Going to the gym on weekends and changing clothes in the locker room, I heard a mother talking to her daughter with a familiar voice. I looked at my mother for a few seconds, and both sides exclaimed. It turns out that she is the former assistant manager of the front desk lobby of our unit. Before, she was young and beautiful and could speak English. She greets guests in the lobby every day. It is said that many rich guests pursue her. A few years ago, I heard that she married a rich man. Today, although she is still very young, perhaps because of her clothes, I feel that she has completely lost her former self-confidence and elegance and looks very tired. We exchanged pleasantries. She took her daughter out for a swim. I watched her leave and had some ideas.
In today's society, the era of "men plowing and women weaving" has long passed. Men want careers, women want careers. Women can only be independent if they have a career, because relying solely on men is actually very passive and distressing. Men are proud of their careers and like to treat women as contraband or despise them. Only when women are economically independent can they have dignity.
Only when a woman is spiritually independent can she talk about elegance. Throughout the ages, those elegant women have had successful careers, such as the Soong sisters, Hillary, Margaret Thatcher, * * *, Yang Lan, and so on. Career helps them to be elegant, and elegance in turn promotes their career.
A woman with a career is not necessarily elegant, and a woman without a career is not elegant. Especially in materialistic society, when a woman is attached to a man's life, she is just a "vase".
Therefore, women with careers and independent women are the most attractive. Because they always capture the wonderful society, keep themselves in sync with fashion and keep fresh.
Work doesn't matter whether it is good or bad. Only by constantly learning and keeping pace with the times can women have the value of life. Although family is a woman's spiritual pillar, career is also a part of her life. A man leaves a woman and has a career waiting for her. In case the pillar of the family falls down, the career will support the sky because of the sense of accomplishment at work and heal the trauma of the soul.
In short, there are many beautiful things in life besides love. Career and love are not in conflict. Women who love their jobs are more confident and charming. Career makes women more beautiful!
It has been said that a happy woman should be like a four-legged table, with a certain income and working ability, a circle of friends with good taste, a happy marriage and good health. However, the moon is full of ups and downs, people have joys and sorrows, and perfection is always relative. Just like a woman's table with three legs, although unhappy, she can settle down because three points support a plane. A strong person strives for self-improvement, while a standing person strives for self-improvement. If a woman wants to get rid of weakness, say goodbye to inferiority, get rid of dependence and build self-confidence, she must first love herself and her own woman, and others will love you.
Love and pamper yourself, you should know that there is a person who will never abandon you, no matter poverty, hardship or illness, because this person is yourself, love yourself, take care of yourself like the person you love, pamper yourself like your lover, care for every inch of your skin, care for every emotion, watch yourself at every stage, and always give yourself the best makeup, as comfortable as flowers.
Love yourself, more sunshine, less sadness. Even if the person you love floats away one day, don't pursue the footsteps that can't be left behind. Take a look back. Although life has a fork in the road, there are still flowers and green leaves. Even if one day you have hopeless love, don't deny the true meaning of love. Make a cup of strong tea and turn on a lamp.
Women really should learn to love themselves. Every woman is a flower. Maybe you are as rich and beautiful as a peony, maybe you are as shy and beautiful as a rose, or you are as pure and beautiful as a lily. No matter what kind of beauty you are, you should learn to love and protect yourself.
Women need to love themselves! Don't pin all your love on a man, even if he is a man who loves you very much, but you give him too much love, which will make him feel a kind of pressure. Don't forget to love a man because he sometimes wants you to love yourself more. Don't always judge men's good and bad, sometimes you should sober yourself up. Don't women ever do anything wrong? I'm not saying that men are not wrong here, but I want to look at it from both positive and negative aspects.
Woman, don't wait for a man who doesn't love himself, even if it takes all the time to wait, because he doesn't love you and there is no place for you in his heart. Why do you force yourself and him? Maybe you will accuse him of being heartless and unintentional, and you will hate him, but sometimes you have thought that maybe it was his giving up that made you meet the happiness that really belongs to you. We shuttle through the crowd every day, passing too many people, and we will meet by chance, but not everyone who meets you will become your other half, and more will become your friends. Therefore, women don't need to hurt themselves for someone who doesn't love themselves, but should love themselves better!
Woman, don't be moved by a half-hearted man. Most of such men belong to the * * * type, and there are many women around them. Maybe you are just one of his many lovers, because they will timely rhetoric, moderately express their hospitality, and give women fantasy romance and sweetness, but this is often unrealistic. Life is simple and complicated. Romance and sweetness are both spices in life, which can't be held for a lifetime. Let go and you will be happier!
