However, some children are addicted to Internet addiction. How to quit? To tell the truth, it's really hard!
If the child's self-awareness is not strong in kindergarten and primary school, parents are still in the idol stage of the child, and the child is also in the transition stage, it is not difficult.
Children at this stage, first, hunger therapy, and second, parents should set an example. The so-called hunger therapy is to cancel the conditions for children to surf the Internet. The TV has become unable to access the Internet and can only receive signals. The computer is disconnected from the network, and it is not allowed to contact the mobile phone. There is no network terminal, or you have to quit.
At the same time, parents try not to surf the internet, and have time to accompany their children to read books to attract their children's attention to reading. You can not only take them out to play on the rest day, but also take them to the library and bookstore. In that environment, children can fall in love with books. I fell in love with books and couldn't reach the network terminal. This internet addiction will naturally stop.
If a child reaches junior high school and is in a rebellious period of youth, the status of parents and teachers in children's minds is no longer idol level, and they often like to confront their parents to show their maturity. It is difficult for children at this stage to indulge in the internet and want to quit.
But it is not helpless. Parents can try.
First, go with the flow, rebel, you can't violate it, just go with the flow; Secondly, it is definitely not good to just follow the three chapters of the contract. It is not dark. We should abide by the rules, make rules in online time, study requirements and so on, and let them play, but we should play according to my rules. Third, do more other activities, take the children out for a walk and distract them.
If we persist in this way, it should be effective After the most rebellious period has passed, children realize the importance of learning, and Internet addiction can be quit. However, some children may ruin their lives.
However, there is one exception. If children are extremely talented and addicted to online games, then follow the trend and take online games as the development direction, which is also a world!
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Spend time with him. In fact, he doesn't like playing games either. It's just that there are no games in life that attract him. If you take the time to take him running. Play games. He won't just play games. I don't have time. Take your son for a run whenever you have time. My son likes to play in the square, but it's too far. It's not safe for him to go alone. We stayed with him. We have no time. So I played games at home, and the children were still young. It takes time for adults to guide. Unfortunately, adults don't have time.
I used four methods to get my children to quit Internet addiction completely!
1. Causes of Internet Addiction
Internet addiction, also known as internet overuse, mainly refers to a disease in which people are addicted to the internet for a long time and have little interest in other things, thus affecting their physical and mental health. Clinical research shows that most people with high incidence of Internet addiction are teenagers, mostly men, with a ratio of 2: 1.
From the internal factors, first, physically, children in this period have imperfect cerebral cortex development, weak consciousness, poor understanding and judgment, and poor self-control ability. They are curious about new things, especially online games, entertainment platforms, pornographic content and online chat, seeking excitement, adventure and romance, which will naturally form internet addiction. Second, psychologically, everyone, especially children, wants to be affirmed and praised, and hopes to surpass others in some aspects and gain enough sense of accomplishment and honor. However, due to various reasons, they will be frustrated and unsatisfied in reality, which makes these children turn to the stimulation and satisfaction of the online world.
From the external factors, first, the influence of the social environment, a considerable number of internet cafes around schools and communities attract inexperienced teenagers; Some online games are designed to meet the physical and mental characteristics of teenagers, luring them step by step and making them addicted step by step. Secondly, under the influence of family education, some parents are either busy with business and have no time to accompany their children at work, or they often insult and dig at their children because of their academic achievements, so that their children can't get the companionship, affirmation, praise and consideration of their relatives in reality, so they will seek comfort from the virtual online world. Then some parents often watch TV and surf the Internet, which will become negative teaching materials for their children.
2. The harm of Internet addiction
First, the impact on teenagers' physiology. Frequent access to social networks, playing games and obtaining information through electronic products will bring a steady stream of new information to people's brains, which will increase the secretion of dopamine in the brain and greatly reduce the attraction to other activities such as learning and sports. Dopamine is an important neurotransmitter, which is mainly responsible for transmitting exciting information. Pornography and online games are addictive because they make the brain produce a lot of dopamine.
