Later, I found that new york was a bottomless whirlpool, and I plunged into it unconsciously. What it sees is as gorgeous as a kaleidoscope, and what it steps on is as thrilling as a blade. However, everyone living in new york seems willing to experience the ups and downs of life and look on coldly.
Leaving is a heavy word. It's hard to get out of this whirlpool. There are too many beautiful things to put down and too many stories to tell. Sadly, the people who broke into my life for two years and brought me countless memories left in a hurry.
This time, I invited five good friends to tell their stories. They are also new york people who travel through the reinforced concrete forest. They also work hard here with their bare hands like me, but they choose to leave for various reasons.
After five farewell meals, I watched them leave one by one like an empty nester. So where did they go and how are they doing now? I miss them so much that my eyes are wet when I see their words.
Really, every word pokes the heart.
"Everything in new york seems to be a dream."
In recent years, studying in new york, I, a girl from an inland mountainous area, came to the city for the first time like "Chen Huansheng" and sought opportunities in a city where top talents gathered non-stop. However, after entering the employment force, I found that my major was unfortunately classified as "other major".
There is a saying that there are only two majors in studying in the United States, "CS-related" and "non-CS".
For foreign students from ordinary families, successfully graduating from the top computer school means that the speed of light is out of touch? Panco did, but he did? Does B Huan dye owe Chu? Violence? Master of Science in ata, get rid of the fate of "other majors".
However, on graduation day, I was embarrassed to wander around the house again. While working, I found an employer who can answer. First, I moved to share a room with my friends. Finally, I went to the corner of the living room in Luodao, pulled a curtain, and just put a bed and a table.
New york is a city ready to go, with more men and fewer women, so it is difficult to establish a stable love and marriage relationship. The central idea of my parents who came to the graduation ceremony is to beat about the bush, end the life of a single dog as soon as possible, and then drift with you.
Standing at the fork in the road, I suddenly panicked. My best friend left new york with her boyfriend, which became the last straw to crush the camel. Returning to China with the same income does not become a "niche" and there is more room for development. Why not choose a new path? So, decisively put away the bag and bid farewell to the waist.
In fact, looking back two years later, I found this besieged city a bit hasty and impatient. I was too timid at that time. If you can bite your teeth and stay, you may also reap good development and love.
The first stop on my return to China, I went to Beijing, a city with rich history and culture, which is exactly where I like people who study hard and don't ask much, and because there are family and friends there. The salary in Beijing is good, so there is no need to rent a house for the time being. I often get together with my girlfriends and will be introduced by enthusiastic friends. I feel that I have returned to the embrace of the motherland in a down-to-earth manner, and I am no longer a person crossing the 12 hour time difference and drifting abroad.
But before I could fully enjoy the convenience brought by the imperial city, I bravely climbed to the PM2.5 index 1000, which made me cry and had a high fever for a week. On balance, I have never been timid, so I can only give up the great opportunity of Beijing and roll up the quilt and run back to the south.
I went back to my hometown to recuperate for half a year and taught in the international department of my alma mater. Going to and from campus every day is like going back to high school overnight. Those familiar roads, those days immersed in learning, those years of passionate struggle, and those ignorant feelings have reappeared in this decade.
Life seems to have returned to the original point, and everything in new york seems to have become a dream. However, the small flame in my heart is moving faintly, as if there is a kitten scratching my heart with its claws, prompting me to meet a more difficult and wonderful life. So, in order to show my determination to my family, I came to Shenzhen, a high-priced "fishing village" with sky blue and sea blue, and nothing was prepared.
When I first arrived in Shenzhen, I was short of money, preferably in Beijing or my hometown. This year, there is no shortage of chicken feathers, but I still appreciate my parents' willful indulgence and my friends' help when I am in a trough.
In the besieged city of returning to China, many people look at the other side of the ocean. Whenever they are "intimidated" by the values imposed by the state, they all want to go abroad again and rush out of the city gate to fight their way back. As for the sea drifters outside the city, they have returned to China, frankly speaking of the hardships and difficulties of being a "minority" outside.
This besieged city, people in the city want to go out and people outside the city want to come back. There are good and bad, but just like fish drinking water. In fact, the high shore and deep valley, the world is changeable and impermanent. No matter inside or outside the city, I just want to grasp the present, but I want to be innocent.
