There is a story about two children with different personalities, one is melancholy and introverted, the other is cheerful and extroverted. They are put in a sheepfold, the environment is very poor, and mosquitoes are flying. After a few hours, observe the reaction of the two children. An extrovert is like nothing, where he is happy and dancing. The introverted children seem very quiet and sit in the corner sullenly.
What I want to say is that there are many unsatisfactory and troublesome objective situations we are facing. Doesn't every family have a hard book to read? But your attitude towards things will determine your way out. For example, a conservative person may have the idea that once bitten, twice shy. Optimists, on the other hand, will be more depressed and brave, pay less attention to this failure and move on. Of course, I'm not talking about who is right or wrong, but about the difference between choice and self-experience.
Existence is reasonable, and introversion and extroversion have their own advantages. Introverts will have a deeper understanding of loneliness and love, and many thinkers are introverts. Extroverts have a wider world and a happier life.
In this sense, thought can decide fate.
Moreover, a person's thinking is constantly changing, which is a compromise of his own experience. The so-called "learn from a painful experience". People are always getting smarter and more complicated. Introversion and extroversion are relative, not absolute introversion and extroversion. Because of this, people's fate will also change.
Of course, the real direct influence of thought is actually behavior, that is, you accept a certain idea, and then you have a certain behavior, which really affects you. It just goes in one ear and out the other. Listening means not listening, watching means not watching, and what happened means not happening.
Experts say: Life is life, and luck is luck. "Fate" and "happiness" are two different things, which together constitute "fate". Some people think that a person's life is controlled by "fate". Some people are unlucky, some people are unlucky, and some people are both good and bad.
Can fate be controlled by people? In fact, the answer is yes, but this answer is not complete. Because although we can master our own path, change our mentality and influence the fate of ourselves and even those around us, others also influence you, that is, go with the flow. Essentially, we can't change anything, but we really have. What we have changed is just a drop in the ocean and fleeting.