First of all, we have to know that matter determines consciousness, and consciousness is the reaction to matter. When you encounter some difficulties or unhappy things in your life, you will have bad emotions. These difficulties or unhappy things include but are not limited to the delivery of the resume no reply, the interview by the interviewer pua, the work of the leadership or customers a scolding, walk and fall, the object for a long time not to return the message, parents looking for you to ask for money, the child wants to drink milk in the middle of the night but you don't want to think ...... This time you need some methods to regulate the mind in time.
Note oh, some things do not just need to regulate the mind, for example, you were molested on the subway, then in addition to regulating the mind in addition to you have to call the police. This article is only about the part of the mind, the other aspects of please according to the actual situation of the corresponding adjustment. Here are some important methods.
1. Positive Suggestion
There is a very interesting video "I am really good" on B station, this is a typical positive suggestion. By doing aerobics + words of encouragement, together with the dopamine produced by exercise, you can give yourself a lot of self-confidence.
Similarly, look in the mirror every day and say to yourself go for it, you're the best! I'm going to get this client/boss today! I am the brightest pup on the street ......
The point of this method is to be sure to say it clearly and even out loud! Don't be afraid of embarrassment and don't feel like a douche when you speak such words. If you really can't get over this hurdle in your heart, say it alone in the bathroom in front of the mirror and in the toilet cubicle on your cell phone. You have to say it.
The advantage of this method is that it is fast and simple. The disadvantage is that it is not easy to last, similar to stimulants, can only manage a while. Suitable for use before the interview, so as to achieve a full state of mind.
2. Sunshine and sleep
Good health is the foundation of the revolution, and the probability is that a suffering cancer patient will be emotionally unstable. I won't go into the benefits of sleep, but if you have insomnia problems you can turn to your doctor.
About the sun, in addition to increasing vitamin D, sunlight has a role in regulating the body's rhythm of life as well as psychological aspects. Sun exposure can improve blood circulation, enhance the body's metabolism, and regulate the central nervous system, thus making the body feel relaxed and comfortable.
You are a human being, but you are also an animal by nature. Mammals need the sun, which is genetically determined. The pace of work and life in the modern world makes it difficult for many people in the workplace to receive enough sunlight, and staying up late is also very common. So please increase these two activities.
How to increase, brightly in the meal time, in the toilet time, in the drink of water to have a few minutes of sunshine. Work requires a combination of labor and rest, not bad for a few minutes of sunbathing. When people ask you what you're doing, just say you're looking at the sun, or that it's fine and go straight back to your workstation. The only real thing is to get the sun to shine. Some of your male coworkers can go smoke with honor, what's wrong with you getting some sun.
Sleep, do not play the phone before going to bed can enhance the quality of sleep.
3. Pouring out and accepting negative emotions
In Psi's group of friends, there are many people who would take Psi as a tree hole, chattering about their own miserable/sad experiences at length to Psi or sending them to Psi in voice bars. While on Psi's level he's being harassed, for the person sending the voice bars, it's a great way to relieve their anxiety.
You can find yourself a friend or family member to confide in. There are sadnesses that can't be talked about, and the ones that can be talked about are basically much better when they're done.
There are times when one has a negative emotion, and some people will not want to acknowledge it, or will be very repulsed by it and feel ashamed. Think back, when you were little, were you ever taught "No crying!" "If you cry again, one! Two! Three!" Snapped ......
There are actually parents who aren't very receptive to the negative emotions you felt as a child, and when you grow up, if you aren't nudged or trained to do so, more often than not you choose to repress them, which manifests itself in the form of sulking.
Many female groupies say that when they get angry, their chests hurt, and I thought at first that they were saying it as a joke, but it seems that a lot of girls have similar experiences, so it's clear that sulking does have a bad effect on the chest.
Face the negative emotions and accept it. The boss scolded you, in addition to saying that you will be corrected, you can also add a "I am so sad by you", if it is a girl, you can also sniffle a few times. This is a gender dividend, I am a boy it is difficult to have the opportunity to go to public tears, female group members do not be embarrassed. Friends, you are entitled to express sadness, disappointment.
Disappointment and sadness is no shame, life is not as good as nine out of ten things. The mountains are hard to cross, who is sad about the people who lost their way. Wang Bo, a great talent of the Tang Dynasty, directly expressed his depression at the banquet, in essence, there is no difference between you at a dinner party, said "I XX's fate is not good, did not get into the central civil service ah". Wang Bo can say it, but you can't? So friends, please accept your own negative emotions.
4. Positive thinking meditation
I've been practicing this method for a while now, and I personally think it's a useful one. But I can't really explain the science behind it. There are specific methods of meditation such as breathing, marking, visualization and so on.
There is a video on the B site called "Headspace Guide to Meditation S01". If you're willing to do so, just listen to it and practice, and stick with it for two or three months and you'll get results. This method is really just pure experience, so you can try it if you want. If you don't want to, it's okay if you think it's a scam, the videos are free anyway.
5. Self-rationalization of comfort
This method is still recommended to be used sparingly, but it has the advantage that it is fast-acting and always victorious (albeit a temporary or hypocritical victory).
Phantom once cited an example of a respondent on KnowledgeHub talking about how happy she was in her marriage, how well she balanced her career and family, but in reality she was probably bullied in real life by her mother-in-law, her children were rebellious, and her husband was ready to divorce her. ...... It's not hard to see that this actually these things are imagined or speculated by Yui, and unless one knows the respondent, it's impossible to seek confirmation in the short term, although I think Yui's prediction should be correct.
So how do you use it in real life. For example, if someone you don't like gets promoted, you can console yourself by saying that he must have gotten promoted because he found a connection/had a private deal, etc., which will make you feel better. The disadvantage of this method is that it is detached from reality, and can be used occasionally to avoid instant imbalance of mind.
6. Embrace life
To put it bluntly, it's a distraction.
There are many different forms of distraction, and you can get in touch with more real people and feel the fireworks of life.
You can go to Xuanwu Lake, see the big mom dancing, see the grandpa playing chess, see the runners in the night sweat, they and you rub shoulders the moment, you can feel the rhythm from the heart.