Introduction: the phase by the heart, want to see a woman marriage is good, look at her face to know. Heart in the rain, how can the face smile like flowers? The most powerful man, not in the cause of how successful, but will be her wife spoiled into a teenage girl look, anyone who looks at all hate each other.
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We read an interesting news story that interviewed schoolchildren on the street about how they interpreted their father's love for them.
A young boy said the current situation of the Chinese family, that is, no matter how busy mom is, dad is always motionless, steady as a mountain. It made a lot of moms cry with laughter.
There is a strange phenomenon in Chinese families where a father who occasionally picks up his children from school, attends their parent-teacher conferences, and does the housework once a year is easily honored as a "good man" and praised for being a rare and good father.
On the other hand, a mother who picks up her children, does the housework, and is busy with her work every day for decades will rarely be told that she is a good wife or a good woman.
In most people's perception, this is all taken for granted. It is a mother's duty to have a healthy child, and it is a mother's dereliction of duty should anything go wrong with her child.
To celebrate the doubling of my contract fee, I called my best friend to go out for a meal and treat myself.
My best friend, Dore, and I went out beautifully after a careful freshening up. The elegant restaurant with relaxing music and delicious food was a heaven on earth, which completely relaxed the nerves.
Suddenly, there was a cry of a small child, followed by a loud male scolding, ruining the beautiful mood.
We all looked sideways and over, and it turned out that the man was yelling at none other than his wife, scolding her for not even being able to look after a child, and letting the child crash into the table, which was really useless.
The wife carefully defended herself, "I just finished feeding my child and was able to take a bite of food, and I wasn't paying attention, so he bumped into it, and you're all fed and watered, so why can't you take care of it?"
The man scolded even more fiercely, "You have a lot of things to do, other families have four children, all by their mothers alone to pull, but not to take care of properly. You're at home all day, but you can't even look after a child, what's the use."
Those sharp words, any one of them is enough to be fatal, cold-blooded to the point that I can not bear to listen to any more, let alone her wife.
Children are naughty, a little inattentive, inevitably bumped into, it is normal.
Her wife's eyes filled with tears, her lips twitched, but eventually she said nothing and turned to take care of the child.
I can't help but think of the saying that being a father, in China, is just too easy.
02
In many men's minds, after getting married, all you have to do is pay your living expenses regularly and come home on time, with or without help at home, and you're considered a good man.
They all think, as a woman, should be three from the four virtues, at home should bring children, do housework, filial piety parents.
If you are a housewife, you will be blamed for not doing a good job. If you can't even take care of a child, you don't know what to do at home all day.
If it is a working mother, then she should work and family balance, too hard is not home, too much care of the family is you do not advance.
Again, whether you work or not, the housework is yours, the children are yours, the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is your own problem, married, you deserve to swim in these things.
The couple in the restaurant, it is not difficult to see that the woman in the house is no status, the typical male superiority and inferiority of women to get along with, in front of outsiders are not at all face, not to mention in the home?
Such a couple, even if not divorced, the husband is a failure. Perhaps the wife is committed to the family, and will spend her life. However, in this life, eating grains and cereals, which is not sick; in this life, which is smooth sailing.
Once you have an economic crisis, or disease surprise, your wife in your long-term oppression, to make her all the money to save you in the fire, it may be very difficult very difficult.
Because, well, nobody's stupid.
Pillow person in you can not feel the dignity of being a human being, how can she be sincere to you? At this time, not to fall on the stone is already good, but also want to think that she really help you through the difficult times?
She got married to you because she wanted you to protect her from the wind and rain. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for it.
03
The hearts of people are all flesh and blood, and they can't withstand being cooled down over and over again.
It is said that the good to your wife is the good feng shui of your life. From the older marriages, this is indeed true.
Good marriages are those that never treat their wives like women.
They never think that the wife should do the laundry and cook with the children, they think that since they are a part of the family, they should be responsible for the family's big and small things, more as a man of the world, than the wife to share some of the more.
Because, they all understand, before marriage, his wife at home is also a ten fingers do not touch the little princess, just because of his love, only willing to give up everything to follow him to this non-relative non-relative family, serving his family.
