How to prevent former white-collar syndrome around New Year's Day?

● Xu and Li Ronglan take stock of the annual white-collar syndrome. In the eyes of many people, "white-collar" is a happy word, representing a certain status, identity, quality of life, income and working environment. In the eyes of ordinary people, New Year's Day, Spring Festival, and Christmas, which has sprung up among white-collar workers in recent years, are white-collar workers not luxuriously dressed, feasting and carefree? ! However, if you approach the white-collar workers, you will find that the work and life of the white-collar workers are not easy, especially in the days before and after the Chinese New Year, they often suffer from white-collar syndrome. There are several kinds of common white-collar syndrome-● fear of marriage syndrome at the end of the year According to the author's investigation, with the changes of the times, late marriage and late childbirth have already become the fashion of urban young people, especially white-collar workers. On the one hand, their marriage ran aground, on the other hand, their parents urged them to get married. Especially during the Spring Festival, parents are particularly concerned about their children's marriage, which leads some unmarried young people to worry about it in the new year. Psychologists believe that the phenomenon of "leftover men" and "leftover women" is not uncommon. During the Spring Festival, it is a good thing for parents, relatives and friends to ask about the marital status of young people, because it is much better for someone to care about what to say than for no one to care. Worry is unnecessary. Therefore, young people who are "urged to get married" by their parents should understand. At the same time, we should change our thinking, instead of worrying about it, why not be honest about our unmarried situation, take advantage of the good opportunity of frequent exchanges between the Spring Festival and the New Year, entrust relatives and friends, match the bridge, and even go on blind dates to conclude a beautiful marriage? "Shake hands with beautiful women, talk to profound women, communicate with successful women and live with ordinary women" is another joke circulating on the Internet, which is to persuade men. However, from another angle, for the "leftover women", why not "shake hands with handsome men, talk to profound men, communicate more with successful men and live with ordinary men"? As long as you are good enough, pragmatic enough, and not too demanding, it is also a natural thing to harvest a happy love marriage and be a fairy companion. ● Entertainment syndrome: Year-end wrap-up meeting, fraternity meeting, group meeting, hometown meeting, thank-you meeting, tea party ... At the end of the year, the lights are brightly lit and the cups and plates are staggered. Entertainment is often inseparable from eating, eating more and drinking less, leading to overnutrition and obesity. Similarly, too much animal protein intake will also increase the burden on the kidneys. Excessive intake of acidic substances such as chicken, duck and fish can easily lead to fatigue, fatigue and listlessness, and eventually lead to a series of diseases. Although entertainment is a catalyst to connect feelings, it must not be a stumbling block to health. Too much alcohol and tobacco is a health hazard. ● Year-end Etiquette Syndrome China is a country of etiquette, and reciprocity is essential, especially in today's increasingly fierce competition in the workplace. The folk song says, "Life depends on sports, officials are active, and promotion requires action." . Even if it is not for promotion, even if it is for the convenience of normal work, as subordinates, people who celebrate the New Year usually visit their leaders or bosses at home. And it is inevitable to get together with classmates, comrades and fellow villagers during the New Year. Although the party is lively, it is undoubtedly a big competition for everyone's career, position and income. In contrast, some people are inevitably full of ambition, while others are ashamed to speak, even ashamed, which leads to some underdeveloped classmates, comrades-in-arms and fellow villagers being ashamed to attend the meeting and generating a lot of hatred. ● Time syndrome Time syndrome refers to the phenomenon of emotional fluctuation and physiological changes caused by people's reaction to time. Every year around New Year's Day, white-collar workers are often overwhelmed by busy work and numerous ideas and activities, and often complain that time is tight, tasks are heavy and they are exhausted. Coupled with the fast-paced urban life, urban white-collar workers feel that time is getting less and less, and the focus on their careers makes people feel anxious and nervous about the urgent time, which will lead to symptoms such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure and shortness of breath. ● Information anxiety syndrome Personnel changes, economic information, statistical data ... The end of the year is often the time when information comes out, and for white-collar workers, this information is particularly important and indispensable. Therefore, at the end of every year, some people read a lot of information every day, such as the Internet, TV, newspapers and radio, which are all within the scope of information collection, but they are still worried about what information they have missed, and they surf the Internet aimlessly every day when they are free, always in an anxious state. Psychologists believe that this is a mental illness caused by self-compulsion and tension. Although patients with information anxiety syndrome have no pathological changes, they will suddenly have symptoms such as nausea, vomiting, impatience and mental fatigue. It can also make people feel psychologically lost and easily lose confidence in themselves. The key to prevent information anxiety syndrome is to treat a large amount of information correctly, learn to choose information, be good at analyzing all kinds of information and get useful information from it. Have an optimistic and confident attitude towards life, be willing to communicate with people, and have a wide range of topics. Don't just care about network information. ● Before and after the festival of