Do you have such people around you? They were kind and grateful when they borrowed money from you. Once they borrow money, they will immediately return to their original state. When it's time to pay back the money, they disappear, can't be contacted, don't return the information, and make you anxious. Just kneel down and ask him to pay back the money.
Because many friends around me have such experiences, I am very sensitive to such things and often tell myself that I will only lend money to my good friends for emergencies. I have always followed this.
As the saying goes, you can't walk by the river without wet shoes.
Two years ago, an old classmate who didn't have much contact often revealed that he wanted to borrow money from me when we met. Sure enough, the good times didn't last long, so he borrowed money from me.
At that time, I just resigned, I couldn't find a job, and I didn't have any money. Considering that a person is afraid of borrowing money, I politely refused.
Last June, an old classmate said that she had a third child. At that time, I was in the gym. I still feel a little guilty because I didn't lend him money for the first time. To put it bluntly, the heart is too soft.
So I lent him money. Before I came into contact with him, he had a good personality and a strong sense of responsibility.
Later, my father was seriously ill and hospitalized. Considering the need for money, I asked him if he could pay back the money in advance. I'm afraid to borrow money. I feel empty and always have a bad feeling.
It took him several hours to reply to me, and I knew I was a little hung up, because the frequency of replying to messages was obviously much slower than when I borrowed money. I made a concession in my mind, as long as he paid back the money before the Chinese New Year.
I didn't think much at that time, and I always comforted him. I understand his difficulties. After all, as a pillar, I have to raise three children.
Until now, he has lost contact, the news has not been answered, the phone can be connected, and no one answered.
Ask a friend and say that he also borrowed money from others and classmates, but he can't get in touch and lose contact.
Friend's paraphrased:
Borrowed me 1400, said to pay me back next month, never gave it, borrowed a debt;
At the beginning, I bought a car, with a car loan of more than 50 thousand and a credit card freeze of 20 thousand. I was summoned by the court to execute it. In order to pay back the credit card, I mortgaged my car for 20 thousand, ready to pay back the credit card. Later, because I didn't manage it well, he spent it.
Then the car loan has been urged, and the credit card has also been urged, because his car loan has not yet returned 20 thousand, and the car can not come back;
Every new year, I will borrow more than two or three thousand yuan from my relatives. Relatives owe 20,000 to 30,000, credit card 20,000 and car loan 20,000 to 30,000. Our friends add up to one or two thousand yuan.
It is said that it adds up to almost 80 thousand.
I shudder to hear that. I don't think the money will come back.
Thoughts on borrowing money
Cai Kangyong said: I advise you to be an indifferent person, not an enthusiastic one. I think he is trying to convince me, but there are thousands of me in Qian Qian, and I can't stand the hardships of others. Because there was a time when I was soft-hearted and kind, I borrowed money, and no one knew my own suffering.
These days, it is the uncle who owes money and the grandson who calls to repay it. This sentence really touched me.
A friend of mine lent a friend thousands of dollars, but he never paid it back. The debt was collected at his home, and his family didn't know it. It's no use writing IOUs. He said that he called the police, and reluctantly returned part of it, saying that the latter would return it slowly.
Also, my best friend's ex-boyfriend didn't know where he got the loan. He spent the money, but he didn't pay it back. The best friend kindly helped him pay back the money first and then broke up. My ex-boyfriend also threatened my best friend to make up or not pay back the money.
My best friend said in a rage that she didn't want him to pay back the money.
One of our classmates is very thick-skinned, and all the students around him borrowed it once and didn't return it. The classmate sent a screenshot and licked his face for the second time.
To sum up, I really want to say, how thick-skinned are these grandfathers? Are you Kaonashi? You are shameless and completely dishonest. Who will help you when you are in trouble?
I don't know when, but paying back money has become the only criterion for testing friendship.
I lent money to my good friend more than once. Nowadays, borrowing money has become a sensitive topic, and everyone will not talk about it easily. Talking about money hurts feelings. I have two friends who really need to borrow money, so I lent them without saying anything.
When it's time to pay back the money, they don't need you to rush them. They call you to collect the money themselves, and sometimes they will pay back the money in advance. Such people are true friends.
People always say that you can only see who your real friends are when you are in trouble, but from the perspective of empathy, whether your own personality deserves others' help and whether you deserve real friends, you should always put yourself in each other's shoes.
Look at people's hearts when borrowing money, and look at people's character when paying back money.
No matter how poor you are, don't want borrow money to spend! No matter how difficult it is, don't break your word!
If you owe money, you must try your best to make money to pay it back. If not, let people know that you haven't forgotten, be an upright person and make things clear.
Never lose the trust of others. Others trust you, which is your value in others' minds. Life is long, don't be narrow-minded.
Be a good person, everything will be there, don't overdraw the trust of people around you! Be grateful to be a man and do things with integrity!