People with a conscience to mix with society, if even risking their lives, without complaint for you to give birth to children on the pillow, are not to cherish, love, let others how to believe that your character, your person?
Aunt this year more than fifty years old, but also a small woman's appearance, face glowing, not the slightest trace of age.
When she got married, her father said to her aunt, "We'll take care of the housework together, and I'll just do the breakfast in the future, so you can sleep more.
Aunt smiled and nodded, but never took it seriously. After all, when love is strong, any sweet words can be said.
What's surprising is that after more than 30 years of marriage, my aunt insisted on getting up at 6 every morning, then went out to the street to buy groceries, and then called my aunt to get up after breakfast, and turned this seemingly jokey promise into a real promise that has lasted for decades.
The matter of waking up early is not difficult to stick to for a month, but to stick to for decades, it is still not easy. Especially in winter, freezing cold morning, who do not want to stay in the nest for a while, if not supported by love, who would like to starve and freeze, for her to wash their hands for soup?
Married for so long, as long as the aunt is at home, he will share the household chores, laundry, cooking, with the children, every one of them is very handy.
When my aunt was young, he did a lot of business, and when most people were still struggling to make ends meet, the family bought a house in the city a long time ago and realized their economic freedom.
With the increase in income, work became busier and busier, but despite this, he never missed a single parent-teacher conference for his children, and never missed a single child's journey.
Whenever he had time, he would pick up his children from school. In the child's summer and winter vacations, after completing the homework, will be together with the aunt, take the child together to travel, to develop the child's horizons, to experience a hundred flavors of life, to enrich the child's spare time.
Under his and his aunt's tutelage, although his daughter's grades are not outstanding, but her character is optimistic and upward, dare to face the frustrations of life, treating people with humility and courtesy, like a cactus, thrown wherever they can survive.
A father, the most proud is not the cause of more brilliant, but his children, after growing up still from the heart to respect him, and tell others, my ideal other half, is my father kind of man.
Aunt once said to me: "I never take your aunt as a woman, but as a lover, the mistress of the family, understand that the housework is heavy but not heavy, but also enough to exhaust, raising a child to grow up to pay a lot of effort, and I, as a man of the family, should be *** with the family to undertake family affairs, the same sweet *** bitter, which can be considered her real husband, legitimate partner."
Auntie has been doing business smoothly for so many years.
Many people have said that just for the fact that he respects his wife, we are willing to work with him, because a person who can maintain enough patience and care for even his pillow can't be of bad character.
04
The most powerful man is not how successful he is in his career, but he has spoiled his wife into a teenage girl, and anyone who looks at him will hate him and respect him.
Associated with the entertainment industry alone, Nicholas Tse, in the eyes of outsiders is always cold as ice, do something rash, but in a reality show program, he attended with Faye Wong, everywhere in consideration of Faye Wong, and shyly confessed that as long as in the home, are he cooking for Faye Wong to eat.
After that, the public were caught off guard and received a handful of dog food, who could not have expected, so unrestrained man, actually has such a gentle side, for the beloved woman, willing to wash his hands and do ginger soup. It is no wonder that Wang Fei in the age that should be dancing square dance, but still like a young girl, lively and chaotic.
Love is so nourishing that it is the secret of living younger and younger.
When you find that your wife has become a yellow face, more and more incomprehensible, a word on the outbreak of time, please think, since the marriage, you have to fulfill the promise to take care of her for a lifetime, or married to you, never enjoyed a day of blessings, get up early to work, serve you this big family.
As the saying goes, when times are good, everyone is good-natured. But when the family's burdens are pressed on her, pressed her suffering, you are still always picking and choosing, anyone will be spitting fire, long time not get a little care and love, which can not be old?
In short, unfortunate marriages are different, but happy marriages have *** with the same law, that is, the couple are qualified to marry the legitimate people.
***The same for the small family to add bricks and mortar, together with the advice, **** with the accompaniment of the children's healthy growth, the two sides complement each other.
Only in this way can both sides have the energy to fight for their respective careers, to realize self-worth, and together towards a more brilliant tomorrow.