Internet addiction can lead to physical dependence. Long-term addiction to the Internet will lead to depression, decreased vision, muscle strain in shoulder and back, disordered sleep rhythm, loss of appetite, indigestion and decreased immune function. When you stop surfing the Internet, you will suffer from insomnia, headache, inattention, indigestion, nausea, anorexia and weight loss. Surfing the Internet for a long time will also lead to autonomic nervous dysfunction, decreased immune function, and even induce cardiovascular diseases, anxiety and depression. In recent years, the number of sudden death due to long-term internet access has gradually increased. Once children are forcibly prevented from surfing the Internet, it will lead to children's rage and even extreme behavior. The media has reported more than once the tragedy of Internet addiction teenagers hurting people and even killing people.
Second, the psychological impact on teenagers. Surfing the Internet for a long time will make teenagers infatuated with the virtual world, lead to self-isolation, alienation from reality, affect their normal cognitive, emotional and psychological orientation, make them feel depressed and sad when encountering things, and produce negative attitudes, which will lead to psychological obstacles, psychological abnormalities and other problems and diseases, which is not conducive to the shaping of healthy personality and the establishment of correct three views of teenagers.
In addition, Internet addiction will also lead to the decline of academic performance, and some murder plots of online games will also lead to the influence of "role-playing effect" on teenagers, resulting in problems such as weak moral awareness, weak legal concept, and illegal crimes. Therefore, it is urgent to treat teenagers' internet addiction.
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The first is the combing method. Teachers and parents should do patient and meticulous ideological work for children with internet addiction, let them understand the meaning of life, establish correct three views and establish life development goals. If the internet addiction is serious, you can ask experts for psychological consultation, even supplemented by drug treatment. Don't simply and rudely beat and scold, but stop it, which will often backfire on rebellious children and cause serious physical and mental problems.
The second is the gradual method, also known as the small goal victory method. Internet addiction has become the spiritual pillar of children. If you let him give up completely at once, he will never be reconciled. After the child understands the truth, you can tell him not to play for a week and agree to abide by it. After taking the first step, the child will experience some physical and psychological discomfort in the early stage. At this time, it was Internet addiction that caused such harm, which made him firm in his confidence to achieve small goals. Then, praise the children and let them have a sense of accomplishment in overcoming bad habits. Next, let him give up smoking for another month. Parents should be accompanied and supervised, observe their children's reactions and guide them in time. During this period, the child's physiology and psychology should have changed obviously, and the internet addiction has gradually eased. After that, according to the "60-day rule", children can not play for another month, which will definitely play a positive role in their physiology and psychology. At this point, getting rid of internet addiction is basically completed. After my practice, this method is very effective.
The third is the zoning method. Just as drug addicts should stay away from drugs, they should also keep their children away from electronic products during the period of abstinence from internet addiction. At home, you can disconnect the internet, let your child hand over electronic products, and supervise your child not to go to Internet cafes. This is very important for children who lack self-control.
The fourth is the substitution method. While getting rid of Internet addiction, we must guide children to develop a learning lifestyle that replaces online games, such as reading, hobbies and fitness. So that children's after-school life is rich and colorful. Only in this way can children stay away from electronic products and develop a healthy and upward lifestyle.
In addition, families should be combined with schools and society to help children quit Internet addiction. It is suggested that relevant departments strengthen the governance and crackdown on illegal network institutions, platforms, companies and internet cafes to create a healthy network environment; It is suggested that schools should strengthen psychological counseling and publicity management for teenagers, prohibit carrying online electronic products and create a good learning environment.
Mobile phones and computers have become indispensable communication tools for modern people. They are undoubtedly attractive to children, especially adolescent children, who are too easy to indulge in the internet and then indulge in it. For internet addiction, patients' desire for the network refers to an innate strong desire for the network. "Desire" has an instinctive driving force and a memory of the euphoria brought by the source of addiction in the past. Parents should not be too strict with their children, which will backfire. How to help children quit Internet addiction?
