Decades of life experience has made them y understand that no matter how grand the appearance, it is not worth mentioning comfort when you are sick. A pair of chopsticks to hand to eat, a hand to hold you when you fall. After two "twilight" relationships, Ms. Zhang, who remarried at the age of 56, brought up the fact that it is difficult for second-married couples to establish a relationship, and even more difficult to find a reliable couple. A man in his later years. Ms. Zhang, a retired nurse with a pension of over 4,000, said that most women with pensions like hers are reluctant to find a wife. But Ms. Zhang, first of all, has no feelings for his ex-husband, and secondly, he likes lively and cheerful chatting, so he does not refuse to find a wife, but now Ms. Zhang decided to live alone for the rest of her life will be more comfortable.
In Ms. Zhang's first twilight romance, I met a man who was very good at sweet-talking. The two met while they were square dancing. Ms. Zhang was coaxed by the other party and even moved in to get married. Later Ms. Zhang suffered a minor illness. She listened to her daughter, exaggerated the illness and told the man. As a result, there was no word from the other party, except for the first time he came to visit her in the hospital with a bouquet of flowers. Upward. As Ms. Zhang recuperates and takes up square dancing again, he sees the man getting better with another new young woman. Ms. Zhang I couldn't resist talking to a man when no one else was around and asked a few questions. The man became impatient. Fortunately I also told Ms. Zhang the truth. It turned out that the man had a paralyzed old mother at home. The man wanted to marry a good wife, one to help bring his little granddaughter, the other to take care of his mother.
Initially, he thought Ms. Zhang was healthy and looked younger than her actual age, but he didn't think it was exaggerated or very useful. Ms. Zhang only then, I realized that the other party's words and compliments have a purpose, and she was even lucky that her minor illness allowed her to see the man's sincerity and escape the fire. The second leg of Ms. Zhang's twilight romance carried a Kochi. The man was in a very good financial position. Ms. Zhang didn't want to take advantage of the other man, but he didn't want to pay after the marriage. However, Ms. Zhang gradually realized that the man's housing certificate was in his son's name, and he didn't even have his own pay card, so he demanded as much money as possible from his son. Ms. Zhang has no problem with these people, the key is that this person really "will save money. The two of them went out on a "day trip" with a tour group. In addition to the group fee charged separately, the rest of the consumption on the road for Ms. Zhang. The man always says "I will take care of my son" every time. But there was nothing. Before the two people live together three months, Ms. Zhao decisively chose to break up.
The reason was that the man's children came home almost on weekends, saying they had to spend more time with the elderly. Sometimes when the children didn't return, the man had to call three times to remind them. None of this is a problem. The problem was that they had to eat three meals a day, and the man's son did not lend a helping hand with cooking and housework. Ms. Chang is there to spend money on food and to buy food, and after a few of these intense weekends, Ms. Chang breaks off contact with the other party. Midway couples must be aware of the "pitfalls", especially middle-aged and older people of a certain age who have been through the wringer. In fact, people often reach this age, and their resistance to strikes may have declined when they were younger, without binding. This mountain looks at the mountains. In Ms. Zhang's first love, we can see middle-aged and older people talking about their feelings again, remembering that if you don't see the other person's true feelings, you'll be forced to remarry.
These are not necessary for choosing a marriage, and before anything is taken into one's own hands it is, after all, the property of each other, and the other party has the right to control it at will. In a remarried family, we should not be in the mindset of taking advantage of others, and we certainly should not be fooled into submission and self-loathing. They say they will take care of each other, but they have been making unilateral payments. Often times, if you are sick, you can see the genuineness of the other person. We want a marriage that supports each other, not cheap labor. It's meant to be with us for the rest of our lives, not flying solo. In Ms. Chang's first relationship, the other partner wanted Ms. Chang to help take care of the older generation; in Ms. Chang's second relationship, the other partner also wanted Ms. Chang to serve a large family. In family reorganization, we can pay, but at the same time we must pay the other party the same amount. Even in a first marriage, blind unilateral donations during the course of a marriage are unstable and undesirable.?