How to step out and return to normal has become an inevitable life problem for each of us. In this case, some scholars believe that we still have a lot to do:
First, make a list and make a plan.
List the reasons that may cause you to fall into a trough and upset situation in your life, and then analyze them one by one to find out the main reasons.
After all, this situation can't be without reason. If you want to go out, you must first analyze the reasons, and then you can formulate a targeted solution to the difficulties and get out of the predicament.
Planning time can be long or short, but it must be practical and persistent.
Second, a good attitude, a correct understanding of life trough, reduce unnecessary upset.
Life can't be at the peak all the time, and it's normal to fall into the trough. We don't have to be depressed and desperate for this, we should look at ourselves calmly and rationally.
Treat people around you calmly: be grateful for the encouragement of relatives, patiently explain the incomprehension of friends, and laugh at the ridicule of others.
In any case, the lower the trough, the less decadent and desperate.
Third, persist in studying and working, and constantly improve yourself.
You can teach yourself, improve your knowledge through reading and online classes, or take part in professional training, learn professional knowledge and improve your work skills.
Similarly, the more we are in the trough and upset period of life, the more we should do a good job at hand, because work can not only maintain basic survival needs, but also enrich our hearts.
When we constantly strive for a full job, when we are proud of our achievements in our work, we naturally have no time to worry about being upset.
Fourth, the change of environment means the change of mood.
You can take a short trip, get out of the closed small world, see the outside world, open your heart and relax in the brand-new mountains and rivers.
It can also be a long-term migration, go to a new place to work and live, change your mentality, forget your unhappiness and sadness, get out of the trough of life, get rid of upset and start over.
Fifth, learn to divert attention and cultivate a new hobby.
Exercise and fitness are generally advocated by everyone. You can run, yoga, play ball, etc. Let the body move and dispel the anxiety caused by fatigue and sweat.
You can also cultivate a new interest, such as painting, photography, pottery, and food. As long as you are interested, you can cultivate hard.
Get a new sense of satisfaction from small achievements ... don't waste time because you are upset in the trough, but use this time to make up for the shortcomings of life and learn to enjoy life.
Sixth, spend more time with family and friends and actively seek their help.
You can often go home to see your parents, eat and chat with them, or spend more time with your partner and children to experience the warmth and care of your family.
You can get together with three or five friends and get drunk. You can also talk about your troubles and current difficulties and take the initiative to seek their help.
Seventh, learn to help others.
You can take part in public welfare activities, volunteer, teach, help children from poor families ... try your best to help others.
Not to escape from reality, not to be powerless, but to take active actions, give full play to one's own light and heat, smile sincerely, be grateful to others, get inner satisfaction, and dispel the irritability in the trough.
Life can never be smooth sailing, and each of us may fall into a period of low life and upset.
At this time, don't be afraid, don't shrink back, treat it correctly and calmly, and get out of this difficult period step by step.
I have depression, intermittent, and I have seizures from time to time. This is very painful. My life and work have been greatly affected. I am not confident and dare not do anything. I can only live slowly and carefully. I have a high IQ, but I can't do anything because of depression. From the age of 12, I can't do anything along the way. The family relationship is tense and my work is not smooth. My parents only know grievances and don't understand how tired I am alive. Now 30 years old, I dare not fall in love, dare not chase girls, and can't stand even a little emotional fluctuation. I can only live alone forever. Maybe you don't understand what I said, and I don't even know who to tell. No one has actually dated more than 40 times. I hate women. When I was a child, I suffered from mental illness all my life because of a woman, but I still respect women. The main reason is that a person is too tired to live. I tried to kill myself, but I didn't have the courage to walk away. I was very grumpy before, and I don't know when it started. Maybe it's my age. I also want to find a girlfriend in my heart At least, I can have someone to accompany me, but I don't have the courage, because I am afraid of being hurt constantly.
No one's life is smooth sailing, and people always grow up in adversity.
Nothing in the world is difficult for one who sets his mind to it. Attitude determines height. When we encounter a trough, we should calm down and seriously reflect on our own problems. Learn from it and sum up experience. Then set goals for yourself and come out step by step.
After graduation, I started a company and closed down in less than two years. At that time, I really felt that the future was dark and I didn't know where it was. One day, I always complained about social injustice, and gradually people became decadent. Later, with some enlightenment and encouragement from my friends, I also tried to be confident again, turning pessimism into optimism and negative into positive. Start all over again.
We earned our destiny. When we are in trouble, we always want God's blessing, but God only cares for those who work harder than you. Therefore, only by working hard can we see hope. The same is true of the trough, although it makes people upset and hits hard. But we also need a correct cognitive attitude, and then turn grief into strength and break out of the tight encirclement.
Have a cigarette and a glass of wine, tomorrow is a brand-new day, and we are also a brand-new beginning, no matter who is right or wrong, just for great prospects. You will find that after the rain, it will clear up.
The instinctive reaction of people in sudden adversity and depression is to escape, cut off contact with the outside world and put aside problems. A person hiding in a dark corner "protects" himself, as if to put on protective clothing and invisibility cloak, so that others can't find and touch themselves and give themselves a chance to breathe.