Don't just scold children.
I believe many parents have encountered such a situation. When they find that their children are addicted to the internet, their parents start to beat and scold, and the more addicted their children are to the internet. This is completely in a rebellious and extreme state of mind, so parents should first change their ways.
Let children participate in real life activities.
Be gentle with children.
Don't let this virtual world bring them comfort. Parents should love their children more, spend more time with their children after work and participate in some parent-child projects.
Reduce online time
Children who are addicted to the internet generally spend a long time online. Parents can slowly reduce their children's online time, give certain rewards according to their children's performance, and also stimulate their confidence in quitting Internet addiction.
Many adolescent children like surfing the internet, which not only affects their studies. It also affects children's health. What about children's internet addiction? Why are many people addicted to Internet addiction? The reason of teenagers' internet addiction is not only the responsibility of teenagers, but also the responsibility of parents, schools and even society. All parties have responsibilities! In the network, children don't have to avoid anything and speak freely, which is also the means for them to talk and vent, and the object for them to seek understanding and help. Make up for the shortcomings and deficiencies in real life through virtual creation on the network.
The specific reasons are as follows:
The first is driven by curiosity. Teenagers have a strong thirst for knowledge and curiosity, and they also have a strong ability to recognize and accept new things. Driven by curiosity and vanity, many children began to contact the internet;
The second is obvious social reasons. Due to the lack of educational supervision, some Internet cafes even help students avoid being traced by parents, teachers and relevant departments, provide convenient services, and accommodate students in Internet cafes for the night. In addition, there is a lack of supervision over network security, and there are violent and pornographic websites on the browser. Children with poor self-control are prone to go astray, and teenagers are weak-willed and good at group activities. They will imitate each other more to satisfy their fantasies.
The third is the competition of merchants. Unhealthy online games are electronic opium, which harms our children. The negative effects of merchants' simple pursuit of maximum benefits.
The fourth reason is education. Parents set inappropriate goals for their children. They just want their children to get good grades and do everything else. Family disharmony and increasing divorce rate will also lead children to want to escape and seek warmth elsewhere.
Coupled with the fact that children are not recognized and respected in real life, they will naturally go to the online world to find satisfaction. To sum up, in order to make children quit internet addiction, we should make use of the situation to make him understand that the internet is a double-edged sword and teach him to use it reasonably; Secondly, don't set good grades as a single goal, but evaluate children in a diversified way; Thirdly, we must try our best to create a harmonious family. Even some divorced families can work together to promote their children's growth! Set goals for him and move forward for his ideals! Accept him, accompany him and listen to him! Love is the answer to everything!
It is recommended to cultivate some hobbies for children as soon as possible. Otherwise, at this age, you can't always let your children learn. He always has fun and rest. Besides sleeping, I always play for a while. Can't leave him in a daze?
The mobile phone is so convenient that you can reach it at once. Is the most convenient toy, and powerful, all rivers run into the sea. Want to play, want to ask questions, want to communicate with people, want to read novels, watch movies, play games, are all things that move your fingers. In the past, if you wanted to surf the Internet, you had to go to an Internet cafe. Later, when I have a computer at home, I have to get up and turn it on. Now as long as you reach for your mobile phone, you can complete all network matters safely, conveniently and quickly. Who doesn't like it?
Not only can you play, but you can also use it as a tool. It is really convenient. Technology has changed people's lives, but it is also a double-edged sword.
Once, when I was consulting a junior high school student, I asked him: Why do you have to play games and nothing else?
He said blankly, then what should I play?
Yes, except playing games, he has no hobbies at all, such as basketball, football, chess, Go, playing the piano and painting, playing the piano and singing, hand-knitting, singing and dancing, reading and writing, poetry and songs, drinking tea and fishing, and collecting stamps. ...........................................................................................
Children 16 years old, it seems that this is not the case to cultivate hobbies temporarily, and parents have no such concept at all.
At this age, boys and girls don't play together. He is not interested in girls either.
