man confides sadly, she will be silent for a long time, and then say very softly, go to bed early, don't think too much, the sun will rise again tomorrow. The man suddenly felt very relaxed, as if a heavy burden had been lifted.
She would sometimes take the initiative to chat with him, chatting about bits and pieces of life and her loneliness in a foreign land. She was generally happy and emotional. Listening to it, he found it particularly interesting - she had been living in his dream. He really couldn't imagine what she looked like in real life. He chuckled because of her vulgarity. When she heard it, she would puff up her mouth and act coquettishly like a little woman - not artificial at all, very cute, and he liked it. More often than not, they would chat without hesitation. As soon as he said the first sentence, she would know the next sentence. They had a perfect tacit understanding, like a fairy tale. Occasionally, he would have an idea and ask her: Let's meet? Or make an appointment for a cup of tea? She asked smartly: Is it okay? Is it possible? He laughed, and so did she. Time passed slowly, and particles of dust danced in the sunshine. She saw the mop leaning against the wall, and a spider might be tirelessly building a web on it. Time to clean the house, or get some beauty sleep, she thought. All good things are beyond the distance. Once that distance is broken, all the fairy tales between them will also be shattered. Such a beauty is made of ice and snow. Once she is attracted by a man as a close friend, she will definitely control the distance very accurately, so that she will always be like a flower on a tree, prospering in the man's imagination, but it will never bloom. All. In men's dreams, they always hope to meet such a woman. Once they meet, their loneliness and weakness will have a place to store. A confidante is a man’s endless dream. When you are bedridden and fighting fiercely with pain, the person who holds your hand in panic and bursts into tears must be your wife. She is afraid of your pain, afraid of your death, and wishes she could hurt you and die for you. She cries and lingers, which makes you moved and makes you feel uneasy. A confidante doesn't cry. She just stands at the bedside, staring at you quietly, reading your heart, and then uses her mouth, eyes, and heart to tell you that she knows where you are hurting, and she understands you. I am willing to share my burden with you silently, so that your soul will no longer be lonely and make you happy. This shows the essential difference between the two: I cry because I love you; I don’t cry because I understand you. Some people say: As a man, if there is a woman in his life who loves you forever and a woman who understands you intimately, what more can he ask for? Yes, if you can find an unforgettable woman in your life, it is because Yue Lao loves you in every possible way. If you can meet a woman who knows your heart and knows everything, it is a fate cultivated by God for hundreds of years. And I, both I have met them all, and I was moved by my luck. I also lost my pious soul because of my luck, because love is selfish after all! Having you in my life has never bloomed as pure and faithful flowers as lilies, but has formed thousands of heart knots like lotus flowers. Although I can't go through the ups and downs of life with you, you are someone I can never let go of in this life. of concern. If you are happy, then I am happy too; if you are sad, then I must be depressed. Treat yourself well, this is a reminder that I can’t let go! ~ In life, you have been here, you have felt our heartbeats, we have lingered around each other, we have had sweet lingering, we have had long nights of loving talk to each other. You are destined to be the first and last time in my life. You once said: To like someone, you use your ears; to love someone, you use your eyes; when the person you like leaves you, just cover your ears, but when you think of the person you love, close your ears. Eyes will also shed tears! Tears are innocent and irritating to the soul, but they cannot melt the helplessness of reality! Walking away silently is not because my heart is gone, it is telling me that I have to learn to give up. Although it is often said that giving up is also a kind of beauty, at the moment I turned the corner, my tears betrayed me! Maybe time can erase your shadow, but it can’t erase the traces of my own mark on my heart! ———————— Rushing in the dark English: 1. close female friend 2. confidante [Edit this paragraph] Three realms of women being confidante Author: Yukiko The three realms of women being confidante The first realm is " In the Book of Songs, "The jianjia is green, the white dew is frost, the so-called beauty is on the side of the water", an opportunity that can be encountered but cannot be sought. Typically, the wife possesses the man, the lover shares the man, and the confidante shapes the man. Therefore, a confidante is another soul of a man. Sometimes she is close at hand, sometimes on the other side of the water, but you can feel her presence in your life; she may not agree with your outlook on life and values, but she absolutely respects you and respects you. Trust and know you. Therefore, a confidante is an unparalleled beauty.
Unfortunately, most women are just not smart enough to be a confidante, and the trap of men’s desire is just enough to prevent her from being a confidante. Therefore, having a confidante is really a man's extravagant dream and a woman's unwillingness. The second realm is the temptation of the Song Dynasty poem, "Leaving away in shame, leaning against the door and looking back, sniffing the green plums." In essence, people cannot resist temptation. For example, wives and lovers have no temptation - they turn it into a reality. The beauty of a confidante is that she can keep the temptation, and she becomes an active part of a man's life. Upward blue. When your wife gives you a headache and your lover makes you feel distressed, your confidante makes you feel no pain at all. Her whole body is filled with affinity and imagination, bringing you the joy of spring breeze; she is the one who "no matter where you are or what happens, there is someone who will pay attention to you and listen to you somewhere in this world." Very touched. Although she walked past you indifferently and only looked back occasionally, you couldn't help but follow her. It was really a temptation that you couldn't resist in this life. And temptation, isn't it the driving force that drives people forward? The third realm is the vice couplet. The first couplet "comes as soon as you call it", the second couplet "goes as soon as you wave it", and the horizontal line "all for your own good". This realm distinguishes a confidante from any other woman in any relationship: a wife is hard to come by—in fact, she is the one who wants you and you have to come; a lover is lingering—she still wants status. , how can you give up easily? Only a confidante is most willing to hand over the initiative to you. Because she is a friend, she is obsessed with grudges; and because she is a confidant, she can put all her starting points from the perspective of "thinking about you", in the spirit of understanding, support, and in the light of friendship. Bright and beautiful, she tolerates you and is intimate with you. She has really pushed the connotation of the word confidant to the pinnacle of perfection.