New york is a symbol, bearing many growth stories.
I still remember the year when I first came to study in America. I took a Cambridge bus 15 yuan to and from new york, which was full of academic knowledge. Every time I see the Manhattan skyline from Queen's Road, I always remind myself that it is true, not a dream.
Every time I walk on the streets of new york, I feel a strong vitality when I see the bustling crowd and the youthful generation. New york is rough, and I deeply felt its roughness the day after I arrived in new york after a short stay in Tokyo. But on the contrary, it is this roughness that makes it eclectic and gives it tolerance and atmosphere that is not found in other parts of the city.
There are all kinds of people wearing strange clothes on the Lower East Side, but it is my favorite place to hang out on weekends. I tasted a cup of coffee on the street corner, ate a unique Chinese meal of Mission China, got into a private collection store, and sold my suit in a second-hand shop on 7th Street, feeling that life at that moment was the most vivid.
Staying in new york became my biggest dream when I was a student. I don't know what inspired me to endure many setbacks and overcome all kinds of hardships. I really stayed. And this stay is four years. Before going abroad, a colleague who came back from new york said,
"Four years makes you a new employee", I think I am a qualified new york person.
I began to learn from the business tycoons in Manhattan to make investments. Every day, I wear a suit and tie to go out to see the project, walk on Park Avenue and talk about contracts with a group of Americans wearing brand-name leather shoes. That kind of feeling, as I once saw in the movie, is real and unreal.
I read documents with my American colleagues until midnight, had strange overtime meals and discussed financing plans together. Then everyone went to a new company to develop. When everyone gathered in the bar in Williamsburg again to talk about the past, it felt like it happened yesterday. Dave is giving a report, Chris is reading the hotel management contract, and I am making a financial model.
This is just a small microcosm of countless new york moments.
I decided to leave, but because I cherish it. It brought me a turning point in my life. Since then, new york is no longer a destination, and it is no longer my destination. It has become a necessary stop in my life, and I spent the best years in my life here.
Now back to China, the same investment, different markets, but there are many commonalities. Perhaps it has experienced the complexity of new york, but in the face of the new environment, it has become calm.
Come back, because new york will always be that scenery, so near and so far away.
"It's like walking on the knife edge of new york."
I studied abroad for five years, and my undergraduate degree was in Europe. 13 moved to new york, a heart that I wanted to stay. Maybe new york has an influence on everyone who passes by. Here, you can get in touch with the cutting-edge things in the world, and the constant freshness every day can give everyone who is new here unlimited enthusiasm.
From the day the plane landed at Kennedy Airport, I began to look for internship opportunities, to enter the real work and life of Americans, and to understand the living conditions of many China people in the United States. Over the past few years, I have probably seen some foreseeable future for my personal development in the United States.
Seeing that domestic partners gradually enter famous enterprises or big platforms to hold important positions, the future is limitless, and then looking at their wandering state in new york, it has become extremely extravagant to settle down and solve emotional problems. Under pressure, I decided to return to China.
It has been more than a year since I returned to China. I have been working in a foreign company in Lujiazui, and I still like my job. Last year, I found a recognized person. Everything has entered a relatively stable state, and I can start planning my next life.
Looking back at all the decisions made, there is not much emotion. If you are in New York State, you can write a lot of things when you are excited, so you can see that people are much calmer after returning home, perhaps because people can go in and out at home, while in new york, it is like being at the forefront all the time, so you should always be vigilant.
Anyway, what goes around comes around. As long as you know your own needs, keep working hard and keep acting, you will get the desired results!
"May we be confused and grow together."
For various reasons, the work visa was suspended for 2 months, and the boss was unwilling to take the risk of illegally hiring employees, forcing me to find a new job and willing to cooperate with my identity. After nearly three months of hard work, I didn't find a company willing to accept me. It happened that a good company in China offered me a job opportunity, so I went home and left new york.
I was in a complicated mood when I left. On the one hand, I have been groping in new york for two years, and I feel very tired because I have no stable identity. The thought of a stable job waiting for me in China fills me with expectations. On the other hand, to leave this city that my friends and I are fighting for, a city full of stories, I also have regrets and disappointment in my heart.
Time flies, it has been about 8 months. Think about it, it's about 1/3' s time in new york. From my own life, I think there are the following changes:
Life is stable.
