People who say "thank you" directly, although it makes people feel polite, are not sincere enough, and are always a bit like idioms and idioms. However, it is better to say it than not to say it.
People who often say "thank you" are generally more educated and grateful. Of course, sincerity is another matter.
Especially when you get help from others, remember to say "thank you" and "thank you". It is to show recognition, gratitude and respect for others. When you say thank you, the other party must be very pleased and feel that it is worthwhile to help you, even if it is very tired.
Don't say thank you just because you are a good friend or close friend. In fact, no one is obliged to help you. It's reasonable not to help you if I give you face with kindness.
In short, you should say "thank you" and "thank you so-and-so" at home, at work or on other occasions. Stick to it for a while, and you will find that your popularity has improved and your work life has become smoother and smoother!
Around 2000, my parents and some friends traveled to Beihai. I fell in love when I went, and then I bought houses in Beihai one after another, claiming to move to Beihai after retirement.
It's been almost twenty years. The old people really fulfilled their promises, living like migratory birds every year, returning to the north in summer and going to the North Sea for winter in winter. In these years, the old people have never thought about reuniting with their children; Not to mention that there are a large group of relatives and friends in my hometown.
I have been to Beihai many times, and there is nothing to say about the natural scenery. It's just that why the old people choose this place to spend their old age safely has always been a mystery in my heart. After all, there are still many places to choose from in terms of climate, altitude and oxygen content in the air. Until one year, a little thing made me suddenly realize.
It should be 20 14. I rushed to Beihai before the Spring Festival that year and wanted to spend the New Year with my parents. In those days, I would push my bike to the market near my parents' home to buy food and fish every day. One day, I stopped at a stall in front of the market and watched an old man carefully take out a big bag of purple amaranth from his bag, and then almost a leaf was cleaned and placed neatly. The old man is very short, and his hands and face have been engraved with many deep wrinkles by the years. She bent down and sat on a small bench that could not tell the color of wood, serene and serene.
I couldn't help but stop the car, step forward, squat down in front of her and say, "It weighs two Jin". She said to me in very nonstandard Mandarin: "Young man, how many people are eating? This dish should be fresh. I can't eat if I buy too much. It won't taste good next time. " I replied, "Three people." Later, I don't know why many people added "me and my parents." She smiled and said, "It's too much. One catty is enough. It is best to buy a meal after eating. " As he spoke, he carefully selected the best leaves from the sorted plates and put them in a red translucent plastic bag. She didn't use an electronic scale, but an old-fashioned hanging scale. After weighing a catty, she picked up some amaranth leaves and put them in her bag and handed them to me. I quickly asked her, "How much is it?" "Two dollars and twenty cents a catty." She smiled and said to me. I took three Zhang Yiyuan bills from my pocket and handed them to her. She took it and said "thank you" to me sincerely and naturally. After that, take out fifty cents and three dimes from a bag and give it to me. I wanted to say keep the change, but I didn't ask. Suddenly feeling thank you is like a wake-up call for the wise. I seem to understand a lot, but I can't figure out what I understand at the moment.
In the next few days, I began to pay attention to the vendors in the market. Most local vendors always say "thank you" after guests pay. They are all sincere and sincere, with smiles on their faces.
It suddenly dawned on me that I met people who said "thank you" too much over the years. Those "thank you" are polite, well-behaved and pleasant to listen to. But I only heard these two words, and I heard nothing else. Here, what I hear seems to be heartfelt thanks to the guests for taking care of the business; This seems to be a simple expression of their diligence and recognition; It seems to be the peace and kindness of a long time ago; This seems to be a small part of the ritual sense of gratitude to the sea rooted in their souls; It seems to express their inner purity and tranquility.
I suddenly understand that the principle of respect is etiquette, but sincere respect is the most precious tolerance, understanding and trust between people.
This is why parents choose Beihai, where they feel the purity, truthfulness and goodwill that perhaps generations of souls yearn for.
I am surprised to see this problem, because I feel it deeply in my daily life! Express your own views and experiences, hoping to help everyone.
Thank you. I have two purposes here. The first thing is to say thank you after others help you. My daughter, for example, just turned two. Every time I help her with something or open something, she will say "thank you, Dad" and then pick it up. This will make me feel particularly happy, because I will feel that my daughter is particularly polite and respects what I have done for her. The second is that when I ask someone for help, I will add thank you after the request. For example, Miss Yang, can you help me get an apple to eat? Thank you so that my daughter-in-law can happily help me with my things, but to put it another way, Miss Yang, go and get me an apple! At this time, my daughter-in-law will often say why don't you get it yourself! For another example, I am studying in an institution now, and every day a work teacher will sign us in. After each signature, I will say "thank you". At this time, the teacher will look up and say you're welcome with a smile! I think this is respect and recognition for other people's work, and others will not think that you are artificial or pretending backwards. We just lack this sense of "thank you" ceremony.
