An old saying goes: Do not do unto others what you would not have them do unto you. When a husband and wife relationship encounters the problem of supporting the elderly, this saying clearly emerges in life. Supporting both parents should have been the obligation of the couple to do their duty, but there is always such a man, asking his wife to unilaterally do her filial duty.
Today's society, like in the past, men and women get married, most women live with men in the in-laws, we live together. Now many men and women will become one-sided after marriage, on the one hand, to avoid conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, on the other hand, is also caused by the pressures of life, just in the past and will not be cut off from the in-laws, especially when the elderly are sick and need to be cared for, couples will be in the bed to do their best. In today's high prices, the family does not feed the idle has been the norm, as long as there is a little spare money is busy making money.
In this world, although the employment pressure on women is particularly high after having children, the reality does not allow you to be idle, especially with children, which means that there will be a paper shredder, so even if you only earn 1,000 yuan a month, many women want to go out to work, but if the work and care for the sick in-laws clash, what should women do?
Supporting the elderly is a husband and wife's obligation, and work is the security of life. Doing filial piety means losing your job, and securing a job is tantamount to losing your conscience. When there are difficult times, your husband asks you to quit your job to take care of your mother-in-law, are you willing to do so?
Wang sister is in her 40s, her child has just started secondary school, and she works as a cashier in a supermarket. Like many women, Wang worked well before marriage, and the house has paid off the mortgage because of that job, but after the child was born, Wang was out of touch with society. From the time when Wang got married, her mother-in-law looked down on her, so she thought that her income was no more than that of her son, and that she had a high significance, so Wang was not able to get a job, so Wang was not able to get a job. After she gave birth to her child, her mother-in-law refused to take care of her child. Unfortunately, Sister Wang quit her job at that time and had to stay home to take care of her child.
The child is a bit small, Wang sister sent the child to kindergarten, looking for work, home silence for four years, age, so in the original unit almost do not want her, so she had to go into the supermarket as a cashier, a month with a salary of 3,000 yuan to subsidize the family, and recently the grandmother suddenly sick, so the old people are afraid of getting sick, and once the disease, all kinds of physical discomfort shortcomings swarming, the elderly people are not the most afraid of getting sick, but the old people are not the best. The already improved body of the elderly completely messed up.
About Wang, the son, his mother-in-law is sick, of course, need Wang to take care of, so Wang took over his own mother, so Wang sister resigned and stayed at home to take care of his mother-in-law, Wang sister had wanted to let the nanny take care of the elderly, and they continue to work, leave this unit, take care of his mother-in-law, if you want to work in the future, the only way to clean the roads, not to mention that, in the past, her mother-in-law did not look good, but instead, she looked down on her!
But, this idea to Wang said, Wang on the spot upset, "is my mother, who are you? Please feel free to find someone to put it off, I just said that you must resign to take care of your mother, Wang sister heard this panic, it turned out that this is a consultation is not an order ah, this Wang sister angry, frankly: if I do not resign no matter what? Wang said forcefully:If you do not take care of my mother, I will divorce you, I want to find a woman to take care of mom.
Wang sister immediately confused, and then without saying a word, pack up things ready to go back home, before going back, Wang said again, if you dare to go back home, this marriage will come to an end, Wang sister how can not think of Wang's brother's tone is so dry, Wang sister back to her home, Wang's brother many times on the phone, said that you don't go back to the divorce, not a kind word, but in the face of the husband of a high threat, Wang sister is very Disappointed, and finally agreed to Wang brother's request for divorce, this marriage, so a two-shot.
Wang brother himself after the marriage quit his job, in the neighborhood to find a low-wage, free time job, while working to take care of his sick mother, so that she introduces a blind date, the divorce, the son who went to middle school by Wang to raise, Wang brother soon after the divorce to send the child to Wang sister's hometown, with the child to marry a daughter-in-law has difficulties, which means that it is necessary to take care of the child Wang sister, I heard that Wang brother recently grayed out and torn between taking care of his mother and working, unable to find women who want to take care of that mother.
If you get married just to let a woman take care of your own parents, then the purpose of this marriage is definitely not affection, but interest, this kind of marriage is not to form a new family, but a free babysitter in order to feed the old man to give birth to a child, the hearts of the people have changed, feelings have changed, the mother-in-law is not good to the daughter-in-law do not make it difficult for the daughter-in-law, husband to wife as a babysitter, do not blame the wife's selfishness. The first is to make sure that you have a good understanding of the situation.
People are flesh-and-blood animals with feelings, all care is based on love, such love, not necessarily need to mother-in-law love daughter-in-law, but also need to love the husband wife, cousin last year had a stroke, has been taken care of by cousin, so all day to turn over and wipe the body, to the rice exercise is very hard, to be honest, the cousin mother-in-law a few years ago, cousin is not very good, did not do anything worthy of letting the cousin thank you, but cousin is happy to resigned, it is her husband's fault, mother-in-law used to live on her own, after the stroke, the husband looked for cousin to discuss what to do.
To be honest, the cousin does not want to manage, not to mention the trouble, resigned at home for many years to protect the elderly is very depressing, her husband looked at the cousin does not take a position, directly said his own opinion: anyway, one of the two people have to resign, look at the situation of the mother, can not leave the person, the nanny is not assured that I can not care, I know you worry, really not, I do not think the sister can also respect her ideas, and then the next day Her husband decisively tendered his resignation and took over his own mother, and the cousin went to work as usual.
Surprisingly, the cousin's husband didn't complain about the cousin during the month he was taking care of his own mother, and came back and treated her well as usual, not caring that she wasn't taking care of her mother-in-law.
Cousin saw the clumsy husband to do housework, rubbing the mother-in-law's body just waiting for the cousin's work is done, the heart can not bear to think about it, or think of their own care is more appropriate, the second time, because of a lot of mother-in-law's physiological problems of the husband is inconvenient, the sister said something when, or I'm going to take care of it, you go to work when her husband y embraced her.
Sister retired, her husband understands the cousin's hard work, every day after work to do housework, I heard cynicism in action, and feel very happy, married to such a understanding of his wife, which more than a year, couples take care of the elderly stroke, the relationship is stable, the family is harmonious, and the elderly are also subject to special care.
You see, as long as the sincerity for a woman to pay, to send in-laws old age is not a problem, no matter which woman is afraid to take care of her mother-in-law, easily filed for divorce, are not the fault of men selfish, do not give love, do not respect, do not give money, but also want to wife like a nanny to take care of their mother, who wants to?
A woman and a man married, basically will be prepared and this man for a lifetime of stormy ideas, but there are times when you encounter the storm, always let each woman bear the man, what you do not want to do to others, as the head of the family, in the face of the problem, should be brave enough to stand out, not at home to face difficulties, to the attitude of the divorce to threaten the other side as a way to solve the problem, but Husband and wife should be united.
Our own mother is sick, the man ordered his wife to give up taking care of the elderly, he neither knows his own position nor his wife's meaning, ordering his wife to resign at home at the same time, the male also need to look at more of their own to pay, you can do for his wife determines what she can do for the elderly, when a man really respect his wife's ideas, understand the wife's difficulties, and understand the wife's pay the price of the time, I believe the woman will want to take care of her mother-in-law, but the opposite is hard to say.