Not only that, I also found that I seem to gradually agree with him that it is best for a woman to have a "lolicon face and a heart of the imperial sister", a view that I originally disdained.
First, Yang Lan
Yang Lan has always struck me as intellectual, elegant and beautiful. Recently, she wrote a new book called "The World is Big, Lucky to Have You". Before I bought it, I suddenly realized that my husband's bookshelf had long been filled with her books, two of which were written by her and Zhu Bing in the early days, namely, "One Question, One World" and "Happiness to Answer," so I flipped through them.
As I read, it seems that I gradually figured out why I like her so much.
The example of Zhang Haidi in the book left a deep impression on me.
It is said that in the political environment of the 1980s, Zhang Haidi was able to have the opportunity to carry out the Great Hall of the People because of the noble quality of the disabled, the leaders warned her in advance that she should be ironed into a big wave of long hair clip, the result is that when she is about to enter the spotlight before decisively removed the hairpin, so that a head of hair waterfall like a waterfall on the shoulders.
This incident has touched Yang's heart, and she feels that nothing can stop women from pursuing beauty.
When Yang was a child, she wished she had a pair of big glasses, like Miss World Zhang Zilin, but Zhang told her that the reason she was rejected by the big fashion shows when she was modeling was that the other side felt that her eyes were too big, and that there was no sense of mystery in the Orient, and that the Westerners preferred her to have a pair of squinty eyes.
After this incident, Yang realized that how to define beauty is a difficult task, so beauty has to have its own proposition.
Interestingly, she also asked a few guests in the interview which moment of the day you are most looked at by your boyfriend. The answer is rarely said to be after some make-up, but often a small gesture, such as tootling an oily mouth, from the glass that is not a mirror to organize the clothes and so on. And she answered the question herself, saying that on the day of the opening of Hong Kong Sun TV, she did not even have time to look in the mirror, and seven months pregnant stood at the door of the cocktail party, but was praised by the crowd as "you are the most beautiful pregnant woman I've ever seen", and she thinks that was the most beautiful day so far.
So when you're at your most attractive, you don't necessarily need to dress up, but rather, it's the way you act that makes you more attractive.
Yang Lan has always been known as a woman of knowledge, once she was in a promotional video with a red dress improvised a Latin dance, the audience thought that she was very different from the usual, and was also teased by Cui Yongyuan afterward, but she believes that this is to live a more genuine, more pure.
Comprehensively look at these contents above will find that their former deliberately for the beauty of beauty, blindly follow the trend of the crowd's mentality is wrong, on the contrary, to live out their own wonderful is the most important.
The "funny" husband
I used to think that he was not mature enough, and although he was already a father, he was just like a child.
Why do you say that?
Go to the beach to play, have not seen the sea, my husband can not wait to take off his clothes, only wearing a swim trunks back and forth, but also from time to time excited to a few sprint run.
I asked my husband you do not feel childish, he told me a joke, the content is this.
There is a wolf chasing three people, there are three holes in front, three people ran into three caves, the wolf did not think about it directly into the leftmost hole, then he asked me why, I thought of a variety of answers, and finally he said three words - "I'll do it! ".
He likes to listen to some HIGH songs when he's not doing anything at home and sings along loudly, in fact, it would be more accurate to say that he should be hysterical, so I yelled at him to stop as soon as he sang. So he said to me in a pitiful manner, "Honey, let me sing a couple more lines" and I counted them for him. Two. Stop. He told me it was a comma, not a period, so it didn't count as a line.
How can there be no dance when the music is playing? The dance he did was the same as the song he sang, and it was impossible to watch. He had never learned any dance, and was just following the rhythm and dancing blindly, with no sense of aesthetics to speak of, and with just endless amusing facial expressions and exaggerated and crazy movements. The baby tends to look frozen when watching him dance, and his eyes are glazed over, and I always wonder if he's being scared by his dad.