Always say thank you to others, and others will return your kindness and smile. In this fragmented world that is modularized by mobile terminals, we need words like "thank you" to break the fragmentation of man-machine relationship, return to our original sincere feelings and express our feelings by ourselves, instead of expressing our thoughts with the help of the cold machine of mobile phones!
I suggest you try to say thank you to everyone in your life, family, friends and strangers ~ this will make your world better!
I am the one who often says thank you.
In fact, when I was a child, I thought it was a courtesy. My family education told me to do this, but now I have formed a habit.
Although it is not as sincere as before, it is more like a habit of speaking, but I don't think it is hypocrisy or hypocrite.
Not to mention others, our parents are used to ending with thanks when talking to each other. Although it will give people a little less human touch, it is not the case. Parents who should help will still help.
Let me show you the screenshots of me and my parents, and the words my sister sent to my mother. I used to talk to my parents like this. You, thank you. You're welcome. .
I have changed a lot in recent years, or I have deliberately changed a little, but I should say thank you and naturally use you to treat people my age. Thank you.
I have fallen to a very low level. I have read my father's letter to my grandfather. It is very concise, starting with hello, dear father.
Although it may seem polite to many people, we really respect each other.
As for why I have changed a little, you can see that I will not reply to my parents' thanks, which was impossible in the past, not because I think this habit is hypocritical, but because I am afraid that people around me will think that I am a hypocritical person, an inhuman person and be criticized as a hypocritical person.
It's pity that you say thank you to the hypocrite, and your tutor is also very poor. When you go to a restaurant to eat and go shopping, you will say thank you to the waiter. This is an affirmation to others, who will say you're welcome to come back and then give them a smile. What's the matter? A thank you can show your quality and self-restraint, as well as the family education atmosphere. For example, every time I take a taxi to get off at my destination, I will say "Thank you, Master, for your hard work", and people will really laugh happily instead of being polite. As a man, you should take care of yourself. Either you spend money or you are an uncle, so you can tell others what to do. My father taught me to be polite and be kind to others since I was a child. My own quality cultivation can't keep up with others, and I also call others hypocritical. What a disgusting thing to say!
I saw this question yesterday and didn't answer it. I went out today, and I have been observing, observing what, and observing the comments that say thank you.
The scene we saw today is as follows:
On the bus, I saw an old woman with a baby. She said thank you from the bottom of her heart because someone gave her a seat.
When I was working out in the gym, I saw a fitness enthusiast who had a headache because he couldn't use some equipment. At this time, I happened to pass by a fitness instructor to help me teach. This friend said thank you from the bottom of his heart.
For example, I bought two delicious candied haws on the roadside today. As a thank you, I also said a heartfelt thank you.
Actually, the pronunciation of the word thank you is very simple. As long as you open your mouth a little, you can send a thank you. Such a thank you is the simplest Chinese for foreigners.
Whether at home or outside, I believe that 99% people say thank you, and it must be from the heart. After all, goodness or justice in this world must account for more than darkness and ugliness.
People who are used to saying thank you, I believe they must be kind people, because no one in this world "should" do anything for you, but those who choose to help others actively must have love for the world in their hearts. They firmly believe that altruism is egoism. Of course, this is the world I see with my eyes. Of course, 1% people are inevitable, and there is indeed hypocrisy.
Boyfriend is a person who likes to say thank you. He's not artificial. He has always been very polite. This is a kind of cultivation and a habit, which also makes it easy for him to get help from many people in his life. The other day, when he got off work, the car was locked and the key was in the car. He asked the security uncle for help to find someone to unlock the lock. Uncle Security knows me and likes him as a polite young man, because he greets Uncle Security after work. Uncle Security said thank you every time he opened the door, so he unlocked the car and didn't say anything about getting my ticket. Uncle Security said that ordinary people don't do this, for fear that other people's opinions will affect their work, he will only make phone calls for others. Therefore, we want to thank everyone around us. Others need to live with flesh and blood. It's unnatural to pay for you. Saying thank you will not lose a piece of meat, but will bring you good luck.
First of all, the first category should be people with family education and good education.
My grandmother was a primary school teacher before liberation. Educate all children in the family to be polite. Besides treating people with respect, it is most basic to say "thank you" and "please". People form a habit when they are young, and they will speak these words when they grow up. Said they were unconscious. At the same time, I still remember having an enlightenment teacher when I was a child. After I came back, I used western etiquette to ask my children to practice sitting posture, standing posture, dining etiquette, drinking coffee and listening to symphony ..... All uncivilized behaviors should be mildly criticized. Children are not sensible and feel embarrassed when they are told by a very elegant person inside.
In particular, I want to say thank you to those who are below themselves but serve themselves. This shows that everyone is equal, respecting their own work and respecting themselves.
But when I was a child, I developed a habit. When I grow up, I will only say thank you mechanically, and I may not really understand the meaning of "thank you".
In the west, polite language is a part of etiquette, people are equal, and language expression should reflect equivalence. In the western communication system, there are senders and receivers of information. One person gives help to another person, and the person who receives help says thank you, which means to respond. Information exchange is the foundation of civilized society. If you don't respond to the information you receive, there will be communication problems.