conference syndrome, work summary meeting, New Year's work arrangement meeting, year-end commendation meeting, fraternity meeting, group visit, hometown meeting, thank-you meeting, tea party … from Monday to Friday, regular meeting, briefing meeting, information briefing meeting, weekend review … meetings, small meetings and even holidays have to work overtime, and the meetings seem endless, which makes white-collar workers overwhelmed. ● Long vacation syndrome Holidays or holidays should be good for health. Contrary to expectations, white-collar workers are usually busy at work, and they will be a little lazy and relaxed during the Spring Festival holiday. They are close to their lovers or relatives and friends, very much in love with each other, even overeating, playing cards and chess, and enjoying themselves. However, after the long vacation, I suddenly felt uncomfortable and unnatural when I caught up with work. The outstanding performance is that in the first few days after the festival, many white-collar workers frequently reported their health status to the police. White-collar workers should have a good attitude. No matter how big the official is, no matter how much money, the prince is still dragging his feet. As long as you can eat, the money won't break. Don't be afraid to leave early because you have less money. Live well, drag on slowly, there are still tens of thousands a year; Don't compare, don't compare, don't be angry with yourself. I often hear white-collar workers sigh that they are too tired to live. Where does fatigue come from? Because of our career, work and life, there are always some regrets that seem hard to eliminate, which makes us feel unspeakable disappointment and trouble. In fact, no matter great men or mortals, celebrities or tycoons, ordinary people or beggars, anyone's life may encounter emotional trauma, physical disability, disillusionment, career decline and other unfavorable things, and anyone may also face many temptations such as money, power and beauty. If we suffer in success, complain in setbacks, struggle in temptation, haggle over every ounce in gains and losses, worry in losses, and be trapped in a circle of one person at a time, how can we not be tired? For example, before and after the Spring Festival is often a period of personnel changes. You don't have to care too much about promotion, salary increase and bonus. Paying too much attention will inevitably lead to mental fatigue, not to mention cheating, competing with each other, vicious competition and unscrupulous means before and after the Spring Festival. In fact, the most troublesome thing for white-collar workers before and after middle age is promotion. In other words, promotion brings the most troubles and tiredness to white-collar workers. There is a famous saying in Zhuge Liang's letter to his son, which is widely spread-not indifferent, not quiet, not far away. Since ancient times, honest officials have the reputation of being honest, mediocre officials have dead ends, and corrupt officials have dead ends. Corrupt officials linger on, or people die, or their families are ruined, or they are notorious for thousands of years, which makes one generation or even several generations restless; Although most officials don't fight for power and gain, they don't take bribes and commit crimes. Although their official careers are dull or poor, they have a safe life, a happy family and a happy life. A large number of facts show that if you are indifferent to your ambitions, life is safe; Violation of law and discipline, corruption and bribery, and crimes against the wind are unforgivable and will be punished. Even Mao Zedong, an old man, once said, "Good is rewarded with good, and evil with evil. This is not to say that it is not the time to conceal the report. " . There is a jingle, full of the feeling of life, which is worth reading: "No matter how big the official is, no matter how much money there is, the prince is still dragging his feet." As long as you can eat, the money won't break. Don't be afraid to leave early because you have less money. Live well, drag on slowly, there are still tens of thousands a year; Don't compare, don't compare, don't be angry with yourself. Eat less salt, be jealous, play less mahjong and take more walks; Go to bed on time, get up on time, run and dance to keep fit. Father is heaven, mother is earth, and parents should keep it in mind when they are filial; Husband and wife love each other, children are filial, and family is more important than anything else. "Life is too short to live so tired, why not get rid of it, jump out of the small circle of personal interests, stay calm, keep thinking, look down on the gains and losses of success or failure, interest disputes, pay less attention to the short and long of the moment, get rid of the shackles of the secular, pay attention to purifying the mind and enriching the mind. With a noble heart and a wise mind, even if you are poor like a beggar, you can live a full and happy life. On the contrary, even if you are richer than a prince, your life is boring. When others are promoted and developed, let blessings replace jealousy; When others encounter misfortune, let love and assistance replace indifference. Don't flatter the powerful, and don't bully the poor. Facing the adjustment of professional title, position and salary. When these tests can't be taken off, accept them. Zhuangzi, a Chinese philosopher, is a model of detachment. In his works, Yunshan is grey, the sky shakes, the virgin is graceful and the baby is innocent. It is a magnificent, elegant and romantic poetic world. After reading "Zhuangzi", Zeng Guofan had such an experience: "Knowing the length of the sky, and the short experience I have experienced, the troubles will come, so I should be patient and wait for it; Knowing that the land is big, but the people who live in it are small, they will retreat to women and show an open mind when they are competing for glory and profit. With an open mind, life will be more pure and free, and this feeling of detachment is worth thinking about and learning from today. If we understand detachment, and strive to achieve detachment, we will be as comfortable as Yun Xiang blue sky, birds flying freely in the mountains and fish swimming in the blue waves. So why bother?