Women are always emotional animals. Although she will also have a rational side, sensibility will often overcome rationality, so women should not lose themselves because of love!
Learning to love ourselves is not to let us tolerate and indulge ourselves, but to learn to restrain ourselves and correct ourselves. There are always many times in this life when no one urges us to know that we have warned and reminded us that even our dearest parents and sincere friends will not be with us forever. The care and care we have may be lost at any time. At this time, you should learn to prune, split for water and fertilize for yourself, so that you will not sink into a withered grass with the wind, but grow into a tall and lush tree.
Learning to cherish ourselves is not to let us abuse ourselves and demand ourselves, but to let us learn to send ourselves a flower, a coastline and a bright smile when we are most helpless and isolated, when we have to walk alone in the dark rainy night, when there is no music and moonlight, when we are helpless and support the hardships of life, and no one can bear it for us. Then, with a good mood and good luck.
Some people may say that this is a kind of self-deception, but if this short-term deception can achieve long-term and stable happiness, what is wrong with deceiving yourself?
Learning to love yourself is not a shame, but a glory, because it is not out of ignorance and arrogance, but from advocating and cherishing life itself, which can make our life richer and healthier, and also make our soul stronger. We can build our own bricks and tiles when we have no room to live, and build our own palaces to become the masters of our spiritual homes, so that we can truly know how to love the world!
It is much easier for a woman to learn to love herself than to learn to love a man. Only when a woman loves herself can she not get hurt. Only by loving herself can she have enough strength to face the impact of life and all the luck and misfortune in life. If a woman always thinks her name is weak, she needs a man to save her. Desperate to love a man, follow a man, or treat a man as the only person in his life that can be entrusted, is doomed to be a tragedy.
Women, instead of expecting who will love them and who will save their loneliness, should learn to save themselves and bear the pain and misfortune in this world. On the road to self-help, it is good to have someone to help you share, even if you don't, don't be discouraged. Many times, women should learn to take responsibility, learn to be responsible for themselves and learn to love themselves. Even if you feel that the whole world is abandoning you when you are helpless, even the people closest to you have left you without helping you or even betraying you and cheating you, you should learn to love yourself anyway, because you are the only one who leads you to happiness.
In China's traditional concept, men are always superior to women. How does a strong woman persuade male subordinates to accept her leadership? In fact, things are not as difficult as we thought, because today's strong women hold five successful weapons.
Weapons 1: affinity
The workplace is like a battlefield. For white-collar workers, a small office just can't see the smoke. The affinity of female bosses is like spring breeze, which relieves this tense atmosphere. Male bosses tend to be overbearing, while female bosses are mostly amiable, which invisibly makes male subordinates have a good impression on female bosses.
Weapon 2: Principles
If you understand the affinity of women as unprincipled, you are all wet. It is common sense to follow rules and principles and do a good job. Most men like to talk about human feelings at work, regardless of public or private. They love to set a trap of love or friendship in this situation to trick female colleagues into getting in. Female bosses have no such worries, and their principles can win the respect of male subordinates.
Weapon 3: Independence
In today's society, independence has become a label for women. They know that if they can get men's care and protection in private communication, it is impossible to get the courtesy of male colleagues at work. If he is capable, his male colleagues will feel threatened, otherwise they will sneer. Therefore, whether in life or in the workplace, women's independence makes them invincible.
Weapon 4: Keenness
Women are naturally sensitive, which can also be their advantage in leading male subordinates. As an excellent female boss, if she wants to establish a good working relationship with her subordinates, she needs to be good at observing others' emotions and adopting different ways of doing things. It is easy for you to make some jokes about introverted subordinates; For the shrewd male subordinates, they will establish their own prestige. Different situations, different subordinates and different ways can achieve better results.
Weapon 5: consider
Compared with men, women are naturally considerate, especially in China. Although he is the boss, he also knows how to properly safeguard the dignity of men. This is not flattering men, because men will think they are omniscient and omnipotent, full of strong self-esteem, especially in front of female bosses. Praise them appropriately, or ask their advice when something happens, so that your heel will stand more firmly. However, this compliment must be measured, otherwise, he will think you are interested in him.