For the East, because of the accumulation of traditional culture, the connotation of "ceremony" is very rich. We often say that benevolence, wisdom, courtesy and faith are all based on human feelings. Before modern society, China's social human feelings were greater than the stipulations, and courtesy was human feelings. China's goodwill gift is more complicated.
The person who is helped owes someone a favor, and saying thank you is an expression of gratitude. For small things, expressing this gratitude means returning the favor, so many people think that saying thank you will reduce the burden of human feelings, which is actually a very low emotional intelligence.
People have relationships because of communication, and helping each other is also a kind of communication. Through help and debt, for two unrelated strangers, it is equivalent to establishing a relationship, while for those who are related, it is equivalent to adding something to the existing relationship. In other words, no matter what you say or thank you, the word is not the same as "goodbye", not ending the relationship, but deepening the feelings between people. Based on this theory, people with high emotional intelligence will do this-
1. For some trivial things, you can say something that others want to hear without saying thank you. For example, if you meet a lady in the elevator and press the waiting button for you, you can say-hey, your child is so cute; Hey, where did you buy this tomato? It's so fresh. Hey, your hairstyle is very good.
2. For some greater help, it is generally between people who are familiar with each other. You can make an appointment, such as having a cup of tea, having a meal and playing cards together. The purpose of dating is to deepen human feelings.
The highest way to deal with the great help between acquaintances is to talk less and do more. Helping others when you have the conditions is the best "thank you" and the most decent answer.
Therefore, people who often say thank you may also be introverted. In his subconscious, this "thank you" is a lofty, closed, rejected and eager dialogue.
In a society, it is civilized and polite to say more thanks, while the communication higher than thanks is human feelings and warmth.
To sum up, people who say thank you too much to acquaintances have low emotional intelligence, at least lazy, and do not want to interact deeply to maintain relationships, while those who say thank you to strangers, especially workers, are very cultured and polite.
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In those years when I studied and lived abroad, I said thank you the most every day. After class, the teacher will say thank you to the students, pay the rent to the landlord, the landlord will say thank you, the bar is closed, and the boss will say thank you to the employees. When I was infected by others, I also formed such a habit imperceptibly. After returning home, someone always said that I was too polite to wipe my shoes once. After paying the money, I used to say: thank you. Thank you for taking care of my business. Say thank you every time you send water home. I bother you, but he always says I'm polite. All men are created equal, and no one should do anything for anyone. Although you paid the money and he served you, he really felt that he had brought trouble to others and felt guilty, so he naturally said thank you. A classmate witnessed a real event in Tokyo, Japan. During the morning rush hour, two cars were scraped in the driveway and the turn signal was smashed all over the floor. The first thing the two car owners did after getting off the bus was to bow to each other and look at the car. After the two sides took photos and exchanged business cards, it seems that the responsible party took out a broom and dustpan from the rear of the car and quickly swept away the debris on the ground. The two sides bowed to each other again and drove away quickly. The students couldn't hear what they were talking about, and the cars next to them circled in an orderly way, without horns or complaints. It seems that everything is so calm and ordinary, but it left a deep shock in the hearts of the students.
Maybe everyone has learned to respect and understand each other, and there are many thanks around, which is really comfortable. Isn't it? Think about it, how many times have people met, passed by, worked together and lived in the same room? I don't remember any celebrity saying: I may not be a good person, but I try to be a comfortable person. In our life, we are so angry that we don't say thank you, abuse each other and even punch each other. What affects the human soul? Life gives you endless pressure, and you put a heavy yoke on yourself. If I am not good, I must try my best to throw it to others and let myself vent. The temperature in this society is low enough. Wouldn't it be nice to be warmer? We can't be a comfortable person, but at least we can be a person with temperature. Everything has cracks, but that's where the sun shines.
This era is different. Maybe you are not a person who likes to say thank you, but it is still very common for the younger generation.
I grew up in the south when I was a child. To tell the truth, the south is more casual and pays little attention to people. Maybe this is our field.
The eighties and nineties of the 20th century were the age of barbaric growth.
Due to family reasons, I had to transfer to study in the north. I know the other party called you. Thank you.
At first, I was still embarrassed. Fortunately, the teachers in the class are very good. They often teach me to say thank you for everything and to talk to the teacher first.
My family, to be honest, really didn't teach much before. Even though I grew up on a university campus, as far as family education is concerned, the south is generally poor.
Later, when I went back to the south, a classmate came home to inform me of one thing. Because I was there, I formed a habit. I remember when they came to tell me, I said thank you, take care, goodbye and so on.
At that time, the students all opened their eyes and mouths and were surprised.
One of them said to another classmate that he would say thank you to me?
In fact, in the past, that era may really be here, and it is difficult for peers to hear each other say such things.
I laughed too.
Decades have passed, thank you, it has become a very common greeting.
For anyone who may be in trouble or serve you, it is a light and pleasant thing to say thank you.
Respect everyone, thank you!