On the one hand, solving cognitive problems:
1, we should look at this phenomenon correctly and don't worry too much. No matter how close the two generations are, the generation gap is caused by the differences of people's life experiences and living environment in different times, which can be said to be the influence and brand of the times. Only by acknowledging its existence can we have a better response.
2. Understand and respect children. Everyone needs to be respected. With the growth of children, there will be three obvious rebellious periods in life: the first time is about two years old, and self-awareness begins to become stronger, and it will change from the previous "little darling" to a helpless "little devil"; The second time was at the age of 7-9. After children enter primary school, the main social activities are no longer family and neighbors, but classmates and teachers at school. They will feel that they are small adults, can make their own decisions, and will try their best to get rid of their parents' control, so they will like to "sing the opposite" with adults everywhere; The third time is the familiar adolescence. When a child feels that his parents understand and respect him, his heart will be full of warmth and relaxation, and there will be no feeling of doubt and loneliness. Therefore, understanding and respecting children is an effective way to close the psychological distance between parents and children, which can not only effectively narrow the generation gap, but also enhance the feelings between parents and children.
3. Give children time and space to grow up. As parents, we didn't grow up in one day. Children's growth and mental maturity require both time and space to practice and explore. Parents can't do everything for their children. Encourage him to fulfill his wishes through his own efforts, which will help children develop self-confidence and social skills.
On the other hand, we must master the solution:
1, equal and frank communication. In the process of communication, parents should try to avoid condescending attitude and don't always blame. Both sides should be honest, tell each other what they really think, and let each other feel your trust in him. In addition, when parents guide and educate their children, their words should be full of care and goodwill, which can greatly reduce the resistance of children because of their parents' "improper words".
2. Discuss more and talk less. Too much nagging from parents can easily arouse children's disgust. Sometimes, as parents, we can only say three words all day long: children get up in the morning, "get up quickly, it's time, hurry up"; When the child leaves home, "pay attention to the class, don't make small moves, and go home early after school"; When the children came back from school, they asked as soon as they met, "How many points did you get in the exam? How are you doing at school? " This is the so-called "correct nonsense" and "invalid command", which makes children very disgusted. Some children say that our ears are calluses and we don't want to communicate with our parents at all.
3. If there is really no way to communicate, temporarily "avoid". As the saying goes: "Birds of a feather flock together, people are divided into groups." Young people like to play with young people, and old people dance square dance with old people. Two generations, with different preferences, cannot be unified, so they will temporarily avoid confrontation. You can communicate indirectly through words, such as letters. As long as there are good thoughts, children will certainly understand the pains of their parents. This is also a helpless move, much better than rigid, "Mars hit the earth".