Abortion was in junior high school, and one day she came to me and complained to me. She said that facing her parents, she was very upset. Her parents will often tell her that if you look at someone's child, he (she) is much better than you. If only you could learn from others. But when Xiaoyue finally caught up with the child mentioned by her parents, I felt that my parents could always affirm and praise themselves.
However, her parents didn't seem particularly happy and praised abortion. Instead, they compare abortion with another better child. In this way, abortion was constantly compared and urged by her parents, and she studied and lived in constant distress and pain.
Abortion is the kind of child that others look smarter, but in fact, abortion is often depressed and the needs are often not met. She hopes to get her parents' affirmation through actions, so that parents can see more and pay more attention to themselves. But what parents see is more about her shortcomings and the direction of her efforts.
Parents often turn a blind eye to the progress and efforts of abortion, or just take it lightly, and then there are more and more strict requirements. Maybe we have all had the experience of abortion, and we will always be compared with other children by our parents.
In fact, in the minds of some parents, comparing their children with other families is to let their children set a good goal and direction for themselves by comparing with other excellent children. Children in other people's homes are more likely to bear the power of example.
This is a good starting point, but parents always ignore something in the process of implementation, which leads to a certain gap between children and parents. When comparing other people's children, parents may want to consider their practices.