The nephews especially like to play physical games with their husbands, and it doesn't matter if they don't play, they'll turn into a tease for a second after they do. The nephew has always been known as the "devil king", but my husband is even more crazy than him.
He seems to be able to coax a child to be a little easier than I can, sometimes relying only on facial expressions to coax the baby to laugh, because his movements are too exaggerated (completely comparable to Fu Yuanhui). Hubby is a very low-laughing person, he laughs at the slightest thing, and the scary thing is that the baby has inherited his laugh, and I really don't think that's a good thing.
With these examples, can you think he's an adult, he's a child!
And this summer, we went out a couple of times because the baby was getting the hang of it. In these few trips, I found that my husband is actually not like what I thought before. I slowly changed from feeling childish him to recognizing him, and sometimes even aspire to be like him.
Driving to the field, the road is not very familiar with some turns very sharp, accidentally don't the back of the car, the other driver immediately cursed, I obviously saw from the window driver in the "roll" him, so I asked my husband is not scolded, want to give him some consolation, he was easy to answer: "No, he said, buddy, driving a little attention, you just accidentally don't me a little."
When I stayed at the hotel, the shopkeeper said that we had soiled her sheets and made a rather unreasonable request, I was angry with her and argued with her, and the result was that after two or three minutes of arguing, my husband suddenly appeared and told the shopkeeper that he had already cleaned it, and so the matter was so inexplicable and simple.
Sometimes, the child's persistent crying annoyed me, so angry that I wanted to throw him out of the window, my husband immediately came quickly and calmly said to the child who was crying, "What's wrong with you, little buddy, letting people cook?" (altered from a pharmaceutical commercial in which two crabs are talking just like that)
Of course, he's not always this gentle, but most of the time it does seem that way, and the number of times he gets mad is really not worth it compared to me anyway. Hubby also says that women always say they are aggrieved, but he doesn't realize that women usually live more than men, why? Because women and then sesame seed big thing can ramble for half a day, while we men can only listen. When two people fight, the smartest thing a man can do and the only thing he can do is to shut up, but inside he suffers. So, he thinks women just have more pain, while men have to live less for it. (Of course, I'm just going to take this view as a fart and let it go.)
He always says he just wants to live a simpler, more spontaneous life, and that it's too complicated for him to think about, so he doesn't think about it much. I think the second half of the sentence is a bit false, if it's true, then why does he read so many books! The first half of the sentence is more agreeable, because when I first met him, I felt very natural with him, like a family member. He will not intentionally try to please me when we are dating, because he will not be able to Yagan, and he does not talk a lot, which in turn can make me feel very solid.
Sometimes on my way to and from work, I don't have much to do, so I think about how good he is. The main reason is that some things are really not his fault, but the problem is that my first reaction is to find his fault, and loudly "bear" him, he is not very argumentative, let me a hard to say, and then wait for me to be in a good mood to explain to me, so I think that he is actually quite poor. It's too dangerous in there, and it's easy to get cold," and he said slowly, "There's a way of teaching that's called letting nature take its course."
I think the weather is cooler, and the baby's clothes are wet and easy to catch a cold, so I immediately wanted to change the baby's clothes, and my husband discouraged me, "Look at how happy Rui is playing, it's better not to disturb him at this time." The baby finished playing, the husband immediately rushed to carry him back to the hotel, originally I would like to ask him why he left so quickly, but see him to the hotel immediately after the opening of the hot water to him rinse, wash but also constantly with the hands of his massage I understand, in fact, he was afraid of the child cold.
A child with a cold I am easily anxious to see my husband's relaxed expression I even feel gas, he said, "I mainly look at his expression, hair heat is secondary, the key is the baby's state, if he is happy I am relieved, if he is difficult I am heartbroken." Once the child has a cold, my husband and I went to work, he called me and said, "You say I'm a big man, it is reasonable to say that the child has a cold is very normal, but why am I just fidgety, like a woman."
