Can not be forced, the strong melon is not sweet, but the poor world of parents, always for the sake of the child's future, the marriage of the sake of all around to arrange for you to meet, but you have not found that the general parents of the elders introduced the success rate of the blind date is quite low, and even a lot of people are very disgusted with their introduction, we say that this is why it is?
Netizen 1 point of view:
Parents introduced also slightly more reliable, but subject to most of the young people now more than the starting point of their parents' generation, parents around the circle of friends of the introduction of the segment of their own really can not see.
These are the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in a position to do something like this. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get a good look at it, but I'm sure I'll be able to.
Seven aunts: Xiao A ah, to introduce you to a boy, young man look spirit, height is also good, is preparing to take the civil service, parents to help him look at the house and car.
Facts: There is no house, no car, no job, no three boys, wearing air-cushioned shoes may not be more than 1.7 meters tall, looks often "very general".
You bite the bullet and end the face, do not agree, not long to help the introduction of the seven aunts and aunts will be sure to mention this on one occasion, on the one hand, to recognize their own in order to the younger generation of the worry, on the other hand, and the elders together with the girl said that this girl more than know how to do, and so on.
Many elders introduced, and even simply have not seen this person, a time in the square dance, walk, meet people of the same age when the market, talking about relatives and children have not seen the face of the children dare to introduce, but also dare to threaten to know the roots of the bottom. Anyway, there is no cost, not the child's parents can brag about how much they care, the whole favor, in case the blind cat touched the dead rat into a can also collect a "thank you matchmaker fee" to earn a sum of money, is not it beautiful?
I am not a dating agency successfully introduced into 57 pairs, many people are curious how to become so many? The fact is that it's all about the blood and tears.
What is the matchmaker's way of opening?
1, recognize people. The use of years of matchmaking experience to help men and women to see, understand their family situation, work situation, personal situation, and then match them suitable for a playful object, can't a bronze let me find a king for you, right? The two sides of all the circumstances, I will repeatedly verify, into not one thing, at least can not be a slag.
2, summarize. There are dozens of people reading this reply, must be able to recall that I help you night all-night communication call, send microblogging scenarios, will not forget, a party to quarrel with a misunderstanding of how I in the middle of the coordination and good offices of the mold, as a matchmaker, the level of this point are not, is not qualified.
3, surrounded. The ancients said "like-mindedness", "different ways, not for each other". Own this matchmaker is a kind of person, in order to attract what kind of men and women, matchmaker if not reliable, you dare to let him introduce the object? The matchmaker is bound to be an industry leader, benchmark model, so that we can let the good people trust themselves, dare to tell their own situation one by one, even if they did not help to introduce the success of the least to protect people's privacy, do not let down people's trust, to help people introduced to the object of fate is not a grudge. I received thousands of resumes, which friend's information was exposed? Which one of my friends because of my introduction to the life affected? You can hit me in the face directly in the comments section.
This comparison, the elders introduced the object of low success rate is mainly due to the strength does not allow, and did not go to the heart, just rushed to the duck on the shelves only.
Netizen 2 point of view:
To illustrate with an example, I just refused a blind date today, that is, the aunt introduced, the girl is quite good, cheerful and gentle, stable work, family rich, but from the first day of the introduction of me, I immediately felt the pressure.
First of all, my aunt took my phone as a pager and called me 8 times a day to ask about the progress of the light, and even to interrogate me about the content of the chat, to help me make a strict plan, in the eyes of the elders, I am a fool in love, in fact, my experience in the relationship, although not much, but by no means to be an emotional idiot. They feed me all day long with all kinds of negative examples, who's the kid who didn't open the door for the girl on the date, didn't positively check out the bill, and spoke rudely. I actually understand all of this, but they still think I'm a petty, childish, vulgar person, and that's something that would upset anyone.
Secondly, my aunt and her mother's best friend is a good friend, I and her matchmaking process is simply a great talking point for the mothers, I haven't met with her, about our things on almost all the relatives of the two families know, and they are all in the analysis of who did a good job and who did a bad job, of course, the pressure is mainly on my head. The whole process of dating was like a live broadcast, and I had no privacy at all.
Lastly, and most importantly, elders like to make decisions for you. The elders introduced to you, that they are very satisfied, if you have other ideas, surely will count you down, said you are too picky, even if you fall in love, still not less than the elders involved, they will be from your relationship to get married to the big and small things to intervene, and even after the marriage of your life, there will be their involvement, because they feel that this is the case that they make it possible, so they have the right and the obligation to continue to Follow up, and even continue to make decisions for you, this is absolutely unacceptable to me, no matter how good the other conditions, married life is after all a matter of two people, if you have to be in charge of your life by someone else, that marriage and what freedom it?
Netizen 3 point of view:
Parents and elders introduced a characteristic, compromised the first step, we have to compromise the second step, the third step.
Dating was originally a low success rate, but in the parents it was a high success rate. The standards are different from the beginning. In the parents' case, unless there are some principle problems, such as the family is too poor, too short-tempered, the other can not be the reason for rejection. Looks, dislike, and all that don't count.
And don't believe all the "enlightened" talk from your parents before the blind date:
"You're on your own, we're not interfering."
"We're not going to interfere."
"We're going to see you first, and we're going to talk about it first."
"How can you say no so quickly if you meet a few more times and spend more time together?"
"It's almost enough, what else do you want to find? You don't even look at your own conditions!"
So if your parents aren't very open-minded, don't go. If you want to take your chances, talk to your parents and the introducer beforehand, and don't be angry if you don't get it.
