While it is true that none of us can guarantee that our marriages will go to the end, we can do it by being responsible for ourselves and loyal to our marriages.
Nowadays, however, more and more people don't take marriage seriously, as long as they like it, they get married, but they never think about what they have to pay for the marriage, what kind of responsibility they have to take in the marriage, and this kind of marriage certainly can't go to the end.
When we understand the reality of marriage before going in, then in front of the problem, most of us will want to find a way to solve it, and choose to shirk their responsibilities, transferring feelings of the majority of people are selfish, such people in fact can not be responsible for the marriage book.
With such a person together, perhaps young, because of clam children and other external factors and reluctantly together, but reluctant marriage and can not grow old, repressed emotions sooner or later there is an outbreak of the day.
And to the age of 50, career stability, children also have their own families, selfish people are often very easy to transgress, that after the age of 50 extramarital affairs, later in life who is more miserable? We can look at these two true stories.
Mrs. Sun, 56 years old: and her husband had nothing to say, just want to find a spiritual support, did not think that the rebellion
My husband and I have been married for more than 20 years, when I was young, the two often quarrel because of some trivialities, the onlookers think nothing, parents always say there is no which couples do not quarrel? I think so too. At that time, even if they were copying, they still had intimate contact with each other, so the couple's relationship was not too bad.
Later, older, the child also grew up, and busy to the child with grandchildren, young, it is I alone to take care of the child over, then he was busy working, now the grandchildren are still I bring, he was busy with his leisure life, every day either playing cards, or to the park blind wander, never helped me do anything.
Sometimes I think about my own heart is also very suffocating, married to him nothing to get, in the end, or their own one person busy dead busy tired, I feel that this day is very meaningless, and I have been half a hundred years, how to live for themselves once.
While I am 56 years old, but has been more focused on the outside, so usually do not see so old, since my husband is more and more no **** the same language, I like to dance in the square, in the midst of them, I'm still quite popular, one of them is five years older than my brother, and I'm quite chatty, and one after another, I have what I am willing to talk to him, and he's willing to listen to! I said, I take him as my spiritual support.
His partner died, and daughter-in-law can not get along, they want to find a chatty partner, and my husband and I have long had no feelings, I thought for a long time, the idea of divorce told the child, the child firmly do not agree, I think I give him a shame, my husband is more cold, and even reprimanded at every turn.
I didn't realize that I had spent most of my life working for this family, but in the end, I ended up in a situation of betrayal, I can't accept it, and I'm not willing to, but now, my son and husband are ignoring me, my son said that if I insisted on getting a divorce, he'd just as soon as he didn't have me as a mom.
And the man who said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me since he knew the attitude of my family, he also distanced himself from me, and played with other women, I see the reality, but I can no longer raise my head in front of my family!
Mr. He, 60 years old: thought he met love, did not think that the last marriage is gone, love is gone, late in life alone in the hospital bed
I and my ex-wife is also a wife in distress over At that time, she did not mind that I have nothing, other people look down on me, only she has always been supportive of me, thanks to her, I have come through. But then, everything changed.
I'm getting busier and busier out there, and she's only cooking at home, bringing up the kids, and every time I come home late, she'll just ask me why I'm home so late. But you know what? I was in the middle of the night, and I needed a woman who could understand me, who could understand me, not a woman who would come home after a long day of work and have to deal with her questioning.
Gradually, I felt that facing her was boring and tiring, and I didn't want to talk to her more and more, and she still followed her own behavioral pattern as always, and even became suspicious, she suspected that I had a woman outside, and I thought she was crazy, and I scolded her, and she she stopped arguing from that point on, but the two of us communicated with each other only on a daily basis.
I didn't even realize the seriousness of the problem, because my whole body and mind are on the work, she also put her mind on the child every day, no longer with me, the surface seems to be very amicable, in fact, at that time, she was already very dissatisfied with me.
Later, my company stabilized, not so busy, want to spend more time with her, to her better, but she is always a cold look, I can not stand her cold to me, the heart is very bitter, nowhere to vent. The company's new intern is an understanding girl, every day on my warmth, I just so with her together.
I was thinking that I had fought for most of my life, and I could still meet such a good girl, and I felt very happy, and I felt that I just met love, so I filed for divorce in the face of my ex-wife's coldness, and my ex-wife hated me, and said that she didn't want to see me in this life, and I got married to her very quickly, and even my son resented me, and didn't pay any attention to me, and I was thinking, "It doesn't matter, I've got the money, and I'm not going to come back to you. When the time comes, you still have to come back to beg me, I am now divorced, still have a wife, maybe even have many children.
But the reality is very face, since the disease, the doctor said I may not be able to stand up, need someone to take care of a long time, my young young wife has never come to the hospital, every time I called, said busy, and asked me how to arrange the inheritance. And my ex-wife has long since married another, and my son feels that I have brought this on myself by being the way I am today.
I didn't expect, in the end, the marriage is gone, the so-called love is gone, a handful of years old, but alone in the hospital bed, have more money and how? I feel miserable!
50-year-old extramarital affair, who is more desolate in his later years? These two stories tell me very realistically! Both pretty bleak! Regardless of gender, if you betray your marriage, it will not end well!
50 years of age, should be the best time to enjoy the happiness of the family, but in real life, many people to the age of 50, will be reluctant to their own past, due to the past in the marriage accumulated too much dissatisfaction, to the age of 50 years old, there is no child to tie up, many people will be biased in favor of seeking the soul of support.
When a woman reaches the age of 50, she hopes that the man beside her can know her cold and hot, and when a man reaches the age of 50, he will be more and more nostalgic for the past, and this past is the time when he was young, his own expectations of the other half, and now there are conditions, many men will want to meet their expectations.
If in the marriage, the woman in the husband's body does not get care, the man in the wife's body does not get warm, many people will forget their own responsibility in the marriage, choose to transgress.
But there is no couple in this world without conflicts! No marriage is smooth sailing. Those couples who can grow old together, not because they have always loved each other y, but they chose responsibility in front of selfishness and responsibility, so in the face of difficulties, they choose to solve them, rather than to avoid and shirk their responsibilities!
Many men and women who are y involved in extramarital affairs like to put the hat of love on their own transgressions, trying to whitewash their own behavior, as if this will be at peace, but in fact it is nothing more than self-deception!
Mrs. Sun thought she had met love, but in fact, the other party is an old man, no relatives around, just want to find a woman to take care of the rest of their lives, which is contrary to Ms. Sun's original intention. Mr. He also thought he met love, in fact, to put it bluntly, if Mr. He is a bad old man with no money, I think it is not married to a small dainty wife, otherwise the other side will not be in his sick when the original form, whether it is a man or a woman, extramarital love in the end is but an empty, after 50 years of age extramarital love will not be love, in the reality of the front, often unbearable!
In order to the so-called love, and get their own late miserable, why bother? It's not worth it! We work hard most of our lives, for is not happiness? So, cherish the person in front of you!
When there are problems in the marriage, don't ignore each other's feelings, think differently, and you will gain more happiness in the marriage!