Before the age of 40, most people are the same, going to school ... to build their own foundation. Complete basic education under the influence of parents, relatives and friends, social values and mistakes. When you choose to study, you should cooperate with Qi Xin. Before you enter this industry, you can study as high as possible. After all, when you enter this industry, you are a fresh person in society. But once you have work experience and are willing to learn, of course, there are many channels and relative struggles. Because you don't know your age, education and qualifications.
Is it worthwhile to invest in further study? If you decide to be an office worker all your life, your education is very important to you, otherwise time is precious and you are not allowed to go the wrong way again.
At the age of 20 ~ 25, it is an unrepentant point of no return to master and plan your own future. You just get all kinds of rights given to you by law, so you should do your duty and learn to face the responsibility. At this time, you are at war with joy, contradiction and pain. Joy comes from being given some autonomy at the beginning, contradiction comes from the umbilical cord relationship with parents, and pain comes from trying to make a wrong oath at the beginning. You should start planning your future, such as further education, employment and feelings.
Take back the control of your life, instead of being swayed by others all the time.
"Learn interpersonal relationships and get to know more positive friends. Ten years later, these friends will be the backbone of the industry. "
25 ~ 30 years old, you are like a sponge. If you want to absorb, you are willing to be squeezed, just for your own growth. At this time, you should be working orientation and salary. Be careful about promotion and transfer, because only hard work can actively strive for it. The motivation of fresh people in society will make you rush out of your own sky, and because you have no experience, you don't understand setbacks. Because there are not many resources, I have done everything and resigned myself to fate. Now you: get the salary of others, learn from others' experience, dedicate your youth and build your future.
"Learning to accumulate experience, get in touch with opportunities, and the support of mentors and friends is a great weapon to improve your growth."
30 ~ 35 years old, you should learn to judge and seize opportunities, and you should not have the mentality of trial and error. At this time, you should focus on your career and your family, and your work should be transformed from physical strength to mental strength. You should see the future, not the present situation, and face the vast life, not just yourself. Getting married is a major choice for many people for the first time in their lives. In the face of marriage, many people think that marriage is the end of a responsibility, but it is the beginning of learning. Just like some companies that have just listed on the OTC market, they think that their goals have been achieved, forget their corporate responsibilities and ignore their own industries. This is the beginning of a nightmare. A person's career is not to run his own family, and the purpose of making money is not to hope to give his family a better life, but this cannot be an excuse to ignore his family. A person who can't run a good family will only get superficial applause even if he earns the world. There is always a gap in the circle where he lives. Home should be your biggest spiritual pillar. Power source and strong backing!
"Time management, transforming emotions; Work with your mind instead of your body. "
35 ~ 40 years old, we should enjoy the pattern of giving people hope and boundless merits. At this time, you should be enterprise-oriented, and work is just a kind of leisure, which can be transformed into responsibility to others. If you concentrate on research, you shouldn't just devote your life to it. You should have the ambition to set up a research institute and lead a group of people to do more research and development. If you are a corporate director, you should not only stay in the camp, but also haggle over every ounce. You should be able to manage the employees and family around you and lead them to enjoy a better life. The size of the pattern will affect your achievement. Be an influential person, not an affected person.
"No matter how beautiful you are now. How accomplished, can you draw you in ten years? 」
Meditate! Isn't the purpose of all our efforts now for parents, for the other half, for children ... Work should not be equal to life, let alone something that needs to be managed for a lifetime. What is your motivation for hard work, health, wealth, self-growth, interpersonal relationship and time freedom? I believe that no one deliberately gives up any point. These are the driving forces that push our young people forward. Ten years later, did you finish ahead of schedule? Or give up before it's too late?
"I'd rather be busy realizing my dreams than lose them because I'm busy."
I think there are too many friends around me who are many times better than me. Unfortunately, they spent more time, spirit and resources on the camp, but did not enjoy the due price. The only reason is that they work hard in the wrong direction, find the wrong opportunity and refuse it. Jordan has played basketball all his life, but it is difficult for him to find his own stage on the baseball field. Don't let the busyness blind you and look back: Lian Po is too old to eat?
"Where is your time, where is your achievement."
When you succeed alone, you only enjoy the happiness of one person! Knowing how to share and give, real happiness comes from: friends and relatives around you are promoted because of your growth, whether it is spiritual or material. Real success comes from: friends and relatives around you make progress because of your efforts, giving people hope and boundless merit. We are not doing charity, and we have no ability to help all beings. However, we can do our best to our relatives and friends and strangers who meet by chance. Reach out your hand when they need it! Too many people are waiting for the noble people in life. As smart as you are, why not start by helping others?