As the saying goes, an ancient family is a treasure. In reality, there are many daughters-in-law of harsh old people, which is really shameful. A colleague's son is a teenager and has been taken good care of by his in-laws. Although she is in college and doesn't need to do scientific research, she is the head of the security department. She once proudly said that no matter what kind of food and clothes grandparents prepared for their children, she didn't care. Will they hurt their grandchildren? If you don't like them, watch them less and treat them as free nannies. She dresses up every day, invests heavily in skin care products, cosmetics and brand-name fashion, and laughs that when she was young, people said she looked like Brigitte Lin. Such a self-centered person, can you expect her to be filial to the elderly and thrifty in raising children?
There is also a classmate, whose in-laws are all landless peasants in the suburbs, and the social security is only 1000 yuan per month. The old man is very diligent and grows vegetables at the gate of her community. In order to save money, even the bus is reluctant to take it. Classmates and children are left to the care of the elderly as soon as they are born. In winter, the old man often helps her wash the snow-white down jacket and cotton-padded jacket. It's really not easy. This is the kind of daughter-in-law who is not sensible, tolerant and generous, and only cares about her own life. No matter how good grandparents take care of their grandchildren and do housework, they can't get a good word from them If something goes wrong carelessly, it will definitely make the whole house restless.
Another situation is that the daughter-in-law is very demanding of her grandparents. Nowadays, with the network, even young parents in rural areas attach great importance to their children's learning. Although it is hard for grandparents to take care of their children, they can only take care of their grandchildren in the traditional way because of family environment, cultural background and geographical factors. In the view of parents who advocate scientific feeding and demand the cultivation of children's minds, there must be many conflicts between cultural customs and cultivation concepts.
In this case, I think the rights and responsibilities should be clear. Old people do their own housework well, and their daily diet is arranged by their daughter-in-law, so they can act according to the plan. As for children's education, it is left to the next generation to complete. Because everyone's goal is the same, that is, to cultivate a qualified, preferably excellent child.
It is undeniable that some old people have some bad habits and are not very enthusiastic and responsible for taking care of their children. My friend's mother-in-law likes chatting at home very much. At noon, my friend takes a lunch break and my mother-in-law takes care of the children. As a result, I forgot to talk, and my grandson ran away and couldn't find it. Fortunately, it is a university campus, and the security guard is responsible. Other old people like to dance square dance, and they accompany their partners every time they take their children out. Friends tell us that many old people are actually more playful, which is human nature. They sometimes take care of their children as toys and have no consciousness at all. I have also seen old people take their children to the mahjong room in the community. Imagine, in such an environment, what will happen to children?
Children are always the responsibility of parents, and the elderly only play a helping and auxiliary role, and the relationship must not be reversed. Old people should also learn to let go. Only when their parents take it seriously can they understand the hardships of the elderly.