There was a neighbor who gradually became a good friend. She later lived a twin-city life in Beijing and Tianjin.
My friend and his wife are both from Tianjin. She takes care of the children at home full time, and her husband works to earn money to support his family.
Later, I felt that there were many opportunities and high wages in Beijing, so I moved my family to Beijing, emptied my savings, borrowed money from my parents and paid a down payment to buy a house in our community.
Her children and mine became kindergarten classmates. From kindergarten to graduating from a large class, we have been classmates for four years.
The child graduated, and the problem came. Her family is not registered in Beijing. According to the policy, she can only enter the on-chip primary school where the real estate is located, and this primary school is a general school with a poor reputation.
And if they go back to Tianjin, they can go to the best public primary school. Moreover, both of them are from Tianjin, and their connections are much stronger than those in Beijing. Finally, after careful consideration, my friend moved back to Tianjin with the children, and my husband continued to stay in Beijing to earn money.
After living in such twin cities for a year, many disadvantages of couples began to appear at the weekend.
Both of them are young and fond of playing. Coupled with widowhood and child-rearing, friends feel great pressure and their depression is getting more and more serious. And her husband is often in Beijing and she is in Tianjin. Although the distance is not very far, her heart is getting farther and farther away.
As a result, the contradiction between the two became more and more serious. Finally, her husband moved back to Tianjin and started working life in the twin cities. Go to work in Beijing early every morning and go back to Tianjin at night.
A friend said that although it is difficult to meet in one day, she still feels safe and dependent with her husband around. Moreover, after renting a house in Beijing, there is a balance except commuting expenses, which can just subsidize the mortgage.
Now I hear that her husband is still running between Beijing and Tianjin, and he can't bear the salary in Beijing and the family in Tianjin. So I have to make it difficult for me to commute.
Thank you for your invitation. Working in Beijing and living in Tianjin, I have never felt this kind of "tale of two cities", so I don't know the real state of this group of people, but I have read several blog posts before, all written by people who have lived this life. It seems that the trip is really hard.
Tianjin to Beijing 100 kilometers, about 35 minutes by intercity train. Plus the time from home to tianjin railway station and from Beijing South Railway Station, it takes at least 1 hour, which means it takes more than 3 hours to commute every day. In other words, if you go to work at eight o'clock in the morning, you should get up at least around six o'clock to catch the intercity train to Beijing around seven o'clock. Get off work at six o'clock in the evening and go back to my hometown in Tianjin around seven or eight. This goes on and on, year after year.
It is said that many people in Beijing are forced to choose this lifestyle at present. Beijing's housing prices and living costs are high, and the threshold for buying a house is higher. People with foreign household registration still face the problem of studying after having children, but their relative wage income is higher than that of Tianjin. At least, the pressure of life in Tianjin is not as great as that in Beijing, so since there is no choice but to live like this, don't think too much, be tired and be happy!
Get up at 5: 30 in the morning, take the first light rail at 6: 00, get off the light rail and run all the way, get to the number pick-up machine at 6:00 13, buy tickets at 6: 38 or 43, get off and run all the way to the horrible subway line 4, still north of Anheqiao. Fortunately, you can get on the first bus, get off at Xidan at 4 o'clock, go to work before 7: 40, have breakfast and get ready for work.
Get off work at 5 pm, running all the way, arrive at the express entrance of South Railway Station in 22 minutes, pick up the ticket at 5: 37 (this ticket must be bought by mobile phone in advance, or picked up at South Railway Station at noon), arrive at tianjin railway station at 6: 7 and get home at 6: 40.
What a familiar trip. I only go back once a week, Monday and Friday. Usually living in Beijing, I can only video chat with my family every day.
Why can you persist? I think first, Beijing has a better development, a bigger platform and more opportunities for personal display; The second is to set an example for children, and both words and deeds are indispensable. A person's life is a life of struggle. Nothing can be done easily, and a struggling life is the happiest. The third is the support of my family and the health of my parents, so I have no worries. Working in Beijing is very busy. On average, I have to work overtime for more than 4 hours every day, and occasionally I have to work overtime on weekends. Without the support of the rear, it is impossible to persist.
Tired and happy.
I have a friend who chose Tianjin as his home. Because I am interested in Beijing's development prospects and work prospects, I choose to travel to and from the two places. Perhaps only he knows the bitterness and sweetness best.
If you rent a house in Beijing, you need to spend about a third of your salary. If the funds are limited, you need to go to the suburbs to choose a better house. It takes about 4/5 hours to go back and forth, which is equivalent to the distance from Tianjin to Beijing, but the transportation mode is different. Choosing a house that is almost inferior requires enough courage to adapt. Many people were carried all the way, and suddenly there was a small gap in life, which was difficult for many people to accept.
As my friend said, it is more because for the next generation, the baby can have a better environment to grow up and take care of his family every day to avoid disharmony in family relations caused by different places. Although I have to get up early, I am tired of running around every day, but it is worthwhile for my family and family.
