At school, I can see a boy on my way to and from school. He is so sunny, handsome and free and easy that I almost fell in love with him at first sight. In the days to come, the motivation to go to school every day comes from seeing him on the way to and from school.
So, we met for three years. I have seen him almost every day for three years. I am a mouse. Even though I endure the pain of "the most familiar stranger", I still "make" this experience without hesitation every day, and I get a certain electric shock at a fixed point every day. From then on, I fell in love with this feeling and couldn't extricate myself.
Later, he went to college and left the city. I never saw him again. Later, I also went to college. But in the days of youth, I will never forget the "electric shock" that this encounter brought me. Later, I worked, and on my way to and from work every day, I seemed to be looking forward to meeting in the past.
This is the power of dopamine. Like poison.
For a long time, I was controlled by dopamine and couldn't find an exit. So, I read a lot of books, wondering who I am and why I play the image of a good girl, but I am so eager for his unruly and freedom. I envy him and I am eager to be him. I can never release this power.
It is hidden in the other side of my personality, and I can't see the sunshine, so I transferred this expectation to him. His unruly projection is in sharp contrast with my usual good girl, but only I know that my heart is so wild. Maybe people have many faces, self-confidence and inferiority, gentleman and barbarism, formality and relaxation ... A friend once said that how confident you are, how inferior you are. These forces have always existed with each other. They are twin brothers, always there and never give up.
When can the sides of the body play their greatest role at the right time? How can we let good forces overcome the bad side? Many times, we use ourselves to control the id and suppress those bad thoughts. Too much repression will converge into a powerful pressure, which will be vented from other outlets with another force.
As a result, we see a lot of news from newspapers and magazines, such as teachers' indecency, celebrities losing weight and fainting, spending a lot of money on shopping and so on. On the one hand, it strictly controls itself, on the other hand, it is extremely released in other forms.
Self-control is finally tired.
It turns out that it also needs exercise, just like muscles. The more you practice, the stronger you practice. But this doesn't mean that we can control our desires in a more balanced way. Yes, in a balanced way.
I strictly control my weight and will inevitably be extravagant in other aspects; Conscientious at work, definitely depressed in private life; I play a good husband and wife at home, but I am more likely to meet a mistress ... but dopamine is everywhere, chocolate, potato chips, waste, luxury goods, beautiful women and luxury cars. All scientific directions show that cells are "beneficial to avoid harm", and those ubiquitous benefits have become the source of stimulating us to release dopamine.
I control myself here and indulge myself there. This is a common feature of many of us modern people. Such extremes will not only lead to various social problems, but also put themselves in an unbalanced balance and swing.
Pay attention to self-control, better control the N faces in your brain, and make them all reach a balanced state, so as not to produce extreme situations.
People who want to lose weight, instead of controlling their appetite in an extreme way and not eating or drinking for a long time, should reduce their food intake every meal and eat a little when they see what they want, but it will not cause excessive depression of food or serious weight rebound.
People who want to make some achievements in their work, instead of indulging in their work and giving up their private time at work, might as well concentrate on their work, go to bars to listen to music, fitness and art exhibitions after work, and relax and enjoy life.
Of course, these are all the same aspects of self-control. Some people eat very little, but buy a lot when shopping, which is the expression of imbalance of self-control in different aspects. The ultimate pursuit of a certain aspect will inevitably lead to the imbalance of the balance. All-round development, balanced development and harmonious development, all aspects have moderate self-control, but they can ensure that they can eat and drink, and they will always be in a state of "not satisfied" and "seven points full". This is the best living condition.
What is the explanation for this optimal living condition? In other words, people are most energetic when they are half-saturated. Eating too much will make you sleepy and lazy; Eating too little will make you hungry and eager. This "seven-point full" state is not only applicable to eating, but also to all aspects of life. Don't overdo it, don't be too conservative, satisfy your "desire" and exercise your self-control.
This is my understanding of self-control-satiated with food and drink.