The first type: boyfriend is average, you are weak.
The second type: the boyfriend's strength max, the comparison shows that you are weak.
However, the analysis of these two situations is different.
Analyze the first one first. Your boyfriend is usually not very independent, and he is not the kind of person who can take care of him. If he is weak and can't take care of you at all, so he thinks you are not independent enough, and everything depends on him, he will think, I can't finish my own things and I have to be busy with yours. This day is really tiring.
In this case, sister, you have to think about it. After all, if you are really in a hurry to get married, it is really unreliable for your boyfriend to abandon you. Girls are indeed weaker than boys in physical quality and psychological quality (except for special circumstances, there are many strong women in society now, so give it to 666). If your boyfriend can't consider you from your point of view at this time, it's not easy to directly say that you are not independent. Girls' youth is really precious. At this time, your relationship has such a problem. If it is really not solved, it will hurt girls a lot, right?
Then I will summarize the first situation after analyzing it: boys are unreliable and girls are not independent. They were really drunk and knelt down. At this time, girls must keep their eyes open and see if the man around you can give you a lifetime of happiness.
In the second case, boys are particularly strong and girls are slightly weaker, so boys will feel that this girl is really not independent!
We will often see this contrast.
Maybe this girl is not that weak, but the boy is too strong. As the saying goes, there is no harm without comparison. This comparison is likely to result in polarization between men and women. Boys are particularly strong and girls are particularly weak.
At this time, girls don't prevent you from releasing your little universe to boys. Actually, I'm not weak. I just let you down, for fear of losing face. Try to get along with a boy once and make sure that the boy won't complain so much about you next time.
I make you think I'm afraid of you. This indomitable spirit is especially effective for those strong boys, who usually look at you with new eyes and treat you better. Because their eyes see our girls' tolerance and tolerance for boys. Isn't it better for boys to cherish you more?
Finally, let's analyze why there is an embarrassing situation that boyfriends dislike themselves for not being independent enough, and they will be disliked if they don't understand that they are weak.
The question of equality between men and women mentioned at the beginning is the answer. Then why do boys have to be strong? Boys also have a weak side. No one is completely indestructible and quiet inside. Boys sometimes feel weak, and I think we should also think about whether the details are not handled properly at this time. It's not that being weak as a girl is normal.
Then why do girls have to be weaker? Don't you think so? Now many girls are independent bosses, no worse than boys. Look at Gree air-conditioning Dong Mingzhu, how many people are inspired by the story of this strong woman.
Therefore, the problem of men and women cannot be the same thing. We need to communicate more, hoping to help you.