Life is a very difficult path. Dreams, desires, and feelings are like a heavy backpack that leaves you breathless. Everyone's life belongs to them. Every minute and every second is precious. Everyone wants to live his or her life the way he or she wants and wants to be recognized by more people. But, in order to get the approval of others, one would unknowingly please others in the hope of becoming warm in front of them. However, after doing everything, they don't get anything in return, not even a "thank you". After being exhausted, I always know that the more I try to please others, the more vulnerable I am. Yishu said, "In a few short decades, the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others." In the future, "selfish" people learn to treat themselves well and value themselves. Being a people pleaser or carrying too much can lead to a life of suffering and distort one's character. Be yourself, be good to yourself, and live your life so that it will not be in vain.
Most of the people in "Ode to Joy" own plans for their futures, Fan Shengmei was squeezed by her parents. She gave her brother money to buy a house and pay off the mortgage, and had to pay for her nephew to go to school herself to cover the family's living expenses. Inside she longs for her family's approval and uses this method to gain her mother's affirmation. But even then, no one would appreciate it. On the contrary, she did not consider it important to be married or not, to be able to find a partner or not and to be happy in life. She spent her life supporting the family. When Fan Shengmei can't afford it, her brother is still causing trouble, Fan Shengmei and Wang Bochuan break up, and Fan Shengmei only realizes that they are both adults and therefore she has no obligation to support them. Only by resisting can she fully escape the sea of suffering, find her true self, and have a life of her own.
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When she scolds her brother, she tells him not to pay any more. If there's a lawsuit, after fighting for a new life for herself, she feels a long overdue peace of mind and finds the beauty in life. Plan ahead and learn to plan for yourself as you move through life. You should be friendly, but there must be a bottom line and be reasonable. Don't blindly and unprincipledly be kind and make yourself a "fool" in the eyes of others, exploiting and plundering again and again, but not recovering sincere feelings. The more you give, the more you feel cheap and despised. It is better to plan early and get yourself a good life so that you can make your own choices and control the overall situation. Being a little bit more "selfish" in your lifestyle is mostly about planning for your future in order to make life easier.
"Selfish" takes care of its own body a little bit, in "Hidden Corners", Chen Guansheng, a retiring policeman, works hard he has no money in his life and does not belong to his own time, even though his own family can not be taken care of, but he wants to fulfill his mission and become a hero. He realizes that she was very energetic as a child and feels that she has a powerful ability to change the world. But after all, when he retired, he suddenly let go and came home to himself and did well. He will attend square dances with his wife and take care of the children at home. He doesn't want to worry about things that don't concern him; he just wants to spend his later years in peace and take care of his body. However, when you are older, please take care of your body. Even if you are young, don't underestimate your health.
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In the future, life will be a little more "selfish", to take care of their own bodies, health is their own. Don't try too hard, let alone waste your body. It's better to protect yourself from the most valuable thing you have than to have unmet needs. You can only have everything else if you have a healthy body. If you want to live a quality life then the most important thing is to stay healthy, eat and sleep well. Health is the most valuable asset in life. Don't let anything jeopardize your health. Be "selfish" and take care of your body. If you neglect your own body, no one else will take your health seriously.
Almost every child in real life is stronger, healthier, more responsible, dreamer, and more opinionated than the one their parents had in mind. Though there are those who seek death because of their parents' divorce or a certain decision, this child must have grown up in the midst of being over-protected and over-scared by their parents. There are many parents who protect their children by scaring them and feeding them all kinds of negative news without filtering; the more insecure the child is, the less likely they are to grow up and the easier they are to be controlled. Through this method, parents not only find a pedestal for their own cowardice and failure, but also dress up their cowardice and failure as great love, so that the child will worship this.
"Selfishness" takes into account one's own emotions. Zhou said, "Don't care too much about certain people; the more you care, the more humble you will be." Many men try desperately to succeed in their careers by inviting those who can help them in their endeavors. To accumulate their contacts, please to whisper and sigh, and can only endure aggravation so that they fall into a state of frustration. Many women are desperate for their mother-in-law for their husband for the sake of family and marital happiness, but they forget what kind of life they want, and they are trampled on their dignity and live again, and it is painful to be lived by others again. Life is not about lowering your stance and winning the life you want. Live a life of selfishness and take your emotions into account, but you can gain a sense of transparency.
Take it easy on yourself, don't rely on, don't pander to, clamor and inextricably linked to each other and still hold on, don't care about the gains and losses, such a person can be considered as a friend. To live, please live "selfish" a little, please yourself. As a person, you have to pay attention to your emotions. Career development is slower, so you can walk more steadily and calmly. Having a good mood and rhythm that suits you will get twice the results with half the effort. Be "selfish" and you will find that happiness is not hard to find. You won't be able to achieve a lot at once, or get too much money, but you can have peace of mind, feel comfortable in your life, and be happier.