Netizen 4 point of view:
Upstairs there is a certain reason, but I personally feel that the elders are too anxious, if it is introduced by friends, usually just pull the line, and then let you develop, no heart pressure. But parents introduced, both parents stared every day to ask, if you don't feel it, they will say feelings can be cultivated well, the first contact contact look, if you say that the first contact to understand look, they will go around to say that you talk about friends, if you say that the impression of the good they urge you to get married, they will always be one step ahead of the other, after all, love at first sight, less, the fast pace of the general people uncomfortable! ...
Netizen5 Opinion:
As an example of successful blind dates introduced by parents and elders, I feel that the success rate of blind dates introduced by friends and colleagues of the same generation is not high.
The key point is not who introduces you, but what is the mentality of the person who introduces you. The first step in the process is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what is going on in your life and how it will affect you. The fact is that the most important thing is that you have to be able to get the best out of your life, and you have to be able to get the best out of your life, and you have to be able to get the best out of your life, and you have to be able to get the best out of your life, and you have to be able to get the best out of your life.
If you have to say that it's hard for your parents to introduce you to each other,
In addition to the fact that most people don't live in the same city as their parents,
Either your parents have a more casual attitude and feel that different genders of single people live up to the standards of their children's introductions,
Or else your parents are overly concerned about the introduction of your children,
This is because you are not the only one who is interested in your children's lives and you are not the only one who is interested in your family. orientation; and then there is the possibility that parents and elders of the child in the dating market positioning and strengths and weaknesses completely ignored, closed their eyes to find according to their own hearts and minds do not take into account the child's ideas, such as good economic conditions, have the establishment, know the roots of the bottom of the good to pin down the generalization of these "advantages" hard to pressure the child with them to get along with them completely ignored! The two sides do not have any **** the same language can not produce feelings of reality.
The way to recognize this kind of matchmaking determines whether the two sides know each other well or not, and whether the relationship is good or bad depends to a certain extent on the introducer. If the introducer is familiar with the situation and has a clear mind, no matter if the introducer is a senior or a junior, you can get along well. After all, with the free love than, dating this way the advantage lies in each other can understand each other in advance part of the situation is not too good to ask, such as income, family conditions, parents work, personal work ability and even parents and personal conduct, in the recognition of the vulgar part of the understanding, if both sides accept each other's "hardware", if the "hardware", the "hardware", the "hardware", the "hardware", the "hardware", the "hardware", the "hardware", the "hardware", the "hardware", the "hardware". The first thing that you need to do is to get to know each other, and then you need to think about the feelings that you have.
Netizen 6 point of view:
Experienced two parents introduced after the breakup, I decided to reject the parents introduced
Because as long as it does not fit, no matter whether it is not my fault, is my fault, even if the other party counts even bones are not left for me, or I'm not tolerant enough, I refused to suffer
Particularly my father, every time I feel unsuitable, can not continue, will feel that I am all the same, I will not be able to continue, and will not be able to continue.
After a few blind dates, I told my mom that I would rather be single for the rest of my life than get married if I met any more weird blind dates. My mom was too scared to give me another blind date.
Now the parents' generation of matchmaking gives me the feeling of pet breeding, your child's condition my child's condition, it looks almost the same, then meet your cat's breed my cat's breed.
After meeting the child free development of the two cats closed together to see if they can mate, after a period of time to ask how it is how the boys are ah pregnant.
The elders think "good" boys, may not be my favorite type, after all, the concept of marriage are different.
The elders think "must be married ah, so that when I grow old there is someone else to take care of you" - I think "who take care of who I can not live alone".
The elders feel that "he did not cheat, no domestic violence and also provide financial support to the family, he is a good man" - I feel that "no domestic violence, no cheating, is a normal person so ".
Even if you go out on a date with a blind date, because the other party is too stingy to order food, and the elders say they don't want to keep in touch, the elders will think that "maybe it's because they haven't ordered a lot of food," and that "the more frugal families produce more frugal children. "I was told to wait a little longer. I was told to wait a little longer and eventually realized that the other person was just an oddball.
Even if you start dating a blind date, you find out that the other person is teasing during the relationship. All the elders also advised me to give another chance. It wasn't until he said he wanted to get pregnant before getting married that I was completely relieved.
It's not that they don't love me, it's just that the blind date will always default to I'm too sensitive, I'm grumpy, it's how I am. It's too annoying to mess with too much.
Their concept of choosing a spouse is completely different from ours, and the person they choose to feel "good" is not suitable for me.
Website 8:
My mom picked me up on a blind date, and the battle was comparable to the emperor's choice of a concubine, ah, the queen's choice of a concubine.
Too rich not, too poor not, too high not, too short not, education too high not, education too low not, work too earn not, too busy not, work too idle not. The first thing you need to do is to look at the other side of a few suites, too much room too little can not be.
Primary out, but also a variety of detective each other's parents work units, and then find ways to trust people to understand the character of parents, find ways to understand the character of the young man to talk about how to treat people.
With my mom's understanding of me, the candidate who can flow out of her hands, at least the family conditions and the boy's own conditions are almost the same as mine, and the boy and his parents are surely dignified and reliable. And my mom is a good aesthetician, so surely they won't be ugly.
In summary, on the day of the blind date, I saw the same thing, a chat can not stop, looks really good, the work is also quite stable not idle salary can be. His family house number than the same as my family, the same education, mom and dad work is also quite good, pension is not worried. His home is super close to my home, walking 10 minutes door to door, growing environment is similar, the three views are more compatible.
I have to say that my mom is really a good judge of character.
These are the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in a position to make a difference in the way she looks.
Next month, I'll be taking wedding photos.