I saw a video, around 1 year, a daughter-in-law sunbathed her children and her grandmother took care of the baby, saying that her mother-in-law would help take care of the baby 1 year, and her weight increased from 100 kg to 140 kg.
The daughter-in-law said that her mother-in-law likes to buy snacks when she is in a good mood. Some netizens also said that if the daughter-in-law is good to her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law will naturally be in a good mood.
Mother-in-law is the backbone of the army with children. On the one hand, working mothers let their mother-in-law take care of their children, on the other hand, grandmothers are generally not bad to their children. On the other hand, the economic pressure is small. It will undoubtedly cost a lot of money to ask a nanny to take care of the children.
In our community, families with grandmothers and babies account for the majority. A few days ago, I met a young nanny, whose child was only 1 many years old. She told me that when the child went to kindergarten, she would ask her mother-in-law to quit her present job and help her take care of the child. She has to go to work.
It turns out that my mother-in-law has retired, so she can't stay at home and go out to look for a job. If the mother-in-law needs to take care of the children at home, the old lady will not hesitate to resign and go home to take care of her grandchildren.
In many families in China, mother-in-law has made great contributions to children's small families. Especially those mothers who have left their homes and come to the city where their sons live to take care of their sons and daughters-in-law, it is not easy.
We have to admit that the happiness of many small families is based on the children's grandmother helping to take care of the children day and night.
1, the baby is getting fatter and fatter, or it may be "overworked".
Many treasure mothers who take care of their babies personally have this experience. Taking care of the baby is very tiring. I can't get a good rest day and night, but my body is getting fatter and fatter.
This is because if we don't bring a baby, we can go running and fitness, and the elderly can go dancing in the square dance for a walk, but when we bring a baby, we are almost welded together. Besides taking care of the baby, we can't find time to exercise, and we will get fat unconsciously.
Taking care of the baby is very tiring, which requires both physical strength and brain power. I ate a lot without knowing it. Babies will not be willing to throw away the leftover food, but adults will eat it. If you don't deliberately control your diet, you will easily get fat.
The slow metabolism of the elderly, coupled with staying up late, can easily lead to endocrine disorders and easy to gain weight. It is not a good thing for the elderly to get fat. As the saying goes, money is hard to buy old and thin. Although you don't have to be thin, it is healthier to maintain a standard weight and a good figure.
So although the mother-in-law in the video is fat, it is not necessarily because she enjoys happiness. Obesity may be bad for her health. While taking care of her children, the old man must pay attention to his physical condition and adjust his diet and work and rest in time. Children's good health is also the greatest blessing.
2, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, and mother-in-law and baby are more comfortable together.
There are also many families with grandmothers, because many novice mothers are afraid that their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will get along sooner or later, and would rather let their mothers help with their children than disturb their grandmothers.
Women are particularly prone to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law during childbirth and confinement. It is very important to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
To a great extent, old people and mothers will cause conceptual conflicts. Mothers usually take care of their babies according to what the books say, and old people take care of their babies according to their own experience, so it is inevitable that old and new ideas will collide.
A good way to solve the conflict of ideas about bringing children is to find ways to make the elderly read more parenting articles and books. In a subtle way, the elderly will gradually accept new and scientific ways to take care of their children.
It is important for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to turn a blind eye, understand each other and be considerate of each other.
Especially for the elderly, it is very hard to help with the baby. Give the elderly as much rest time as possible. Parents of children should take over the responsibility of taking care of their children after work and give the elderly some time to relax.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along well and the family atmosphere is harmonious, which is also conducive to the growth of children. When the old people and children are comfortable, the young couple can work and live more safely.
3, the husband's emotional intelligence is high, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more harmonious.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, and her husband is also a beneficiary. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is poor, husband will be angry with splint.
A husband with high emotional intelligence can act as a lubricant between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which will skillfully resolve the small contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Xiao Li's wife, Xiao Li, usually has some conflicts with her mother-in-law who goes home to help her granddaughter because of trivial matters, but every time Xiao Li Can easily helps her mother-in-law resolve her unhappiness.
For example, every time after work, Xiao Li cooks and Oda washes the dishes after dinner. Her mother-in-law was very unhappy at first. She said ODA was too lazy to let Xiao Li cook every day.
When Tian Gang was about to have a seizure, Xiao Li said to her mother, "Mom, I love cooking. My cooking is delicious. Oda's cooking is terrible. If she cooks every day, I will be hungry. Besides, I don't want to wash dishes. Working together like this is good for us. I like cooking. Oda loves washing dishes. Our husband and wife cooperate perfectly. "
Xiao Li said this, and Oda's mother-in-law had nothing to say.
There are many such things. Xiao Li's high emotional intelligence resolved the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a few words. Now the relationship between ODA and her mother-in-law is getting better and better, thanks to Xiao Li's high emotional intelligence.
When the mother-in-law comes to help with the children, the old man is not afraid of being tired. They are afraid that their children will be unhappy and their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will contradict each other. If the husband has high emotional intelligence and knows how to coordinate the relationship between wife and mother, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more easily resolved.
It is said that the old people's love for their grandchildren is obvious after several generations. My mother-in-law saved a lot of things for the young couple to take care of the baby, and she must be grateful to her mother-in-law. But when it comes to getting along, she should care more about the elderly, be considerate and understand each other. As children grow up, life will inevitably get better and better.