The mother with red personality was very excited to cry with the hero on TV, and cried while watching, "Whoops ... how could she be so miserable ..." At this time, the father with yellow personality saw her crying so tragically, and shouted, "What are you crying for? It's fake, it's a performance, can it be a bit promising ... ",Red Mom said," Why don't you have any human feelings? "
Green's son saw his parents quarreling, and he longed for a harmonious relationship and world peace, so he began to persuade his parents not to quarrel, while blue's daughter sitting on the side was expressionless and sad. She was very emotional, but she didn't show it. She thought to herself, "Why did she have such a miserable life? Who was she with? What did they do to her ..." (As a red figure, I feel blue.
People with red and green personalities care about people, while people with yellow and blue personalities care about things.
In the above story about watching TV, Mother Hong is concerned about the "miserable" life of the TV protagonist, and she feels the same way. The son with green personality cares about people who don't want their parents to have conflicts, while the father with yellow personality cares about things. It's no use pretending to cry. The daughter with blue personality cares about things, such as thinking about what factors are related to this matter.
Let's give another example to analyze the difference between red and yellow personalities. You are late for work in the company. If your leader is yellow, he will pay more attention to your lateness: you are late, so according to company regulations, you need to pay a fine of 200 yuan and implement it directly. If your leader has a red personality, he will pay more attention to you first. "What's the matter at home, or the traffic jam on the road ..."
How do people with different personalities think differently?
Analyze words from different personalities, such as the understanding of "happiness". People with red personality think that "happiness is happiness", people with yellow personality think that "achievement is happiness", people with blue personality understand that "happiness is when one thinks quietly", and people with green personality understand that "I am happy when everyone is happy, and it doesn't matter".
Do you think it's interesting that people with different personalities react so differently? Haha! If so, then you may have a red character, because the motivation of our red character is the pursuit of happiness! If a friend with yellow personality reads this article, the first motive reaction is whether the words I wrote are useful or not, while a friend with blue personality will think and analyze my article alone, and a friend with green personality will feel that it is nothing to read or not.
The motivation of red character is to pursue happiness, the motivation of yellow character is to pursue results, the motivation of blue character is to pursue perfection, and the motivation of green character is to pursue stability. All four personalities have their advantages and excesses, and there is no distinction between good and bad.
So what is the core of personalized color FPA, and the four skills belong to them, namely
1. Insight: Discover your true self (see yourself clearly, who I am, what advantages and redundancies I have).
2. Insight: reading other people's minds (seeing people is not criticism but understanding)
3. Practice: Become a better self (expand advantages, control over, and practice for yourself).
4. influence: give others what they need in a way that suits them (diamond rule)
Among them, self-insight is our lifelong homework, so what is the test standard of self-completion standard insight?
A.i know my original personality.
B.i know my personality now.
C I know how I changed from my original personality to my present personality (what I experienced and under what circumstances).
I know why different people have different views on me.
Give me a simple example of myself.
A. I know I have a red personality.
B: I know my personality is blue now, such as writing or speaking, and deliberately practicing organization.
C. I know that I have changed from the original red character to a character with some yellow characters, such as being result-oriented, because I was engaged in online sales in my freshman year and was in a very wolf-like environment.
D. I know why my roommate with red personality commented that my emotional intelligence is not high. For example, she wants to sleep, but I sing loudly for her own happiness. She is uncomfortable because I don't consider the feelings of my red roommate.
How to see who you really are?
1. Constantly explore the intrinsic motivation of doing things, such as why I do it, because it makes me happy, or to achieve a certain goal, or to pursue perfection, and so on. , provided that there are no indicators and requirements for non-work and non-task.
2. Perceive your instinctive instant reaction and gain insight into your character through excessive behavior. For example, I have a red personality, and my excessive behavior has been forgotten. For example, I went back to Changsha from Guangdong this summer and packed my bags in a hurry. When I arrived in Changsha, I found that the e-reader kindle was lost in Guangdong, covering my face!
You can get to know yourself through others' feedback, at least as a reference. For example, humbly ask your relatives and friends who have been with you for a long time if there is anything that makes them uncomfortable. Can you give one or three examples to explain it?
I would like to share with you my recent views on lovely people with different personalities, about red and yellow personalities.
1. People with red personality prefer to be recognized and appreciated by others. For example, when I choose an internship to do telemarketing, when I talk to a strange customer on the phone, for example, I say to my customer, "I really admire you for doing your business so well at such a young age", and the red customer responds, "I am very happy to smile and say," Thank you for your compliment! " And every time you praise in different forms, the other person will respond positively: "yes" and "yes"
2. An enthusiastic class teacher with a red personality (now a training teacher who takes our newcomers), once the class teacher asked our teacher, "Did you have breakfast?" The other party said, "Drink some water." The class teacher said, "You go to class first, and I'll buy you breakfast later." After class, I saw the head teacher handed us a loving breakfast. Although the moment of delivering breakfast is very short, it is really a warm-hearted scene I saw, hee hee!
Let's give another example of a colleague with red personality. Because he is my group leader and my senior, and we are in the same school, I told him, "I'm going to take time off this Friday to go back to school to deal with some things." The team leader said, "I'll go back with you on Friday." At that time, my inner prediction was that there was a 90% chance that the team leader would not come back to school with me, and then the fact was that he was still on the phone at the company on Friday. )。 If the team leader has a yellow personality or a blue personality, more than 95% of what he said will be carried out.
People with yellow personality prefer to express themselves through actions, while people with blue personality pay attention to commitment and generally do what they say. On the other hand, yellow and blue are more risk-conscious than red and green, that is, if you are not sure what to do, you will not agree easily.
For example, on Saturday, I had a class of personality, lived with a big red girl and another yellow girl, and stayed in my room at night. When I asked them to help me test whether I had a natural yellow personality, because they all took a card class, Sister Hong came directly to help me test. She thinks this is an opportunity to "practice her hands" and she is particularly willing to help others. Therefore, people with yellow personality will have a stronger sense of risk than people with only red personality.
There are still a lot of personality colors, and I feel that an article is far from enough. If you are interested and want to know more about the mysteries of red, blue, yellow and green, you can read two books, Le Jia, the founder of Personality Color College, which are "Knowing People by Eyes" and "True Color", or you can go into the classroom of personality color and discuss the world of red, blue, yellow and green together.