First, make use of children's time at home during the holidays and make an agreement with them to let them report their life and study in college on their own initiative.
Please pay attention to parents, I'm not just talking about school, but about life and school. Why do you say that? It is because if parents only pay attention to their children's college studies, it is easy for them to resent your excessive attention. At the same time, it will also make children subconsciously feel that you only pay attention to his study, but not his personal life in college, such as student union activities, social activities, career planning for the future, etc.
Parents are advised to take advantage of their children's holiday at home to make an agreement with their children. They should communicate at least once a week, whether by phone, video or text message, and report their life and study during their college days on their own initiative to reassure their parents. Of course, parents can also interpret some information from their children's circle of friends.
Second, if parents feel that their children have less information when talking to you about school life and study, they must reflect on whether there is a problem with their communication and trust with their children.
Some parents usually chat with colleagues or relatives and friends, and everything is natural, but when chatting with children, if they don't listen, children will easily feel disgusted with their parents. If parents think that when their children talk to you about school affairs in college, there is less information, and they make a mistake without saying a few words, parents must be vigilant. There is something wrong with your communication with your child, and you can't get the real information from him in college.
After reflection, if you find that there is a problem in communication and trust with your child, you need to find time to talk to your child specifically on this topic and let your child know that you don't want to talk to your parents more. First, there is something wrong with the quality. Second, the way we communicate needs to change.
Third, parents can get relevant information from their children's psychological counselors, but this requires parents to ask questions in a targeted manner, not in general terms, otherwise the psychological counselors can't give you specific information.
Generally speaking, children's college counselors have the most information, and interested parents can establish friendly relations with counselors. Of course, in the adult world, parents should be very aware of the principles of social relations. If you want a counselor to provide you with valuable information, you must establish a trust relationship with the counselor. In this regard, parents need to use their brains and work hard.
When communicating with the counselor by phone or SMS, parents should ask targeted questions so that the counselor can intuitively describe the information you want to know about your child's life and study. My suggestion is to list some questions before communication, make full preparations, and it will naturally be easy to communicate around the theme.
Fourth, it is the most intuitive way to know the children's academic situation through their academic exam results. The child can't lie to his parents.
Parents need to ask their children to provide you with details of the subjects they study each semester, so that parents can know which courses their children study each semester. Parents can make a rule for their children: after each exam, you must report your exam results to parents. Because we are the sponsors of your college education, we have the right to know the relevant information. If parents can say so confidently, children naturally dare not fool you.
However, there are exceptions to everything. Some children fail at school, but they are afraid to tell their parents, so their parents have to tell you the truth first. If you have a negative attitude towards life and study at school, you will fail if you don't study hard. We would rather interrupt your academic aid than indulge you. As long as parents keep their promises, children naturally dare not slack off in their studies.
Conclusion:
Through the above suggestions, I think parents should be very thoughtful. If they want to know about their children's study in college, they need to establish a relationship of mutual trust with their children and broaden the channels of understanding. When a child is an adult, parents must start from cultivating the child's sense of personal and family responsibility, and let him know that going to college is for his future employment and even related to his future life.
In universities, although parents and children are related, they are more of a partnership of capital contribution. If this relationship is explained clearly, it will be easy for children to understand the importance parents attach to learning.