Everyone says that in new york, you are always looking for a job, a house and a boyfriend. Indeed, because of my identity, competition or too many other excellent jobs, I changed three jobs and found four jobs in new york for two years. The longest job was in a small office, 1 year for two months. Houses that are always shared with others are always small and shabby. As for boyfriends, what does it have to do with me?
Now that my job is stable, I won't worry about being burned to death. This stability probably comes from the fact that China's original culture is not so competitive. When you join an enterprise, your colleagues and bosses are actually looking forward to seeing you grow up and expecting you to grow up with the team.
In this environment, I spent a lot of time learning new business and improving my knowledge and skills. Thinking about how to do a good job and how to handle the relationship between various departments gives me the opportunity to deepen in an industry and makes me feel very valuable.
As for the house, it is probably a strange phenomenon in China. Everyone wants to fight for a house. It seems that if you have a house, you will feel safe, even if you exhaust your savings, your parents' savings and your cash flow.
I'd better rent it, but the rental conditions are really much better than those in new york. Of course, the current state of mind can be improved, but there is nothing to look forward to.
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Social decrease
China's social level is still far lower than that of new york, and most of the social circles still come from your classmates. On the one hand, many friends go home to take care of their wives, husbands and children. On the other hand, young people's mass activities are still rare, and people in their 6070 s are rich in social activities, mostly for their careers.
Most of the time I go straight home after work. Think about it. In new york, there are always many activities in the evening, such as happy hours when wine is half price, or real estate transactions we have participated in, or picnics in Central Park, gathering people to study and so on. At home, although colleagues have a good relationship, talking and laughing, there is really little private communication.
Generally speaking, I feel that although the general environment has changed, domestic and foreign countries have their own characteristics and are full of nutrition. The most important thing is to know your own direction and the source of your happiness, so that you can still find the nourishment for your growth in different environments.
May we be confused and grow together.
"Leaving is for a better return."
In the past three years, I have flown about 6.5438+0.5 million kilometers every year, which is roughly equivalent to going back and forth between new york and Beijing seven times a year. The year before last was a busy job, and last year was a leisurely study.
Life looks like an asteroid on the earth, revolving around it day and night.
Every time I leave new york in a year, I am on a business trip. Time is long or short. Every time I go to Beijing, I am counting the time to return to new york. In a year's time, new york's definition flickered from far to near, from bright to dark, from clear to vague, but he was full of expectations for New York life.
New york here refers to Manhattan, representing the professional and interesting soul at work; Beijing refers to Guo Mao Huamao Financial Street; Business trip refers to moving bricks, including regular working hours from 10 in the morning to 10 in the evening, including eating, drinking and short-term fitness.
China pays attention to the outlet, and always hears that you get rich overnight. New york pays attention to the long-term lifestyle. No one in China has time to listen to your style, and you haven't made billions. Style is not a topic you should talk about.
New york and Beijing have the same offices, busy people, and almost all the hardware is the same. However, the vast streets of the Isle of Man may continue to work overtime in slippers at night, and the brightly lit buildings in Beijing are used to working overtime.
In Beijing, it is a fighter posture, Beijing is a cheetah, and new york is a golden lion. This sentence does not mean that Manhattan pursues infinite heights and Beijing pursues infinite greatness. New york people believe that life lasts forever, while Beijingers lose their lives and live forever. No one is confused, no one has time to be confused, just clap your hands and applaud.
Oh, yes. What's it like for new york to go back to Beijing on business?
Stop struggling and you stop living.
Then why did you leave new york?
Want a better return and cherish the present.
postscript
There are two reasons for writing this article. One is that seven or eight friends have returned to China in the past two months, and they have mixed feelings in their hearts. The other is that I recently wrote some articles about how good it is to return to China. I really want my most trusted friends to talk about their life after returning to China, and let you judge for yourself.
I like the sentence "There is no road in life in vain, and every step counts." Therefore, even if there is unwillingness and injustice in my heart, there is pain and despair in my life; But every step you take, every choice you make, everything you experience and everyone you meet has its value.
Whether we return to China or not, our experience is unique. These years are the most brilliant and vivid chapters in our lives.
Finally, super super thanks to my lovely friends. When I return to China, I will give you a super-super-big one!