All he can play with his friends is singing karaoke, but singing is too expensive. Or get together to eat, drink and spend money. His family is in poor condition, so it is better to play games.
He knew that girls might go shopping in the park or something. Boys really have nothing to do together, but they still go to Internet cafes to play games.
Parents think that he is not motivated and only knows how to play games, but he really doesn't know what to do except playing games. Even if he likes cooking and gardening, he can volunteer somewhere.
Of course, he doesn't like studying either. Some children are naturally fond of learning, doing physical and chemical experiments and reading science books. That kind of interest and hobby is actually very valuable to cultivate from an early age.
Some parents even stop their children's hobbies and don't do anything unrelated to study. Anyone who can't directly improve his grades will be rudely blocked. This attitude, on the one hand, hurts children's self-esteem, on the other hand, it also quietly lays the groundwork for them to approach the game. ...
Children have no other hobbies, which is on the one hand, online game addiction is also a very important part. I will continue to answer such questions in the future.
Among peers, if games are an important topic of chat, it is difficult to prevent children from participating. Teenagers need to feel involved and communicate with their peers. It is difficult for other children to get in a word.
I have answered the question that games bring positive value to children before.
Where are your children? If he doesn't play mobile phone, what's his hobby?
# The counselor said # # Cell phone addiction #
Internet addiction is an addiction to bad habits. If spiritual needs are met by benign hobbies, then bad hobbies have no place to live.
The root of "Internet addiction" is not children, but families.
Parents with legitimate hobbies will not raise children who are addicted to "Internet addiction".
The parents of "Internet addiction children" grew up without internet and money. Even if they have a study and books at home, they are rich. If they are lucky enough to cultivate their interest in literature, sports and reading at school, they are really lucky.
To be clear, various interest classes are not legitimate hobbies here. Children like it is the first factor, not parents like it.
Internet addiction has been formed. The first step of parents' intervention is to take their children out of the house and find new spiritual food. When children realize that online games are only a small part of life and an accessory, and there are many interesting and meaningful things worth spending time and thought on, their thoughts will change.
The world is big, and there are countless interesting things that are meaningful and valuable. Only by standing high can you see far. Parents need to broaden their horizons first.
Help children return to a regular life.
The Internet is often a temporary refuge for children's minds. Parents should start with changing family relationships and emotional atmosphere to help their children establish a normal work and rest system. Once a good living habit is formed, children will have psychological chips to quit Internet addiction, and they will gradually return to real life without seeking asylum on the Internet.
Cultivate children's self-control
What children with Internet addiction lack most is self-confidence and self-control. Parents should help their children as "peers" and replace bad habits with new habits, such as continuous physical exercise with their children. This kind of day-to-day exercise itself requires super self-control. When a child's exercise plan can be carried out continuously, he will accumulate some feelings of confidence every day. It can be said that adhering to good habits is the best way to quit Internet addiction.
Encourage children to make positive changes.
There are goals that children keep working hard in online games. He feels very exciting and can show his ability. This may be a feeling that children have not had for a long time. If children start to change, exercise every day, work and rest normally, and study hard, parents can seize the opportunity to implement "target rewards" for points like online games. If children decide to reward or punish themselves, they can achieve the effect of both encouragement and reward and punishment.
Help children expand their living space.
Parents' doting will make children seek excitement in online games, while family indifference will make children seek warmth in online games. Parents should guide their children to participate in interpersonal communication, cultivate hobbies and gradually reduce their online time. When the focus of life expands from the internet to other levels, children will try to change themselves and become interested in other things.
Improve children's self-confidence in learning
Parents should help their children find interest and self-confidence in learning, try their best to help them catch up on their backward lessons, and make them more confident and confident in their studies. For children who have started to quit Internet addiction, learning happily with their peers is the beginning for children to face challenges, and parents must accompany him to face this change easily. Don't be too hasty, and don't be ecstatic. It will bring great psychological pressure to children and it is easy to repeat the same mistakes.