In the baby Belle to the baby to choose to put him to sleep Fisher-Price seahorse, only blue and pink two colors, I naturally want to go to get the blue, but he had to buy pink. I said this is not a little girl with it, he laughed at me and said, and early childhood teacher it, even this do not know, in the concept of advanced education in Finland, has long been not advocated in the baby very young to differentiate between the sexes education, and said the source, is Luo Shixi wrote "so slow, so beautiful," a bestseller to introduce the Scandinavian life.
Last year, the school organized to listen to the lecture, I got some new education concepts, want to tell my husband, but he said he already knew these. At first I thought he was bragging, until I looked for books from the bookshelf and realized that since he had a baby, his bookshelf has less messy books and more books about education.
So I remembered another incident that happened earlier. He has always given me the feeling that is rowdy and loud, once but rare moody and said to me that he was a little afraid, the first time I heard these two words I almost did not laugh spray, thought even your body is afraid of this big and thick, I still how to mix ah! But see his somewhat frustrated expression, I still held back and asked him what he was afraid of, he said he was afraid that he could not handle Ruirui's education, worried that this "work of art" to ruin. I advised, don't worry, don't regard the education of children as a kind of pressure, but this doesn't seem to play much of a role, and after a while he suddenly lighted up and said, it's all right, I'll read a few more books about education, I want to stand on the shoulders of giants to educate the children, so I won't be afraid of it.
Recently, Wang Baoqiang events have been boisterous, the wind once over the Olympic Games, when we are focusing on the horse on the body, my husband said to me, their two children how to do ah, I thought he was really nosy, said casually, this is not a good thing to do, a person ah. He said, if this is really a big trouble, divided into Ma Rong's child grew up how to face his classmates, his teachers, his friends! I actually a moment speechless.
"Laurie face, imperial sister heart"
I sometimes feel that he said out of the words is very disgusting, vulgar, and can even be said to be nasty, and even more aggravating is that it is also blatantly sent to WeChat. I logged into his account to delete a few times, but he sent it as usual, only the way of speaking is much more euphemistic, on the surface there is nothing, but a closer look is still irritating.
So when I saw him summarize this sentence I feel very twisted, every time he was expounding on it I pretended not to want to listen to it, but he did not care about self-talking, the consequences of the so-called write an article, so I looked at it a little.
My husband said he read two books written by women before summarizing the standard of such a woman. These two books are "I Want Two Grapefruits" by Hu Xinshou and "I Like This Utilitarian World" by Mimoun.
The first of these books has the words.
"I miss you, let me invite you to sleep"
"I bought many sets of lingerie, fresh and sexy, each of which I can wear for you."
"I just want to sleep with him in my life, it's not good for anyone to say."
Hu is a 92-year-old girl, apparently can be called Lori, not much smaller than my 90s, but wrote such a "revealing" words and phrases, my husband believes that because she lives in the megacity of Beijing, easier access to new ideas, and more importantly, she did a few years of copywriting in the company Durex. He doesn't think there's anything wrong with being explicit, saying that women should be like this, and that feminine beauty is just a tradition, and nowadays you should be bold and unrestrained.
He also said that Wang Xiaobo's wife, the famous sexologist Li Yinhe wrote in the book, said that the domestic girls in the development of the face of chest hair big often do not know what to do, usually choose to wrap some things to make it look and not too big, obviously this is contrary to the normal physiological health. Therefore, he believes that girls should dare to show their big boobs (what a shameless idea ah, I even put pen to paper). Recently, the new "Journey to the West" held auditions, some women deliberately dropped a band to highlight their large breasts, I despise this, while he said, at least much stronger than the behavior of wrapping breasts. Big boobs are not wrong, and there is nothing wrong with displaying them, because displaying them is your own business, and if they are in the way you can choose not to look at them!
(How much I want to delete this paragraph!)
And in the second book there was this text.
