It seems that there is not a book or an expert to make a clear definition of "autonomous sleep"; the common perception is that there is no need for milk, no need to hold sleep, the adult pat a pat or even do not rely on the adult, the child plays a little bit of their own to go to sleep. In short, it is: their own sleep own sleep.
Before C's 100th day, I had to stare at her for a long time or gently rub her hands and feet to determine if she was really asleep; now, even with the light on, I just have to listen to her breathing to know that she's asleep, or just lying down. There's no way around it, it's a basic function of an old mother honed by life.
The child's sleep is divided into Rapid Eye Movement (REM) and Non-Rapid Eye Movement (NREM)
1, Rapid Eye Movement (REM) : Even with eyes closed, you can see the eyeballs rotating under the eyelids, and the child will startle jumping, twitching, and the face will show expressions: for example, smiles, cries, and even ghost faces, and sudden waving of arms and legs. Shortness of breath. The amazing thing is that although the small movements, but they are really in the sleep state , so it is also called active sleep (active sleep, AS)
2, non-rapid eye movement (NREM): with the depth of the sleep state, the children's movements are less and less, the breathing slows down and tends to stabilize, very, very quiet, quiet sleep (quiescent), quiet sleep (quiescent), the child's eyes will not be able to sleep. Quiet sleep (quiet sleep, QS) comes, this time they are really sleeping. They're really asleep. They're really asleep.
The sleep patterns of babies of different ages are slightly different
1. Newborn babies need to sleep nearly 16 hours a day or more, divided into 3-4 segments, each of which consists of REM and non-REM sleep, in the following order: drowsiness, REM, light sleep, and deep sleep. eye movement, light sleep, deep sleep, and deep sleep;
2. The pattern changes after 2-3 months: they go through a non-REM period and then a REM period; the REM periods get shorter and shorter and sleep becomes quieter and quieter as the months go by.
Understanding the sleep patterns of children, you know that children sleep differently than adults,
Due to the incomplete development of the child's nervous system, they do have a lot of movement during sleep, and also make sounds and even make facial expressions, this is all too normal. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you're doing, and that you're doing it in a way that's not too difficult for you. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of how the child will be treated and how he or she will be treated in the future.
(a) The most common and controversial method: the cry immunization method
When the child shows signs of sleep: such as rubbing her eyes, yawning, and looking dull, she can be soothed, then put the child to bed, and let her sleep on her own, while making sure she is safe. If the child cries at this time, you can let go and give her a time limit of up to one hour, and when she is tired of crying, she will naturally fall asleep. This practice is also conducive to the child waking up at night even without the help of the parents can pick up their own sleep.
(2) A relatively gentle approach: the cry control method
From the Faber Sleep Book, the same approach puts the awake child in the crib after a sleep signal, then leaves the room to check on the child at progressive intervals and reassure him/her,
The takeaway from the two approaches is:
The first is to put the awake child in the crib and then leave the room to check on him/her.
Either method invariably mentions two basic prerequisites for bedtime: the establishment of a regular routine and a bedtime ritual.
EASY: A routine known to many new parents as Eat, Play, Sleep and You.
The EASY model suggests that babies before 4 months of age can adopt a cyclical pattern of 3 hours a cycle, extending to 4 hours over 4 months, and repeating this over and over again to form a routine.
Of course, the length of the cycle is not completely fixed, and families can adjust it according to the actual situation of their children, but at least it should not be shorter than two hours, otherwise it is easy to cause overfeeding.
The advantage of a regular routine is that you can anticipate your child's needs in a timely manner, and not wait until your child is hungry or sleepy before feeding him/her to sleep; you can help your child to establish a stable biological clock, so that he/she has a clear idea of what he/she wants to do and when he/she wants to do it, which is not only for the parents, but for the child too. The first thing you need to do is to get the child to sleep on his own.
