Many people feel that it is important for two people to get along with their three views. However, everyone's three views are actually different. If you want to get along well with each other, it is also important to accommodate each other's views.
What are the specific manifestations of the couple's three views
It is often said that two people with different opinions can not be together. If the three views do not match, the original love or admiration for each other will gradually decrease with the interaction and daily life, until it becomes a burden. Many people will ask, what is the three views? Simply put, three views are worldview, life view, and values. Many people still find it difficult to understand such an answer. I am not sure what exactly it refers to. I also don't know if the conflict between myself and my partner belongs to the three views. Eating different things, wearing different clothes, and having a different circle are not the so-called three views. The so-called three views are different, but they are different thoughts and perspectives of looking at things, so the way of treating things and dealing with things are also different. It is easy for two people to argue. When there are a lot of disputes, at least one party will feel that they can't communicate with the spirit of the other party, or they are not on the same level. So below, let's look at a few specific examples. Do you have differences:
If you can talk together. It's lucky to find someone to talk to. Some might say, isn't it easy to find someone to talk to? Two people who really get along talk together. They don't get tired of nonsense, and it's not awkward not to talk. One starts a conversation and the other continues. Young people always scoff at their elders' idea of "perfect match", but now they realize that the so-called perfect match doesn't necessarily have to be material. It means that two people have similar upbringing, similar outlook on life and values, and can walk side by side for similar goals. So, talking is really important.
Can you understand and tolerate each other's differences? Because of the family, growing up in different environments, two people in love will inevitably have different personalities, and even some shortcomings and deficiencies. Two people can only understand each other to be able to tolerate each other; tolerate each other to be able to harmonize. True love is not trying to transform each other, but patiently tolerate each other. Those who transform each other's behavior under the banner of love will only cause discomfort and resentment in the other party, which will inevitably affect their relationship over time.
Can you fit into each other's social circles? A person's social circle, in fact, reflects his character, thoughts, habits. Being with someone means accepting his habits and circle. If you don't have a good feeling about his friends and colleagues, then you are rejecting him, rejecting him. A life without intersections actually represents different values and outlooks on life. The longer these two people live, the less attractive they are to each other.
Do you agree with money spending? You like to eat western food, he likes to eat big stalls. This is not a disagreement about spending. He says you are so extravagant and incompatible; if you want to travel, he likes to stay at home. This is not a disagreement about consumption. He says traveling is tiring and a waste of money. This is incompatible; you say you want to buy fur coats, he likes casual clothes. This is not a disagreement about consumption. He says you need to wear such expensive clothes. This is not . A person's consumerism is a reflection of values. It's hard for two people who don't like each other to talk about spending money to live together.
Do you have the **** same plans and goals for the future? A truly harmonious couple, two people have the same goals, the inner pursuit is not too different. It's hard to imagine a couple with different inner thoughts going harmoniously to the end. Only by *** working together can we understand each other and problems can be solved. The most important thing in a relationship is not to be tired. It is important for couples to live in harmony. Two people together will have a kind feeling, will not feel lonely and have nothing to say. Only when they really fit together can they go into each other's hearts, respect each other, and understand each other. It will be able to withstand the storm. There is no natural couple in the world. Only cherish each other, find a partner with their own three views of the same, in order to go easy, go long!
Can a couple with three views not be long
Couples and partners who do not get along well are prone to disharmony. For example, you like to read, not only to learn, but also to maintain inner peace. He does not like to read, will feel that you are wasting time, or that you are pretending to be literary, you have time to read, it would be better to play games. For women, it's always natural to love beauty, so you might spend half an hour a day to take care of that face, and you'll buy high-end skincare products. And he always thinks you're wasting your money, thinking that women are naturally beautiful and just don't need maintenance. Besides, why waste so much money on cosmetics and skincare when they are old . Don't have too many conflicts. But there are plenty of examples of people who don't get along and can still be together. Whether you get along well now or not, as long as you can be a little more tolerant and accept each other's habits and opinions, you can go a long way. If you feel that the other person is too colorful for you to accept, then it is recommended that you consider whether to split up or merge as soon as possible, so that you don't end up realizing that you chose the wrong one and then regret it.
Couples three views do not match how to do
1. Accept the differences
Emotional experts show that when couples have three different views, it is very important to accept the differences. Because everyone's upbringing, origin and so on. Completely different, at the same time, couples receive very different education. So, it's normal for couples to have different points of view, as long as you accept the differences.
2. Reduce conflicts
For couples with different points of view, because they are different, we can choose to accept them gladly. It is important to note that you should never take simple things too seriously, because doing so will only involve you
them in situations you don't want to face, thus creating greater misunderstandings about the marriage.3. Tolerant treatment
What about a marriage with three views? In fact, husband and wife are two people who are going to be together for a long time, so you must learn to be patient and tolerant. Because more patience and tolerance for each other, is the best interpretation of love, but also let the other side feel that their irrationality is wrong.
Examples of couples who do not see eye to eyeYou have your own definition of fashion, your dress can not lead the fashion can also keep up with the trend, while he always feel that you wear strange all day long, not only do not look good sometimes a little ugly. Of course, you also feel that his dress, with really dirt to no help.
For women, love of beauty is always nature, so you maintain that face every day, may spend half an hour, will also buy high-end skin care products.
And he has always felt that you are wasting money, think women are born beautiful, is not to maintain ah, and then the old is not the same, why waste so much money to buy cosmetics and skin care products.
You prefer to eat good Chinese or Western food, because you think it is more healthy and nutritious, and also more hygienic.
And he loves to eat roadside stalls, and he also thinks that the ones you eat are not good at all, and they are expensive and waste money. Of course, you also feel that the roadside stalls really do not like to eat, unhealthy and unhygienic.
You like to listen to European and American pop music, he only likes to listen to the square dance pop music, such a difference, surely all mutual dislike.
You like to read, not only can you learn knowledge, but also allows you to maintain inner peace. He does not like to read, and will feel that you are wasting time, either that is, you are pretending to pretend to be literary, have this time to read, might as well play the game.
When someone else does you a favor, you feel you have to be grateful and show your appreciation. He felt that this kind of small things, do not need to be so, as if other people to help is supposed to, and sometimes also said, friends are used to help ah, can not help you help, this kind of friend why use.