"Don't be ridiculous, there is no such thing as wistfulness. You're not successful just because you're not good enough."
"If you don't think you're doing enough in any field, cut the crap and get your ass to practice!"
"It's not that chastity isn't important, but it's not as important as you think it is, it's more important, it's your values your insights your intelligence your fun."
Mimi's words are relatively "spicy", and can even be said to be overbearing. But this behind the need for independence as a guarantee, economic independence is one aspect, other aspects should also be relatively independent, because of this in the relationship will be more pure some, will not be because of the world's prejudice or patriarchal ideology and was categorized as a group of weak vision. More simply put, it is to do with a man is certainly very good, but no man old lady is not afraid.
Not only that, but it's best to do the following.
For example, when it comes to love, you have to dare to say it out loud, do not play the secret love that set, so as not to miss the worthy of love.
Focusing on fitness, he said that women who like to work out are like "woodchucks", the meat is taut and chewy, and that it is important for women to be thin, but it is also better than healthy.
Also read a few books, the most direct purpose of two, one is to chat can look less stupid, the other is to be able to chat with the husband has *** with the topic of conversation, do not underestimate the latter, because he said that many men and women rupture relationships because of the male has been in the progress of the wife but the beginning of this did not jump out of the original circle of life, did not advance with the day.
In short, it's not easy to be a woman with a "lolicon face and a heart of an imperial lady", not only to have a sweet appearance, but also to have a wild and spirited personality, and to be independent enough to pay attention to physical and mental cultivation.
My husband calls such a woman the upgraded version of the savage girlfriend, and believes that women who meet this standard will be very popular in the future, and will even become a trend.
When I saw his idea, my first reaction was to beat him up, because the "old lady" didn't seem to fit any of the criteria. To relieve my anger I plan to give her a daughter and see if he can mold his daughter into what he says she should be.
I consider myself a conservative and traditional woman, and at first I didn't think much of this idea, especially since I have some sexy lingerie at home, and now I'm writing about it, which only means that, even though I don't want to admit it, I have to admit that, deep down, I seem to agree with him, or he's brainwashed me.
The End
Wow! I didn't expect to write so many words at once, from Yang Lan to the husband, and then to the husband's "claim".
In fact, my husband summarized that women should have a "lolicon face, imperial heart", which is the same as what Yang Lan said about being true to yourself. The only thing is that Yang Lan said more more "Yang Chun Baixue", and the husband partial "down the countryside" some.
(I didn't want to say anything about the following example, but I think it's more fully expressed)
There is a book called "Where There Is No God", and at first glance the title doesn't seem to be any different, but when you open it, you'll know that it's a book that explains how to read "The Plum in the Golden Vase" (which some of you may have laughed at, as I did earlier), and there's an example of how to do it. The book contains an example of a woman from the Han Dynasty, Wang Liu'er, who is tall and dark, and even thinks that she won't be seen by Ximen Qing, but after he saw her, "his heart was shaken and his eyes were swung, and he couldn't stop himself from being fixed".
Why would such a strange thing, the author is such an analysis, when the "spirit" of aesthetics still dominates the concept of fashion throughout China, pay attention to is gentle, elegant, delicate, weak, charm ...... completely no black and high women's The first thing you need to do is to get a good look at the new model, and you'll be able to see what you're getting yourself into, and you'll be able to see what you're getting yourself into.
So I concluded that the so-called aesthetic standards, with the development of the times is actually always changing.
And my view is that women do want to show her beauty, don't think they are not beautiful, different people for the standard of beauty is different, and then ugly men will have a woman, and then ugly women will be married.
That is to say, looks are secondary, thought is the main thing, think away, it is good. So women should love themselves, recognize themselves and do well.
Note: Originally I wanted to give the article a similar to the "new era, the new woman" such a title, but my husband said that such a title to the "will not have the click rate, so" forced "(in fact, it is a suggestion) I changed to the title of the current! The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this.