Warm bedtime rituals: C now has a set of bedtime rituals of her own: choosing a picture book, changing the sleeping bag, telling a story, turning off the light, nagging, and going to sleep. Basically, from the time she agrees to choose a picture book into the room, the process of putting to sleep is completed a large part, if she refuses to go to sleep, she must refuse to choose a book, this time I will discuss with her, set a time, the time is up and then start.
Bedtime rituals are not set in stone, the beginning is to wash white, rub incense, change the sleeping bag, drink milk, storytelling to sleep, in the middle of the day, as she grows up a little bit, the activities have changed, the bedtime program is also adjusting. But singing, dancing, playing on the trampoline or too strenuous activities must not have, and change the sleeping bag, storytelling is certainly not change.
The role of bedtime rituals is to create sleep associations: linking events, objects, and sleep, and giving the child the mental suggestion that after I change the sleeping bag, it's time to go to sleep;
and at the same time calming the child's bedtime excitement, soothing his or her mood, and soothing and relaxing him or her.
It has been proved that the appropriate use of props, it is indeed easier than single-handedly coaxed to sleep more successful, after all, the RMB players at this time will still highlight certain advantages.
(A) Sleeping bag
This is the only thing that C has worn since she was born. The sleeping bag is so practical that I could talk about it all day and night.
C in different periods of time to wear a different sleeping bag: the newborn is definitely swaddling class "anti-jumping sleeping bag", you know, for newborns, they sleep on the way to the "biggest enemy" is the body limbs of the sudden shaking: sleep well, suddenly jumped himself awake! The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you're doing and how you're doing it.
The advantage of the anti-jumping sleeping bag is that it "wraps the child around" and lets him sleep soundly. Of course, if you have a swaddling skills, you can also use the quilt to wrap the child, but must always remember to tighten the bottom loose, binding the upper limbs on the good, the lower limbs must be spacious enough to not affect the child's stirrups.
There is also this "surrender style", the same principle, can provide elasticity of the package feeling, constraints on the child's range of motion, but not completely hinder his activities.
Until now, C is also wearing a sleeping bag to sleep, why? The first thing I've noticed is that I don't have to worry about the kids' stomachs or their quilts. After all, no kid can stay under a quilt all night, so it's better to wear them on your body.
(2) Soothing toys
Also includes soothing towels, which help the child to relax before going to sleep, and build a sleep scene to evoke his "conditioned reflexes" to sleep.
C one or two months I prepared for her beans blanket and soothing towel, but also their own special close to the use of a period of time, the purpose is to hope that stained with the "smell of motherhood", the purpose is to let her have a familiar feeling, to enhance her sense of security.
The result is that the Cs don't seem to be buying into the idea, and they're just being treated like ordinary covers and toys, which is a disappointment to their mother.
I once thought that the matter of relying on toys to appease the C sister completely failed to materialize, but the result was unexpected, just a few weeks in the kindergarten, suddenly on a whim to bring their own "little bouncy" to the kindergarten, said to eat, play, sleep with, sleep when the embrace of the extraordinarily tight.
(C) sound and light toys: soothing seahorses and nightlights
Estimated that every newborn baby has a soothing seahorse. Characterized by a soft light and sound, more simulated amniotic fluid gurgling sound, it is said that the sound can make the newborn feel in the mother's womb, so extra security, sleep extra sweet.
But in my experience, C is not at all a fan of it. The size of the soothing seahorse and the hardness of it are too big for a newborn, and it's definitely not a good idea to snuggle up, and the light not only doesn't soothe, but affects the child's sleep.
Also I passed on the night light, whether it is a single color or can change colors, I do not recommend. I wonder if it has any effect on your child's visual and neurological development?
Seriously, the quality of the child's sleep is directly related to the happiness index of the old mother, the more they sleep, the happier the old mothers. However, the ability to sleep on your own is not entirely dependent on the "training" to get, regular routine, the atmosphere of the creation of a very important, everything is done, waiting for the dolls quietly fall asleep, good dream, yo ~ ~
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