At first, I went to work every day, washed at 5 o'clock, drove to Tianjin Railway Station to catch the bus at 6 o'clock 16, and staggered the first subway peak. There are not many people arriving at 6: 50 on Line 4 of Beijing South Line, so I will arrive at work around 8: 00 and go to work at 9: 00. Get off work at 5: 30 and take the subway to Beijing South. I got home before 8 o'clock.
Later, I rented a house in Beijing because of lack of sleep. At 2600, I witnessed Line 13 in Huilongguan, which was even more deadly than Line 4. I go back to Tianjin every week, but I don't like it and the experience is not good. After living for a year, I resolutely refunded the rent.
Now I am in the south with my college classmates. January 800, commuting 1 hour 40 minutes. It is more cost-effective than going back every day. It doesn't matter.
Tell me about a college classmate of mine who settled in Tianjin after graduation. When chatting, she told me that her current work and life is to travel to and from Beijing and Tianjin, 365 days a year, every day except holidays. Get up at five o'clock every morning to wash, start from home at five forty, take the first bus at six, get to Beijing South Railway Station in about forty minutes, and take the subway to the company at about seven thirty. After breakfast, go to work at 8 o'clock.
Get off work at 5: 30 pm, get on the subway as soon as possible and catch the bus at 6: 0015. After arriving at Tianjin Railway Station, take the subway for 20 minutes. It was about 7: 30 when I got home. Go home for dinner, bathe the children, play with them for a while and put them to sleep, then take a shower, wash clothes, sweep the floor and mop the floor. After these things, it will be eleven or twelve o'clock. I can only sleep for about 5 hours every day, and I really feel that I don't have enough sleep. Running around high and low every day is really tiring. Every rest day, I want to sleep under a quilt.
I asked her why you were so tired. She said that because the salary in Beijing is higher than that in Tianjin, in order to earn more money and give children a better life. Although tired, aunts and uncles who sell breakfast at the gate of the community are much happier than cleaners, milkmen and water workers in the early morning. At least look decent, don't wind and rain, don't be exposed to the sun and rain, and don't put up with customers' troubles.
She said that she and her husband have a fixed goal, and now it is the primitive accumulation stage of capital. It is better to work hard now and move towards the goal than to work hard after doing nothing. Come on, while it's still young!
This is the basic life. Wash your face, brush your teeth and dress at five o'clock in the morning, take a bus to high-speed railway station at six o'clock, take the high-speed train and subway at six thirty, get off the subway at seven o'clock and walk to the company. You can pass by during the period and bring breakfast early. Punch in at eight to get water for breakfast and start work at eight thirty. Get off work at 5: 30 in the afternoon, take the subway at 6: 30, take the high-speed train at 7: 00, and take the bus at 8: 00. Go home around 9 o'clock, eat, wash your face, brush your teeth, and pack lunch for the next day. Go to bed at ten. Cycle after cycle. Take the children to make up lessons, buy food and clean the house on Saturday and Sunday. The working days of the elderly at home are cooking, cleaning and picking up children. Walk in the park for six days. The whole family is tired of living.
I read a lot of bitter replies, and I am one of them. It has been more than half a year now. I admit, it will be hard, but I also want to tell many people to learn to enjoy your pain. Just like venture capital, the greater the risk, the higher the return.
When I first received the news that my company had moved to Beijing, I had mixed feelings. I have only been away from Beijing for three years ... What is this destined love? Therefore, I don't need too much psychological construction in the face of everything that is coming. So, I began to think about how to plan my future life.
First of all, for the sake of health, I think it is very important to ensure sleep. It is imperative to stop staying up late. Adjusting the biological clock is undoubtedly painful, forcing myself to sleep every day is also a blue-skinned mushroom … but I finally got through it. Now I go to bed at 9: 30 every day and brush my mobile phone at 10: 00, which basically guarantees about seven hours of sleep time, and I can almost sleep with my eyes closed.
Living in two cities, time can't wait to be seamlessly connected with all aspects of the overall planning. I get up at 5: 30 every day, wash and make up, go out at 6: 00 10, take the subway at 6: 27, pick up the ticket at 6: 55, take the intercity at 7: 20, arrive at the station at 8: 00 and arrive at the company at 9: 00. Get off work at five o'clock, take the subway at five ten, take the train at six, arrive at the station at six thirty, and get home around seven ten. So the fragmentation time is really long.
What should I do, sleep? I slept for seven hours, acting in a play? Listen to music? There are so many plays to brush, and if you brush too much, you will be tired. I started in various apps, WeChat official account "Taobao", and finally found a few suitable ones. No.65438 +0 Aurora, deposit in 99 yuan, insist on 180 days, and return to 200 yuan. The thesaurus and learning volume can be customized. At present, the first 200 yuan has been obtained, and the second one is in progress, 180 days. NO.2 The reading cost of mint is 199 yuan (regular users 179 yuan), and the original English books read in 100 days can be obtained. So far, I have got seven books, and the third one is in progress, 65,438+000 days. NO.3 WeChat reading &; Netease Snail reads a book, and WeChat reads it for half an hour. You can exchange one yuan for other paid books. Netease snail reads for one hour for free every day. I have read 12 books so far. NO.4 cultural variety show, round table party, wonderful night of natural history, etc. It's interesting to listen to people with culture chatting, and it can also expand our thinking. At present, the round table pie has been painted in the second season.
