Undoubtedly, the biggest advantage of raising Bao Xiao is that mom and dad are not pure novices, and they have certain parenting experience and will be fully prepared. But sadly, you will often find that these experiences are basically useless. Especially for parents whose two babies were born more than five years apart, the impression left five years ago is often rare, and what they remember is usually useless, because different children, different situations and the popular practice of medicine itself will be different. Therefore, compared with novice parents, Bauer's parents may have only a little psychological advantage, that's all.
When Dabao was born, his parents were usually young, but when Bauer was born in a planned way, many parents were old or super old. A serious consequence of this is a lack of energy, especially in the first few months of Bauer's life. I can't sleep well and eat well. All day, being eaten, drunk and slept by a baby takes up almost all the time. Then Dabao and this and that, basically after a busy day, will have the ending of falling asleep. Because of this, many parents of Bauer began to realize the importance of health and started running, fitness and yoga, just to accumulate enough physical strength to raise two children, especially the younger one.
Of course, with the addition of Dabao (this difference can never be ignored), the environment and process of raising Xiaobao will change greatly. First of all, Dabao will leave many things, such as cars, beds, baths, books and toys, clothes and so on. These used things are safe and economical, but this is not the most important thing. The existence of Dabao and various needs often make Bauer's parents feel at a loss. This problem will never be encountered when raising the first child, especially when Bauer was just born. The consumption of manpower in the family will be particularly huge-the mother has to take care of Bauer all the time and basically never leaves. So who will pick up Dabao from school? Who helps Dabao with his homework? Who will take Dabao to the park on weekends? Who will play with Dabao? These have become new problems. It seems difficult to solve it satisfactorily by dad alone.
The existence of Dabao, in addition to adding a task line, also has a "role" that cannot be ignored, that is "making trouble". Curiosity about younger brothers and sisters, as well as the struggle for parents' attention, will make Dabao do many incredible things, and parents can't be anxious with him yet. For example, this head clearly needs to be quiet when sleeping, while Dabao just keeps going in and out, opening and closing the door, so that parents can't work well; Or just put Bao Xiao to sleep, Dabao rushed in and said something loudly, and immediately all his efforts were wasted ... If Dabao was younger, this problem would be more obvious, basically fighting with the little guy endlessly. Older children can make progress by telling the truth a few more times.
However, having said that, the last and most important difference is that Bauer will have another child who loves him when he is born. This kind of pure and gentle love, but Dabao has never enjoyed it since he was born.