Why do you say "a simple hen brings up her ducks and a simple grandmother brings up her grandchildren"?

Because a lot of people do grandmothers are very good, good intentions to help their daughters and sons-in-law to bring up the grandson, but other people do not necessarily appreciate, for example, the child's grandmother may say that they do not have a child to bring up, the loss of the joy of family, or that the grandmother did not bring the child to a good, to the children are spoiled; and grandson grew up, usually not much to care about the grandmother, but more filial piety to his grandparents. So in the eyes of many people, grandmothers bringing up their grandchildren becomes more trouble than it's worth, and is even considered by some to be ? They are even regarded by some people as "naive", like a simple mother raised in the countryside. s, as if the simple mother hen raised in the countryside, did not know that they should bring their own chickens, but brought up the ducklings.

Reality of the naive grandmother

Reality of the society there are many do grandmother is very caring, to their own daughters and grandchildren are very good, and even take the initiative to ask their daughters to send their grandchildren to their own home, their own personal to bring grandchildren, to alleviate the burden of their daughters. This makes it much easier for many grandmothers to live a leisurely life and go square dancing when they have time. Like this do grandmother, often will be some people think too naive, because the grandson is after all a foreigner, painstakingly brought up is someone else's child, in case of poor education, but also easy to be blamed by others. But a lot of grandmothers still don't care about these gossip, continue to love their grandchildren, do what they want to do.

In fact, the practice of these grandmothers does make it easy for conflicts to occur between relatives, the first is that the child's grandmother and grandfather will have a different idea, they will subconsciously feel that the grandmother took away their grandchildren, so that they are missing the joy of children and grandchildren around the knee, narrow-minded people may therefore out of words, leading to quarrels between the two families. After the old people start to quarrel, the couple may again defend their respective old people, thus leading to conflicts between husband and wife as well, and making an originally peaceful family become quarrelsome from time to time.

So it's easy for a grandmother to lose more than she gained by bringing up her grandchildren, and even paying for the children's meals, but not having the time to earn the money to pay for so much, and then getting what she gained from the other side of the family's lack of understanding. So sometimes with the grandchildren or a degree of good, do not always hog the grandchildren, but also to let the grandparents appropriate belt, so as to balance the family conflict, so that people have nothing to say.