Before I go to the city in the morning, I usually arrange English morning reading.
From the subway to waiting for the bus and then getting on the bus, it's almost enough time to finish reading the aurora and mint. The subway is crowded and the environment is noisy. I brush variety shows or read books.
After living in Shuangcheng for almost a year, I have doubled my English vocabulary, improved my reading habits and adjusted my life schedule. I have lost eight pounds because I have to run or run every day, and I still save money in the gym … I think I have benefited a lot from this pain.
Seeing this, you may think that I am young and can't stand the toss. However, I am not. I'm born after 85, I'm over 30, and my youth is gone … I just don't think life is easy. We have no choice but to adjust our mentality.
I don't know how long this life will last, but for the sake of life, I'm not carrying a heavy load. I hope you can enjoy the pain, reap the benefits and win the future as I do.
May tomorrow be better.
If you don't have a Beijing hukou and don't plan to buy a house in Beijing, this choice is still good. Because Tianjin is still a big city, it can enjoy the city dividend and live with more quality and dignity.
Whether you are tired after crossing the Twin Cities mainly depends on the nature of work, commuting time and the distance from tianjin railway station or Beijing South Railway Station.
If you go to work at 9: 30, live not far from tianjin railway station (Tianjin West Railway Station also has some intercity), work place is near Beijing South Railway Station, and the subway is convenient, then the travel time is acceptable.
For example, it takes 20 minutes from home to Tianjin Railway Station, and then 10 minutes to get into the station (there is a security check in the underground of Tianjin Railway Station now, and you can get to the ticket gate in 5 minutes without going through the security check when you get off the subway), and the high-speed train takes half an hour to get off the Beijing subway 10 minutes (but there are too many people on the Beijing subway in the morning rush hour! ! ! This is very painful), the subway time is less than 30 minutes, so it will be 1.5 hours. This time is acceptable for Beipiao.
The cost will not be too high. High-speed rail fare 109, 20 days a month 2 100. But the income in Beijing is much higher than that in Tianjin. In fact, sometimes it is not a question of salary, but a question of whether there are job opportunities. This Tianjin is really worrying. A graduate student of Nankai University will give you about 4000 yuan in Tianjin if he doesn't take the civil service examination, career establishment and join state-owned enterprises. It's an insult. Tianjin's low salary has seriously restricted its development. As for everyone, we can still see many rich people in the city, and most of them are vested interests. Urban vitality really needs to be improved.
In order to shorten the travel time, you can buy a house in the back square of Tianjin Railway Station, which can shorten the time to go to the railway station at once, or you can find a unit that is closer to Beijing South Railway Station and the subway is more convenient, so the time to go to the unit after getting off the bus is also shortened. The overall time is even less. Actually, none of this matters. The most important thing is the nature of the work and whether it can be flexible.
Although the life in the two cities is a bit bumpy, the gains are that Beijing's wages are high, Tianjin's consumption is good, medical care and education are fair, and life in big cities is rich. At least you can drive around on weekends. This is a normal life.
In fact, the best match is the Tianjin hukou. The woman works in Tianjin and can take over the family. The man runs back and forth and makes more money.
Route:
Get up at 5: 15 in the morning, take a taxi at 6: 00, arrive at Tianjin west railway station at 6: 15, take the high-speed train at 6: 3 1, arrive at Beijing south railway station at 7: 03, get off the subway at 7: 54 and arrive at the company at 7: 57. The error is within 6 minutes.
Evening: get off work at 5: 00, take the subway at 5: 08, arrive at Beijing South Railway Station at 5: 58, arrive at the ticket gate at 6: 05, take the high-speed train at 6: 27, arrive at Tianjin West Railway Station at 6: 59, take the subway at 7: 09, and enter the house at 7: 30, with 0 error.
Transportation costs:
The high-speed rail is 54.5 yuan, with two shifts a day, *** 109 yuan. Buy 20 high-speed rail tickets, get 1, redeem points, save about 5.4 yuan every day, and get a discount of 103.6 yuan.
The average taxi in the morning is 27. 1 yuan, and the subway is 12.7 yuan in the morning and evening.
Total average daily 1 17 yuan, calculated as 20 working days per month, 2340 yuan per month.
Meals: Eat at home in the morning and evening, occasionally go out, eat in Beijing at noon, and occasionally have a cup of coffee or tea, with an average of 1 160 yuan per month, with an error of plus or minus 200. I have obsessive-compulsive disorder in order to make up for the transportation expenses.
To sum up, the average monthly cost is 3500 yuan.
In addition, the reason why I didn't rent a house in Beijing is not only because of the monthly rent of about 6,000 yuan (I like quiet), but more importantly, to accompany my family.
The biggest motivation for commuting in Beijing and Tianjin every day is family. I will share the discussion with you after I am tired.