I think it is understandable that you can calm down as soon as possible through emergency avoidance and moderate buffering, because the instinct of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages for danger and pressure is a kind of stress reaction of people and a direct external embodiment of people's comprehensive quality.
But escaping can't solve the problem, and to some extent, it will delay the solution of the problem, worsen the seriousness of the problem, and thus cause greater crisis and harm. Therefore, the shorter the stress reaction time, the more conducive to the solution of the problem, and the faster to get rid of difficulties and injuries.
I want to explain how to better control and grasp the length of stress response from two aspects.
1. The influence of physical environment on people's mood
First of all, let's talk about the influence of space environment on people's emotions. Staying in a narrow and dark environment for a long time will destroy the balance of excitement and inhibition in human cerebral cortex, lead to neurological symptoms such as compulsion, anxiety and fear, and further aggravate the breeding of bad emotions.
Hiding in a room or a small corner with negative emotions when leaving the leaderboard will only make our psychological burden heavier, and the vicious circle of negative emotions will become more and more intense and difficult to extricate ourselves.
So get out of the house as soon as possible and approach the green that makes people fresh, natural and quiet, the blue that makes people calm and open, and let the vastness of physics dilute your psychological haze.
Two. The fundamental thing to solve the problem is to know and know yourself.
Knowing yourself is the first step to knowing yourself. Most of people's troubles come from lack of self-knowledge, not knowing what they want, what they should do and where they will go.
With regard to self-cognition, you can read some books on psychology to understand your personality type, the job you are suitable for, and the development direction of your personality after human intervention and guidance.
After understanding the root of one's inner thoughts and lifestyle, one should look at the world objectively with a realistic attitude, understand the causal relationship of things, understand the truth that what is gained must be lost, and balance and adjust the distance between ideal and reality.
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The trough of life is also the beginning of another rising period!
Life is not smooth sailing, and the transition from peak to trough is life.
So, when life is at a low point, what we can do is:
First of all, psychologically accept that all disappointments in this life are inevitable. Don't mourn, don't complain and don't get angry, which can reduce the influence of negative emotions.
Second, proper catharsis. You can chat with your friends. Proper conversation can help you sort things out and relieve stress. You can also attend friends' parties or outdoor activities to relax and divert your attention.
Third, go out and see the outside world. Give yourself a vacation, choose a place you want, and stop and have a look. The low point of life is also the beginning of another rising period. You can make a calm thinking and a new plan for the future during your trip.
Fourth, keep yourself busy. Fill your daily time with work content, so that you have no time to take care of those setbacks and disappointments.
Fifth, find your new interest. For example, reading, listening to music, writing, running, fitness and so on. , you can release your bad emotions.
In fact, all methods are external, and the key is that you can accept, identify and respond positively with confidence. After all, only we can save us.
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Treat thousands of things with a normal heart! Learn to let go, cultivate your mind first, and everything will change with your heart. In addition, outsiders can go out for a walk, get in touch with some positive energy or travel to embrace strange social nature, stretch and relax themselves, and make themselves happy or calm down!
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In life, there are always many gullies to cross; Years, there are always many regrets to make up; In life, there are always many puzzles to understand.
In our long life, there will always be some ups and downs, sometimes even going to despair. At this time, should we use our own strength to overcome it, or go to the brink of despair and let it break. I think, since we have reached the bottom, there will be no worse situation than now. No matter how you go, you are actually going up. Some people always complain that they can't walk out of the trough, because they have been squatting there crying since they started walking.
People often say that if you haven't grown up, then you must have never experienced a painful ordeal. Only when you reach the bottom of your life will you desperately want to climb up. In this process, you will constantly exercise yourself, save energy, and complete a phoenix nirvana. I believe many people have seen Chasing Happyness. At the bottom of his life, chris gardner experienced "his wife ran away", "living alone with his son", "saving 2 1 USD", "unpaid internship", "asking for help from a shelter or even selling blood" ... especially the scene with his son in the subway toilet was particularly touching, and he finally survived tenaciously.
Romain rolland once said: There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life. Give yourself a strong reason and admit it when you lose. It is also necessary to go all out to climb to the bottom.
Life is impermanent and people's hearts are fickle. Why bother with those grievances? Looking down, there is no right or wrong; Let it go, there is no success or failure; Relax, there is no gain or loss, and life is just like this. There are three thousand things in the world, so smile indifferently. Facing all kinds of situations in life, it is an elegance of life to laugh it off. Nine times out of ten, learning not to be angry is another realm of life. Don't be too anxious to get out of the trough, too anxious will often make us lose our way. At this time, why not calm down, allow yourself to have such a low time and accept yourself?
In real life, each of us has to walk through a flat or curved road, and some people crawl in the wind and rain; Some people sigh in the wind and rain; Some people persist in moving forward, and the world is only for me and each other. In life, people often ask, "When we hit bottom, how can we rebound?" ? Is it very Thai? "Yes, not bad! It's all low. You bite the bullet and you are going uphill wherever you go. People always have to force themselves to grow up, either to be excellent or to be degraded by default. Xu Sanduo said: Never abandon, never give up. Now I am going through a trough, but I still hope that I can work hard with all my friends in the trough to overcome these difficulties, and maybe I can turn Gan Kun around in the near future.
