The origin of the title "wife" comes from the fact that Zhou Wanggu's father had a virtuous princess named "Tai Jiang", which is the mother of Tai Bo and three brothers. Taijiang is beautiful, quiet and obedient, and extremely intelligent. Teach philosophers that as for adults, they have never made mistakes. In ancient times, when the duke sought something, he must consult with the general. No matter where the ancient duke wants to move, she will take pains to follow.
Ji Li acceded to the throne and married a virtuous princess, called Tairen, which is recorded in history books as dignified and honest, with many virtues. And pregnancy, that is, from the beginning of prenatal education, the so-called "eyes don't see evil colors, ears don't listen to lewd voices, and mouths don't speak proudly" gave birth to King Wen.
King Wen also has a virtuous princess named "Tai Si". Historical records? Zhou Benji said: "The King of Wu has ten brothers, the mother is Taisi and the King of Wen is a princess." Biography of Women said that it "gave birth to ten men and taught them personally. I haven't seen anything strange since I was a child. King Wen then taught him, and he became a virtue with Duke Zhou. "
From ancient Qi Huangong and his grandfather to three generations, there were good wives and good mothers to help Zhou Shi. Therefore, the imperial clan dynasties that formed the royal family in Jizhou for 700 to 800 years were all inspired by the moral education of "running the family and governing the country" by their predecessors. It was not accidental and futile to raise a three-foot sword and win the world in the first world war. Therefore, later generations called other people's wives "Madam", which originated from the allusion that Zhou's three "Tais" were good wives and good mothers. Mother instruments were very popular, not casual spoken language.
When the Han Dynasty mourned the emperor, the "Lady" was originally a royal lady of the older generation. Later, the Han Dynasty also called the Empress Dowager as the Empress Dowager. The title of wife gradually became popular among aristocratic women in Han Dynasty. In the Ming Dynasty, it was said that a wife should meet the following conditions: "The wife of any scholar-bureaucrat can only be called a wife at the age of 30", that is, she should be a family member, and only an official position above the middle level can be called a wife. People in the Qing Dynasty liked to call housewives wives, but most of them were maids and servants called mistresses. During the Beiyang government and the Republic of China, the wife's name began to spread. From generals to sesame and mung bean officials, their families can be commensurate with their wives. The wives of officials, managers and professors abound, but there are still some restrictions, at least above the educated class. Over the past 20 years of reform and opening up,
With Hong Kong, Macao, Taiwan and overseas Chinese returning to their hometowns, the title of "Mrs" has become as fashionable as "Miss" and "Sir", and it has become a courtesy title for married women among friends. From the perspective of universality, it seems that there is less official flavor and more common people.
[2][ Fang] Zhuanglang dialect in Gansu, great-grandmother (grandfather's mother).
[Edit this paragraph] For the new daughter-in-law born in 1980s, please don't say that I am not virtuous.
Married before the age of twenty-five, not yet thirty, devoted to housekeeping, knowing the general situation, hurting people, and not being playful. This issue of Love is about the "modern wife life" that a group of young little wives are not widely known.
For these people, people often define their date of birth as "post-80s wives", and there has always been a saying in the Jianghu-"Never marry a post-80s wife", because their self-centered character is far from the virtue of traditional housewives, and they cannot meet the needs of male chauvinism.
Wear such colored glasses and approach the real life of modern virtuous wives, and you will be surprised at their performance after marriage.
In recent years, public opinion likes to talk about the post-80s generation. The general view is that the post-80s generation is flexible in thinking, emancipated in thinking, boastful in personality, will make money and spend money, and pay attention to enjoyment. They love each other easily and simply, and rarely force themselves and wronged themselves. What's more, they are so ridiculous: "The post-80 s women have speculated on futures and stocks, bosses and husbands, but they just can't cook!" It is insinuated that post-80s women do not have the traditional characteristics of "being a good wife and a good mother".
The younger generation born after 1980s really has a distinct personality. However, many married women born after 1980s are as virtuous as their predecessors, and there are still many.
The biggest difference between them and their ex-wives and mothers lies in the obvious difference, even the obvious difference, between their living habits after marriage and before marriage-this is a unique patent phenomenon in the only child who grew up in double love.
Marriage stimulates the virtuous instinct of girls, and their actual actions seem to state that if someone is afraid to marry rashly because his girlfriend is "born after 80", it must be his loss.
Married, transsexual
In the eyes of most people, the virtue of a wife is based on being able to take care of the family and be loyal to her husband. Most little wives despise such a good wife standard, but this does not mean that they will not restrain themselves by the standard of good wives, and they will often "develop" more "modern functions" of good wives.
Dong Dong, 26, had a flash marriage with her husband three years ago. Now, my daughter Qingqing is 2 years old. Dong Dong, who has been spoiled by her parents for more than 20 years, has gradually cultivated into a "reformed" wife and mother. According to Dongdong's parents, the child grew up in his hands, not to mention housework. He didn't even wash his socks himself. In his twenties, he often holds his father's neck in pettish. He is still a child. Parents are worried about whether their daughter can be a wife, not to mention that the son-in-law is an only child, perhaps more delicate than Dong Dong. In order to take care of her daughter, Dongdong's parents insisted on setting her new home near home.
