As the saying goes, men and women are not tired of working together, as long as the man is willing to take the initiative in these things, it will bring good psychological comfort to the woman and make the family relationship more harmonious. And if you live with your mother-in-law after marriage, she should also take the initiative to share the household chores, after all, when you live with a big family, all the household chores will make you breathless. If you help your daughter-in-law to share the household chores in time, it will relieve a lot of stress. The key to a harmonious family is the ability of family members to take the initiative to help with household chores.
Small flowers, after giving birth to her daughter, her mother-in-law has been helping her with her monthly cycle, because her mother-in-law is not in good health, and she needs to take medicine every day. However, the family of Small Flowers is located outside the province, and everyone is busy with their own work, and it is not easy to make a trip to this place, so they have to have other mothers-in-law to help her take care of the child. When she was having her baby, Xiaohua didn't dare to bother her mother-in-law too much. She ate almost everything her mother-in-law cooked and wasn't too picky. When the baby cried, she coaxed and carried it by herself, and finally lasted for a month. When she came out of the month, Xiaohua felt very helpless, because she came out to see the living room was in a mess, the room was full of unwashed clothes, and the kitchen was also very bad.
And when she saw her mother-in-law sitting on the sofa watching TV with great interest, she didn't look back and said to her, "Xiaohua, are you out of the womb? I'm not well, I get dizzy when I do too much work,
When she saw her mother-in-law sitting on the sofa watching TV without looking back, she said, "You're finally out of the womb.
In the end, Xiaohua was so helpless that she called a housekeeping company and found an hourly worker to do the hygiene, while her mother-in-law saw it and said she was wasting her money. Sometimes mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is very bad, that is, the mother-in-law doesn't know how to think about her daughter-in-law, but the daughter-in-law doesn't know her mother-in-law either, so that the conflict will be built up with the passage of time, and explode when the accumulation reaches a certain level. But Xiaohua has a good temper and is gentle with her mother-in-law.
After her first month of life, she was left alone to clean the house, and her mother-in-law would either hang out in the neighborhood or go to a square dance class, and then she would come back to the house for dinner on time, so sometimes when the kids were finished eating and the kids were just getting up to drink milk, Xiaohua would ask her mother-in-law to help her wash the dishes. At this time, her mother-in-law would say, "Last time I went to the hospital, the doctor told me to try not to touch the water. My father-in-law said well, you can come out and wash it later. Little Flower's husband would just play games on the side, and wouldn't even change the baby's diaper. So sometimes Xiaohua has no choice but to push her husband to wash the dishes, but her husband put up with it and said, washing dishes is your women's business, don't bother me, the game is about to be lost.
So the man's lack of initiative is often a trigger for family outbreaks, the woman is very busy at home, of course, also hope that there is someone who can help themselves to share the burden, rather than just watching from the sidelines. Unfortunately, Xiaohua's husband is such a person, he is in the company's salary is very low, never help the family to do housework, the child crying, he at most only look at, or even very little. Xiaohua and her husband met on a blind date. At that time, because they didn't know each other very well, and they just thought that the other's condition was okay, they rushed to marry themselves off. Thinking about it now was a bad decision.
He stayed at home for a few months, the child was finally weaned, Xiaohua planned to go out and look for a job, before she got married she was a store manager in a clothing store, and she was earning a big monthly salary, so she planned to ask her mother-in-law to help her with the child, and go out to work to earn money herself. When she told her mother-in-law about all this, her mother-in-law immediately said, "Who will do the housework at home when you go out to work? In addition, my health condition is not good, can not bring the child, the husband at this time also help her to speak, small flower my mother's health is not good, so you can do more work at home, her old man has worked hard for half a lifetime, you let her enjoy the blessings. Hearing her husband's words, Xiaohua was immediately upset and directly argued with him. My mother-in-law has worked hard, don't I work hard? I do all the housework at home, and I have to bring up the children. Hubby was very unhappy to hear this, and he said indifferently, "Which woman doesn't bring up the children to do housework at home? If I had known that you don't do that, why did I marry you? At that time, hearing her husband's words, Xiaohua's heart was completely cold.
It is understandable that her mother-in-law is indeed too old to take care of the children and is not obliged to help with them. But what she didn't expect was that her husband had treated her as a nanny for many years, and she felt that this kind of life wasn't what she wanted, so she went back to her mother's house to live for a while in anger, and after thinking about it for a long time, she got divorced soon after.
So it takes two people ****ing together to keep a marriage going. If both men and women are irresponsible, marriage is very easy to produce conflicts, affecting the couple's feelings, serious and even to the point of divorce, the family obligations are required to husband and wife two people *** with the same commitment, the man can not stand idly by. When the hands of the cabinet, if necessary, to help do some of the chores within their reach, do not put all the things on the woman, because the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is particularly important in family relations, daughter-in-law to know how to filial piety to the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law can not rely on the old, we must know that mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship a little bit of carelessness will become very poor, very much affecting the harmony of the family.
Lastly, I would like to say that the most important thing to enhance family happiness is the mutual understanding between the family, starting from the small things at home, more hands to do some of the things we can do, will make the family relationship become better and better.
May the world treat you gently, I'm Du Xiaoguang, we'll see you next time! If you like it or have any other views, you can comment and pay attention!