Everyone has a terrible past, which seems hopeless and may continue to sink at any time. At this time, if you choose to give up, you begin the journey of self-deception.
People will encounter this kind of situation in life, confused and distressed, and can't find a way out of life. Because of this, some people have not handled this problem well, and have never recovered from it, and they are at a loss about their lives.
There are two solutions to this situation, one is self-healing, the other is to face and think silently, let your heart calm down slowly and think quietly in that place. Only by calming down, can a person see the problem clearly, find the source of the problem, and then seriously think about how to solve this problem, in order to gradually get out of the predicament and meet the new challenges in life.
Second, people are often unable to heal themselves when they are upset in the trough. Friends and family play a key role. A friend who knows you will enlighten you when you are confused and desperate, and will generously help you tide over the difficulties when you are in trouble. Your family always cares about you, making you feel that you are not fighting alone, but that they are by your side, making you full of hope for life and gradually getting out of the confusion of life.
A person's life has never been smooth sailing, stumbling is the normal state of life, and only experience can make life full of excitement.
Life is low and I am upset. This is my present state. I am an entrepreneur.
As an entrepreneur, as long as you work hard and be serious, you will certainly encounter problems. Sometimes no one understands and confides in the problems encountered, so they can only face and think silently. My choice is silence. Be content with what you have, and let your heart sink first, so that you won't act rashly and think quietly. I feel calm and see the problem clearly. Even if I find a piece of paper to write it down, it is more meaningful to think seriously than fidgeting, being upset and acting rashly!
Many things will happen to everyone who works hard, lives seriously and takes life seriously. Maybe your ability is limited! Want to do things, do good things, do things well! Because there is a difference between doing well and doing well! My position now is to do or not to do, but to do it wholeheartedly and go all out. Even if no one understands and is full of misunderstandings, as long as the original intention is based on public interests and can serve more people, I am still willing to try and challenge! It is not easy to say that entrepreneurs are real. If many things are done just for the sake of doing things, they lack lofty goals and ideals. They just feel as if they are floating on the plain, tending to the plain, but they have not let the plain blossom and bear fruit.
I don't tend to eat everything hard and grind everything, but sometimes I wonder who can detect and understand the energy waves in my soul, but I don't have much hope. Because after joining the WTO, I gradually tend not to expect, not to fantasize, and I have not successfully accepted the result of failure. This is how people live. It might be better to say it! Do what you can and let nature take its course!
1. Believe in yourself, go your own way and be the best you can be. Life is low and upset, often because we feel that we can't control and grasp the ups and downs of life, thus losing confidence in ourselves. Therefore, we must clearly know that no matter how good others are, they are also others; No matter how unbearable it is, it is also yourself. No matter whether the world is wonderful or dark, it will not hinder the already unique self. No matter how big the world is, you are still the only one in this world. Therefore, as long as you try to be yourself, life is enough. Don't always envy others' success, don't always be tempted by the bustling world, don't always evaluate your position in others' hearts, but go your own way and be the best yourself!
2. Forgive yourself, let go of the world and the memories. In this world, no matter how hard you work, how excellent and perfect you are, you are still yourself. Life is just a process, an experience, an experience, so learn to forgive yourself, let yourself go and let the world around you go. When people are tired, they rest; When you are tired, just calm down. Some people care that comfort is a blessing, and no one cares that comfort is a blessing. It doesn't matter. Squat down, give yourself a hug and comfort yourself. Don't expect others to sympathize with you when you are in pain. Everyone has their own troubles and pains, and there is no obligation to comfort you. Sometimes, the heart is full of troubles, and the key is to remember it too clearly. What should be remembered and written down will become the standard of judgment and will make the pain find enough reasons; Write down what you shouldn't remember, and if you suffer more, you will fall into hell. Therefore, learning to let go of memories and clear them in time will make us relax and be positive. What is released is memories, what is continued is life, and what is harvested is lightness and sweetness.
3. Look down on life, be pure in heart and take good care of yourself. Life may be a dream, no matter how many things, life will not bring death. So don't regret what you missed, you should just pass by, didn't meet, didn't see. You lost 10000 yuan. Think about how you live without this 10 thousand yuan, and you will understand that other things have little influence on you. Cherish what you have better in anticipation of pain. In life, the more you deliberately pursue something, the more you can't get it. What can be easily lost is destined not to belong to you. When life is bleak, life is simple and the mind is simple. If we keep a childlike heart and refuse to leave too many memories in our minds, refuse to be too serious, and even refuse to listen to too many mistakes, we only keep a simple curiosity about the world. In the eyes of children, human feelings are indifferent and the world is cold. They only treat everyone they meet and the world around them with a simple, kind, curious and kind mind. They never give up questioning the world, never lose heart, never mistreat every surprise they meet with the world, never squander their trust in themselves and the world, and never neglect themselves, so they will grow rapidly! Therefore, the best way to get rid of the trough of life and get rid of upset is to learn to live a good life in a way that suits you!