2. One more thing you should understand is that people are completely different, so don't lump "women" together. It can be seen that you don't have much contact with women and have bad luck. The girl who lied to you, I think it's just that you met the wrong person. She doesn't mean "woman".
3. Women are naturally better-looking than men, and there are far fewer real handsome guys than beautiful women. In women's understanding, a real handsome guy is a man who looks like a woman. Therefore, for many women, men look alike except those who are particularly handsome and ugly. At this time, choosing a spouse depends on ability.
Those girls who judge people by their appearances are basically little girls who have never set foot in society. Boys have similar skills on campus before they set foot on the society. At this time, appearance is very important.
Don't you see, on campus, there are not only handsome guys, but also not so handsome hooligans. This is the attraction of men's unique charm, which will expand after entering the society.
4. It can be seen that you haven't had much contact with society, so your concept of mate selection is based on yourself, which is analogous to treating a woman's mate selection as a man's (men only look at her appearance when they set foot in society, but women are different, because women are naturally more beautiful than men and their natural ability is worse than men).
In fact, for women after entering the society, they look at men differently from men. Your concept of mate selection is still stuck in "appearance determines value", thinking that even with money, you can only buy a woman's body, but not a woman's heart. I'm telling you, this is completely wrong. It is true that some women only look at men's money, but this is only a minority. In fact, what really attracts women is not money, but men's skills, their careers, and even men's status exceeds money. But in this society, skills are often associated with money, so many men misunderstand that money attracts women.
You have money now, but you can't attract women. That's because money is not earned by your skills, but by your family. In the eyes of women, you only have money and no ability. Some women will look at you at most because of vanity and status, but they will not really be attracted to you. But when you have the ability to make big money by yourself, it's not just money that attracts women.
Don't you find that those successful men, or ordinary sports stars, are more attractive than beautiful women when they show their skills at work, when they command other men and when they overwhelm others? Not to mention the handsome guy.
In the social animal world, in ancient society, the males with the most wives could fight? Or leadership? Still handsome? The purpose of human mate selection is to choose the strong and make their genes live better, so the genes with ability are very attractive. Handsome and beautiful, why is it valuable in this era? Because handsome and beautiful can satisfy others' eyes, make others like them, and make others like themselves, so as to gain more living resources and live better, and genes can be combined with the strong and exist.
When you look at a beautiful woman, you will secrete a hormone and feel satisfied, so that you think she is excellent. And you look at those talented people, you look at those sports stars scoring goals, and famous politicians and entrepreneurs speak. Do you think they are cool at work? Therefore, skill can also make people produce another hormone, another kind of satisfaction, which even exceeds the attraction of beauty. Both men and women are full of charm when sports stars conquer their opponents with goals.
You may ask, why can't a woman really like a man when she has the ability?
Women can't attract men, because, compared with men, really capable women are as rare as really beautiful men, just as beauty is a woman's patent, and skill is a kind of androgen attraction, which is unique to men.
Your present state of mind is self-abased and not confident at all, which makes it more difficult for you to find a woman, because an unconfident man will give a woman a feeling of "no ability", and a man's confidence is an attractive magic for a woman. This man will attract women even if he has no real talent and learning (but generally speaking, a man without advantages is hard to be confident), and a man without self-confidence will be hard to continue to attract women as long as he is not handsome.
6. Now you are born with each other because of your inferiority in appearance. Inferiority leads to negativity, no upward motivation and self-abandonment, which is very bad for your future life. So you should first adjust your mentality and get rid of this wrong idea. The first girl who lied to you instilled the wrong idea in you. She hurt you and made you negative. It's just that a little girl like her thinks so. Really, women who set foot in society rarely think so. If you don't believe me, you can search Baidu for related discussions and see what most women say.
For many women, the value of an average-looking man is higher than that of a man who is a little handsome but not particularly handsome. For those handsome guys, there are also men with good skills. Since ancient times, beautiful women love heroes, not handsome guys, which shows this.
Only when a man doesn't have a skill, appearance becomes very important.
7: It's really useless to attract women by personality. But talent is a skill, and I can tell you responsibly that attracting women is absolutely useful and useful. If you are really talented, it will definitely change your temperament.
In today's society, it is not money, but career that best embodies talent. Men with careers and abilities are very handsome. Others, who are humorous and know some art, are just small talents, which may not attract women, but can command other men and make others listen to your career, which is "great talent".
Women judge the value of a stranger mainly by temperament. Appearance is a part of temperament, and temperament also depends on behavior, speech and manners. Therefore, appearance association, indeed, good appearance will give people a feeling of good temperament and make them feel good inside. But that's only if the contact is not deep. After deep contact, your inner nature will gradually affect your temperament in the eyes of others.
Just like when you first met a group of strangers, you would rank the value of each person by 1, 2, 3, 4, but after a period of contact, this ranking may be completely disrupted, and the person you looked down on will become someone you respect.
Only when you can show your connotation and talent will you be attractive. (If you are really talented)
8. If you can't cultivate talents now, I suggest you use "unique personality" to attract women, that is, to make women feel that your personality is special, cool, unique and confident. This unique personality will remind women of their talents and skills. As long as you keep this aura, even if you don't have real skills, some women will still think you are excellent or even unique.
Unique personality is also an attraction and charm for women.
9. With the increase of women's age, sex hormone secretion becomes more and more important, especially after menopause. In the eyes of women, the attractiveness of handsome guys is declining, while the attractiveness of skills and abilities will not depreciate. There are still many women in their thirties who like handsome guys. But has anyone ever seen a 40-year-old aunt return to idolization and infatuate with handsome guys? Aunt is obsessed with money, money, status and a capable man.
Imagine, when you were a child, did you admire beautiful women more, or did those capable people have special attraction to children? Women look at the opposite sex after menopause and lack sex hormones, just like when they were young.
10: I can see that your requirements are not high. You just want to find a woman who really likes and loves you. I don't think you can find it now. In addition to the above reasons, it is also possible that your social circle is too small to contact people. How can I find someone who likes you?