Can jumping out of the so-called comfort zone really make people achieve more?
Those who always make you jump out of your comfort zone are ruining your life!
First, let's take a look. What is a comfort zone?
The comfort zone is what you are doing at present, which is relatively easy and not challenging for your current level. After a long time, you will get used to this way of doing things more and more, so you don't want to leave this state. This is called indulgence.
Psychologist Robert; m； Yerkes and John; d； Dawson once said that a relatively comfortable state can make people's behavior at a stable level, so as to get the best performance, but at the same time we also need a relatively moderate anxiety, that is, a space with a slightly higher pressure than the ordinary level, which we call the "optimal anxiety zone".
That is, the "blue area" in the corresponding figure is located on the left side of the green comfort zone.
For example, I am a good teacher and enjoy my work and life every day. If you can't stay in the comfort zone all the time, should you quit your job as a teacher and become a doctor or lawyer to expand your comfort zone? According to this understanding, the theory of psychological comfort zone is ridiculous.
Why are so many people encouraging people to jump out of their comfort zone in the current social environment?
Why should we jump out of our comfort zone?
It is because we want to grow, and the driving force for growth comes from our own pursuit and satisfaction of so-called happiness and sense of accomplishment (there may be many other factors).
For example, I want to jump out of the comfort zone of staying at home all the time because I want to enhance my ability to adapt to society and realize my self-worth (my own pursuit), or maybe your parents want you to improve your communication skills and self-reliance ability.
Because of life pressure, anxiety and other factors, everyone wants to jump out of the original circle, seek greater value, and get rid of dissatisfaction with the status quo as soon as possible.
Therefore, it seems to be a trend to encourage others to get out of the comfort zone, and many people say that "not jumping out" means they don't want to make progress and indulge in depravity.
You have a good life. People always remind you to throw away these wonderful days. You are content with the ordinary. People tell you to live a valuable and meaningful life, so that you can live up to this life, and so on.
Of course, some people can really jump out. It can only be said that the "comfort zone" you thought before is not your "comfort zone", but an "uncomfortable zone" at most.
Can people really achieve greater success by constantly jumping out of their "psychological comfort zone"?
Jumping out of the comfort zone with the wind is mostly not "jumping out" but "into the pit"
My friend Xiao said, I am very worried. I resigned from public office not long ago. I'm as busy as a bee every day, but I haven't seen the expected effect every month. That's still an industry I don't understand at all.
Xiao was originally a small leader in the audit department of a first-tier city. His unit is good and his salary is high. He can't stand the persuasion of others. He always felt that it was time to realize his greater value. He was not willing to be a screw in the unit and opened a restaurant.
In recent years, the catering industry is in full swing, and various catering brands have mushroomed, but there are too many doorways to join, decorate and promote.
A layman, who entered the municipal department after graduation, has never done business before. How can he know about operation, promotion and management? Others gave him advice to be a bottom-level online merchant, join the US Mission, and be his own catering platform. The list is still very small. He wants to cooperate with his former unit, but he is not welcome yet. Not to mention his hard work, he posted more than 300 thousand in it.
At home, I was scolded by my family. My family always felt that my forehead was pinched, so I did these "absurd things".
Recently, however, I heard that Xiao plans to set up a training institution in partnership with others. No one listened to the advice, and he wholeheartedly relied on Ma Yun's words-"Take advantage of being young and toss your life into what you want as soon as possible."
I used to have a stable and peaceful working life, a stable income and enough time to spend with my family, so I can live a comfortable life. Great, people have worked hard and the money has run out.
Now the media sells anxiety everywhere, constantly suggesting that it is a crime for us to be too comfortable. If we don't come out, the good times will come to an end.
I still remember when I just graduated, the major media trumpeted the banner of "entrepreneurship for all" and let more people live in anxiety. And those who are forced out by anxiety to start a business usually find that jumping out is just a process of jumping and crawling.
This kind of propaganda to promote anxiety also makes young people who are trapped by anxiety and frequently change jobs. In the end, they can't find the direction they should have, but they waste their time and energy, and even they may not find their own position.
When I just graduated, I read these articles about jumping out of the comfort zone and starting a business every day, and I quite agree with the reasons mentioned in the article.
Then I practiced by myself. Suddenly one day, looking back on my experience, I found that I didn't have a decent job and no savings for a whole year. All the money was spent on finding a job and changing jobs. Even my parents had to call me and let me go home for the New Year.
Think carefully before you really jump out. If you really jump out, do you agree with your car loan, old people who need to support, starving children, cats and dogs at home?
Until you get clear answers to all these questions, I suggest you stay in your comfort zone and improve your self-discipline. Don't jump out and look for abuse.
Instead of jumping out of the comfort zone, it is better to broaden the comfort zone
Some time ago, writer Cai Lan interacted with fans at the Weibo:
The fans asked her: Hello! How to get out of the comfort zone?
Cai Lan asked: Why did you walk out of your comfort zone?
Fans said: Isn't that what everyone says? Staying in the comfort zone will be abandoned by society sooner or later.
Cai Lan smiled after hearing this, and said simply: It is really the sorrow of this era to demonize his achievements and living habits.
Instead of blindly jumping out of the comfort zone to find abuse, it is better to be more self-disciplined in your comfort zone and constantly broaden the "territory" of your comfort zone.
Just like popular now, P2P, block connection, real estate speculation, currency speculation and so on. The fire was in chaos. How many people have given up their well-paid jobs to join them, and listened to those people with unknown addresses talking about some technical terms that they can't even explain clearly. What is the final result?
Take Qian Bao, which was struck by lightning last year, as an example. At first, many friends around me just tested the water with 50 thousand yuan, but when they saw that the income was high, they began to borrow money, set up credit cards and put all the mortgage money in.
Suddenly one day, the server of the platform could not log in and the money could not be refunded. Friends are starting to look like ants in your pants. What they originally thought was more economic benefits, so that their soon-to-be-born wife and children could have a more decent life, and it was difficult to raise money for milk powder.
If your environment is constantly consuming you, but you can't grow, it is imperative to get rid of it, but this is not called "comfort zone".
What kind of life do we want? Just choose and stick to it.
Adhere to fitness, study and study every day, strive to improve small things, care more about parents and be patient with children. Long-term accumulation in the past, even if not up to the ranks of experts, will not be ignorant, so our comfort zone will become more and more stable, bigger and wider.
We must firmly believe that everything now is the best arrangement.