Whether husband and wife or lover, to stay together for life, need to experience 3 times to give up
Often listen to people sigh: "love, easy in the heart of the moment; get along, difficult to stay together in the difficult to tolerate." Yes, life around, can meet the soul of the other half, is the great fortune to stay together, permanently keep close, is the wisdom of getting along with a lot of people love to the end is not because they do not love, but because of the process of integration there is always a constant demand, quarrels, suspicion, on the love into a shackle and a burden.
So, no matter whether you are a lover or a couple, you need to go through these 3 "renunciations" if you want to maintain a long and stable intimate relationship.
1, give up selfishness, everything will be the heart
In the relationship, whether it is a relationship or life, the most afraid of selfishness, wantonness and unawareness, no matter how the other side of the patience and tolerance, he took it for granted. Such a relationship is most likely to be out of balance and most likely to lead to a relationship breakup. In the movie "Growing Up With You", the couple Gu Jiawei and Lin Yun Yun, on the surface, "the husband earns money to support the family, the wife is as beautiful as a flower"; in fact, "the husband is bossy, the wife is careful to be a small".
Gu Jiawei is a self-centered man who wants the house to be clean and tidy, his wife to be at his wife's beck and call, and his daughter to be first in her schoolwork, but he rarely cares about his wife's tiredness or his daughter's growth. His capricious behavior and tortoise personality make Lin Yun Yun feel tired and have to file for divorce. Gu Jiawei waited until after the loss to understand his wife's hard work and his own thin.
People are always with each other, and then the good feelings, but also can not withstand the long overdraft and selfish habit, even if they can not empathize with each other, but also to learn to put themselves in the shoes of others. I understand you to raise the family's limit hard, you understand me to run the household is not easy. I feel sorry for you, you take care of me, give up selfishness, treat each other with a cherished and caring mindset, feelings can be warm and long in the plain flow of years. A good love, is the heart to heart, back to the heart; mutual respect and love, each other.
2, give up accusing and complaining, choose to understand and sympathize
There is a saying: "Marriage is an apple that has been bitten, accusing and complaining is the gap. You can't town on the gap, you bleak let the heart not be rotten, the marriage will not become bad." True enough remember a thought-provoking short story in the novel A Field of Chicken Feathers. Xiao Lin rushed to work, bought back the tofu forgot to put in the refrigerator spoiled, the wife came back from work, smelled the spoiled tofu suddenly angry, began to accuse her husband of carelessness.
And Xiao Lin, who was scolded by his boss for being late for work because of the tofu he bought in the morning, is also furious. He complains that his wife doesn't know how to clean up but only nags him. The couple then got involved in a lot of petty quarrels, triggering a family war. Life is full of such examples. Who do not want to make a mistake, what has happened, since it can not be undone, as well as more understanding. A single accusation to complain, but let the two people's feelings affected, so that the family relationship more groovy.
Living under the same roof, there will inevitably be friction, encountered conflicts, hold back the blames out of mouth, say "it's okay", "I understand", "you work hard", to heart warming! If you have a good understanding of each other, the problem will naturally be solved. Far-reaching love, is tolerance, is accommodating, is good treatment, is complete. It is not easy to run a marriage. May we all be able to forgive ourselves with the heart of forgiveness, to understand the heart of love, so that feelings can be heated new warm, fine water.
3, give up unwarranted suspicion, learn to treat each other with sincerity
Unwarranted suspicion, always give birth to a lot of coconut gap. Perhaps yesterday, you are still talking about love words, the turn of the eye can be noisy and said separate, the most tangled feelings than this, embrace the time to doubt, heart to heart when temptation, such as the "love of the city" in the Fan Liu Yuan and white tassel that pair of enemies. They are destined to meet, but repeated temptation, and each other's suspicions, the relationship is almost difficult to continue. Even if Bai Liusu went to Hong Kong to join Fan Liuyuan, they still doubt each other's sincerity and intention.
Until later, when the war was in full swing, Fan Liyuan did not leave alone and chose to return to protect Bai Liusu. In the moment when life and death are at stake, they have no more suspicions and sympathize with each other. In reality, there are countless strong love, because of the half-belief half-doubt dare not deliver sincere, and finally unhappy break up.
There are also countless ordinary love, because of the inclusion of the most sincere trust in the quiet years, so the rest of life is stable in the sea, it is easy to know each other know difficult. Encountered that do not want to disappoint the person, they will treat each other sincerely, give up doubts, open their hearts, to feel the warmth of interdependence and emotional compatibility. Do not need to cover up, do not need to deliberately hide, each other sincere two people, in order to maintain a good balance of the emotional scales, hand in hand *** degree of life.
Writer Anne Baby said: "A good relationship is with each other, but do not bind each other do not entangle each other, two people standing side by side, *** see the human flower blossom and fall. The beginning of love is mutual attraction, if love to long love each other, then we must know how to give up, give up selfish and capricious behavior, everything will be heart to heart to get true; give up accusations of complaining of words, choose to understand the body cool to tell the truth; give up unwarranted suspicion of mind, learn to treat each other with sincerity to keep true love. The rest of life is long, this **** encouragement.