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After the New Year, on the eve of returning to the sunshine from my hometown, I went to my mother's house again.
In the evening, my mother, my second sister, three women and I were in the kitchen, preparing a sumptuous dinner for this year-long separation, talking about children, work, the house and some episodes at my parents' house.
"Mom, why did yo-yo get divorced? Did she divorce someone else, or did they divorce her? " Before I went back to my hometown, I heard from my mother that Youyou was divorced, and I didn't ask why.
"Yo-yo's man has changed his mind," my mother said as she stood by the induction cooker cooking. "He met a woman and changed his mind. He doesn't want a yo-yo. "
"Well, what about the child? Youyou and her parents went to see him. " A few years ago, I met Youyou's son once, with double eyelids and red cheeks. He is stocky and lovely. Yo-yo's parents like this little grandson very much, and Yo-yo doesn't like him.
"I didn't go," mom continued. "What else did I go to see? I won't see you again. " Mother's tone is very light, as if she had been used to such a thing.
Yes! The divorce rate is rising now. I am a person who goes to school and works all the year round. Everyone knows whose daughter and son are divorced, divorced, divorced …
In our hometown, it is quite obvious that there are more men than women and it is difficult to get a wife. Even divorced women, if they have no children or bring a daughter, are hot items in the marriage market, and the bride price will not be less.
However, if you remarry with your son, it is another matter. Few people are willing to accept the remarriage of the woman with her son, because it will cost too much money to marry him in the future, and the fruits of his life will be put in …
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"Divorce, the most affected is the child!" I can't help sighing when I think of Yo-Yo's cute appearance and what happened to his parents after their divorce.
"You can only blame yo-yo. When the child grows up, it should be his father. "
Mom said that Youyou's father was very angry when he learned that his son-in-law cheated his wife. He said to him, "I didn't even give you money to buy a car or a house." Are you worthy of me? "
Yo-yo's father has been making money in sports cars all year, which is very hard. In addition, Youyou has a younger brother who is talking about marriage and needs a lot of money.
"Well, I don't want it after all the money is spent." Yo-yo's father understood that it was meaningless to continue to pester love rat and didn't want to tear it too ugly.
At present, Yo-Yo has finished the divorce procedure with love rat. From then on, the two "cross the bridge and cross the bridge", no longer have a dime relationship, and no longer contact.
"You all have to watch carefully," my gentle and honest mother said to my second sister and me earnestly. "Yo-yo man used to be so good to yo-yo. I can't wait to hold her in my hands. After only a few years, my heart has changed. People, no one knows what will become in the future. "
Oh, by the way, I forgot to mention that Yo-Yo's ex-husband went to prison for fraud after marriage. In the meantime, Yo-Yo's father and Yo-Yo's elderly grandfather tried to get the son-in-law and granddaughter out of prison as soon as possible. Yo-yo doesn't think about tea and rice, and looks forward to going home day and night.
Unexpectedly, what this man thought after he got out of prison was not to compensate for the pay and wait of Youyou, but to repay the good for the cheating, cheating, cheating …
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"All I have to do is stare at it," sighed the second sister. "This happened in our factory."
According to the second sister, she has a colleague. In the years after marriage, her husband treated her like a first love, and even his wife took the initiative to help her with such a small thing as washing her hair every day.
Who would have thought that this "warm man" who looks honest to outsiders will one day become another face.
He is addicted to gambling and has lost hundreds of thousands of dollars. Besides, he met a woman while gambling, and she soon cheated.
The second sister said that because both husband and wife knew the bank card password, the man lost all his money at once.
"That woman is so poor, rich and occupied." After listening to this story, I was filled with emotion.
"Yes, it is." The second sister said, "My colleague is heartbroken."
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Think again about the story of Gao Jie.
More than ten years ago, 23-year-old Gao Jie fell in love with a foreign man. He is handsome and sweet-spoken, which fascinates Gao Jie.
Soon, Gao Jie fell in love with her and became pregnant.
"When I was pregnant, I thought I should get married," Gao Jie told me many years later. "My parents didn't recognize my ex-husband at all, but I was young and ignorant, and I was carried away by love, so I looked at each other and ignored them."
In this way, Gao Jie decisively married a foreign man without a car or a house.
As the saying goes, "but not as people who have been poor together know."
After marriage, Gao Jie lived in a humble rental house with a foreign man. If it weren't for her mother's care and help, I don't know how painful she would be during pregnancy.
"I didn't expect him to derail before he gave birth." Gao Jie said that compared with material poverty, her ex-husband's cheating left her heartbroken and desperate.
When the child was one year old, Gao Jie divorced his father without saying anything. After the divorce, she gave her daughter to her mother during the day and went out to work to earn money. Recalling those years, Gao Jie still has a lingering fear. "Thanks to my mother, otherwise I really don't know how to survive."
Later, Gao Jie met her current husband, a good man who is good at making money and loves her and her children.
Now, she has lived a quiet life.
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Talking about today's happy life, Gao Jie told me, "We must collect money from our family. Who knows what will happen to each other in the future."
She also said, "When my ex-husband and I divorced, hundreds of dollars in the drawer disappeared. Just the two of us, who else can do it! "
At first, my husband and I both managed our own finances. We have a clear division of labor. I am responsible for the daily expenses at home, and he is responsible for paying the mortgage. We just check the accounts at the end of the month, know where the money is spent, know how much money is saved in the bank card, and work hard for the down payment of the second house in a few years.
After reading a series of marriage stories of "people and money are empty", I changed it appropriately: my husband must give me 5 thousand yuan every month.
I made enough money to be financially independent. I didn't need to spend the money my husband called me, so I saved it all.
I am thinking that if he is kind to me, the money will be saved to buy a second house. If he betrays his marriage, I will divorce him and run away with the children with the money.
I love my husband, respect him, support him, give him a little freedom, and never want to accept all his money.
But I also have my pride: this relationship should be a long-term relationship. If you are heartless, I will never accept a bloody marriage of "two people for one money".