In the first few months of marriage, Dongdong's mother would go to her daughter's house on time every afternoon, prepare dinner before Dongdong and his wife came back from work, and then sneak back home to cook, with good intentions. After a long time, Dong Dong feels guilty. I made up my mind to study cooking hard, bought eight cookbooks at one go, and often called my elders while cooking. In my spare time, I usually learn from my older female colleagues ... slowly, I even cooked some good dishes and claimed to be in love with the kitchen.
"If it weren't for marriage, it is estimated that I would never cook for a lifetime." Dongdong said with a smile. After having a daughter, because the two old people are retired, they are both panicked and eager to love their grandchildren. One baby and two families are "competing" and they can't take care of their children in winter and winter. Only take the baby back for two days on weekends. Taking advantage of the usual gap, Dongdong began to devote himself to practicing housework-quitting hourly jobs, cleaning the room every day, cleaning once a week, sorting out her husband's shirts, socks and dozens of jeans, and buying beautiful music, and opening up an "aromatherapy bath area" at home, so that my husband and I can enjoy "relaxation in the depths of the soul" after being tired.
In winter and winter, she no longer goes shopping at will, claiming that she has "basically lost interest" in clothes and shoes, but what kind of healthy massage chair, electric oven and home accessories attract her most. Besides, I know my husband likes traveling best. On the eve of holidays, Dongdong spends time visiting travel websites, looking for new places to play online and making a good strategy, accompanying her husband on a perfect trip, and sometimes taking two parents with her, and doing her filial piety by the way. Relatives and friends saw it and even couldn't believe it: where is this big lady?
Dongdong told reporters that whether an only daughter can be a good wife depends on her sense of identity with housewives. "Being someone else's wife will make her feel responsible and obligated to make this home more comfortable-this will eventually conform to our concept of enjoying life." In her view, a heartfelt sense of responsibility, rather than resignation and hard work, is the essential difference between young housewives and their predecessors.
From willfulness to frugality.
Free and easy is a major style of post-80s girls, especially some independents. But they know very well that once they get married, they can't keep the rules, because it doesn't conform to the principle of two people getting along. Then you will see many little wives gradually accept their own hearts and improve their sexual ability after marriage, which is a bit like a playboy's prodigal son returning. Reflected in the consumption pattern, some former "big showers" have become good housekeepers.
Lin Yuan, 27, works as a project manager in a trading company, and her husband is one year older than Yuan Lin, who works in the IT industry. After marriage, the couple lived in a duplex mansion with a total area of more than 200 square meters. Because both parents have paid a large down payment and the salary is not low, it is not difficult to make a monthly payment. However, Lin Yuan, who ascended the throne of "housewife", prepared for a rainy day and took on the heavy responsibility of diligent housekeeping.
Generally speaking, Lin Yuan's housekeeping methods include: coordinating all the income of the two people, keeping accounts every day, and defining expenditures; Don't go to restaurants for non-major festivals, cook by yourself to ensure fresh nutrition; Take a long trip once a year, avoid the peak and start in the off-season; Reduce the expenses of beauty and fitness projects, and use your own terrain to develop self-help functions of related projects, such as bathing yourself, lighting aromatherapy masks, changing hula hoops from Limeijian, climbing mountains, etc. Buy insurance, invest, and choose a variety of investment methods to reduce risks as much as possible.
That's easy to say, but anyone who knows Lin Yuan knows that she is a spontaneous girl who goes her own way and is very playful. The above changes are not easy for Lin Yuan, which is also the result of two years of marriage efforts.
Before getting married, Lin Yuan's favorite thing was traveling. She often left alone with her bag on her back. At that time, she had a wide range of interests and wanted to learn various musical instruments. She can buy it whenever she wants. There are many musical instruments at home, but she didn't bring a piano back. Due to poor health since childhood, Lin Yuan never did housework and didn't know how to take care of the room. When there are friends around, Lin Yuan likes to eat out and try to find high-class restaurants in Guangzhou. Even though she had her last meal, she enjoyed it. Many of her friends are men because of their generous personality. Out of self-discipline, after marriage, Lin Yuan alienated her former male friend. In her opinion, although there may be nothing between friends of the opposite sex, they still need to adjust after marriage and put family first.
Now, every day after dinner, when her husband is tidying up the dishes, Lin Yuan will set the tea set and make tea in the teahouse, and the couple will drink and chat with the baby Lin Yuan got from the tea market. Then her husband went upstairs to play computer, and Lin Yuan read in the teahouse, without disturbing each other until late at night. Every day is quiet and happy. In this regard, Lin Yuan said that this is her ideal modern way of marriage for men and women.
Recalling those free and easy days in the past, Lin Yuan said that her biggest change was that she felt a little "vicissitudes". But for an only child like her, the greater significance of marriage is the propeller of women's maturity-make good use of it and make themselves more mature and stable. Isn't that a good thing?