Dong Qing once said, "I always believe that character is fate, and a large part of your character is born. The growth and environmental factors of the day after tomorrow also occupy a large part. The initial role model in your growth is your parents. " Parents are children's first teachers, and families are children's first classes. Dong Qing once revealed in an interview that her parents were very strict with her education when she was a child.
From the beginning of literacy, her father urged her to copy idioms and ancient poems every day, and then recited them for inspection.
Until junior high school, let her learn famous works and extract some wonderful sentences. In those days, Dong Qing posted 10 notes under the desk lamp every day, which was her father's homework to check.
Dong Qing said frankly that it was because of his father's strict requirements that he quietly developed the habit of reading.
To this day, I still work hard outside and refuse to leave my books behind. She said, "if I don't study for a few days, I feel as bad as if I haven't bathed for a few days." Dong Qing used to hate her father's strictness, but now she is extremely grateful to him, because his strictness and persistence made her such an excellent host.
In childhood, children are children precisely because they lack self-discipline and consciousness, and it is difficult to persist in doing one thing. Therefore, this period needs parents' company, parents' persistence and children's efforts to face every challenge. If they fail, don't give up, keep the initial investigation, succeed, sum up experience, and find better guidance without the next breakthrough.
"Parents' love for their children is far-reaching. "Parents' love for their children is not only to meet material needs, but more importantly, to lay the foundation for their children's future direction. Children's love may be staged. At this time, parents need correct guidance and tell their children the meaning of persistence, which may be one step away from success. If you work harder, you will reach the other side.
If you give up at this time, all your previous efforts will be in vain, and all your efforts will be meaningless. If children are young, you can communicate with them in a language they can understand.
As an adult, I was annoyed because I didn't insist. I thought that if I had listened to my parents and insisted on learning to swim, I wouldn't be a landlubber now.
If I had listened to my parents and studied hard pen, my handwriting would not be so ugly now; If I had listened to my parents and insisted on learning a musical instrument, I might have shown my talent now, but there are not so many ifs in life. When I can't make a decision or make a prediction, I will follow my parents' footsteps and persist and work hard step by step. Maybe I will become a better myself now.
Sometimes it is precisely because of the parents' just-right "persecution" that the children are inspired with infinite possibilities. As we say, "You don't push yourself, you don't know how good you are". Some excellent qualities in your bones need to be stimulated and persecuted. Therefore, parents are advised to stick to it with their children at this most painful time, spend the darkness before dawn and see the dawn of hope.
If parents think that children say I don't like it and I don't want to learn, they will obey, which will make children subconsciously feel that as long as they say they don't like it, parents will not be forced to do whatever they want. The biggest regret in life is: "There is neither a so-called happy childhood nor a skill." Looking back on the past and looking forward to the future, the road is slim and I don't know where to go. Love children, don't just satisfy the immediate cheap happiness, but "force" children to practice their skills and let them have the capital to fight against the ups and downs of life.
Work hard at the age when you should work hard, and don't live casually at the best age. To make children become excellent, parents should first be better themselves, accompany their children all the way to the front, be their most loyal allies, persist together, work together and pursue the dawn together. To love a child, we should let him have the courage to face all challenges, and meet them fearlessly regardless of the outcome.