Have the skills to educate children about sex.
Children are sensitive to sexual issues, but they don't want to consult their parents. Many children's sexual knowledge comes not from their parents or schools, but from communication with their peers, or from books, magazines, movies and television. The sexual knowledge obtained from these channels often leads to incorrect guidance for children, and many sexual psychological obstacles are rooted in childhood. Therefore, sex education should start from childhood and adolescence, and parents should actively participate in sex education so that children can get correct sex education at an early age.
Psychologists believe that children should be given different sex education content according to their age. For children before the age of 5, sex education is mainly to solve the problem of gender identity. Parents should naturally let their children know about their bodies before they take a bath and go to bed, and don't deliberately dress girls as men's clothes or boys as women's clothes, so as to prevent children from forming sexual hazy consciousness about themselves and others at an early age, thus affecting their sexual orientation.
Children aged 5-7, driven by curiosity, often feel puzzled about the differences between boys and girls and ask their parents all kinds of questions. At this time, parents should answer their questions simply and clearly according to natural phenomena, and can't talk too much about the plot of sex and reproduction. Without a thorough understanding, their curiosity will not be satisfied and they will feel more mysterious.
Children aged 7 ~ 14, during this period, parents should systematically educate their children about sexual knowledge. When talking about sex with pre-adolescent children, we can use natural phenomena, fairy tales and fables to insert the content of sex education in a metaphorical way. Parents can start with the flowering and fruiting of plants and then connect with human sexuality and reproduction. There is a saying that a beautiful girl planted watermelon seeds in the field in spring, and then she watered and fertilized the seeds every day, and the seeds slowly grew green leaves. In summer, the leaves bear small flowers, and the flowers wither and become small watermelons. The small watermelon grows bigger and bigger, and becomes a mature, sweet and delicious watermelon. You can pick it and eat it at this time. Mother also planted a seed in her stomach. Under her careful care, the seed grew up slowly and became a villain ten months later. Then her mother took it off and a lively baby appeared in this world. When watching programs such as Animal World, parents can also use animal reproductive activities as metaphors to talk with their children about butterfly mating, goldfish or chicken and cat reproduction. So as to help children understand sexual knowledge, avoid introducing human sexual behavior directly and in detail, and avoid bringing adverse effects to children of this age. At the same time of sex knowledge education, we should carry out sex moral education to help teenagers control their sexual impulses in the bud and prevent mistakes.
14 ~ 18-year-old children, during which parents should take the initiative to care about asking their children about their sexual confusion. There is a boy who has nocturnal emission while sleeping. He thought he was ill and was very worried. He was embarrassed to tell his parents that he bought unhealthy books at the bookstall to find the answer. One day, when the mother cleaned his room, she found the child reading some unhealthy books. Only then did the mother realize that it was time to tell her child some correct sexual knowledge, but the parents were embarrassed to tell him about it. Finally, the mother bought books about adolescent sexual knowledge and put them on the child's desk to communicate with the child through letters.
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"From the first or second grade of primary school, children can understand sexual physiology, such as sexual organs and reproductive principles. At this time, the child's own sexual awareness has not yet formed, and parents will not face the embarrassment of sexually mature children. " Chen Ming said.
Don't feel too embarrassed once you meet Ms. Wei. Parents should first realize that children's sexual development is an important stage of their growth and development. Adolescent children are in the exploratory stage. If there is no sex education in their growth and development, they will take the initiative to find out and even experience and try. Therefore, parents should learn more books about sexual knowledge, give scientific explanations to their children, or buy some brochures about physical health and put them where children can see them, so that children can read them casually. This can help teenagers in the multimedia era to distinguish sexual knowledge from various sources and prevent them from being led astray by some bad information.
If parents find problems, such as masturbation, don't make a fuss, blame the children, try to be calm, and kindly tell them some scientific sexual knowledge and give them some suggestions, such as exercising for a while before going to bed every day, putting your hands outside the quilt when sleeping, getting up immediately after waking up, and not staying in bed to help them reduce their psychological pressure.
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When is a good time to talk about sex with children?
It is not too early to start sex education as soon as a child is born.
Most parents believe that sex education is to tell children the "truth" about sexual intercourse, pregnancy and childbirth, that is, to explain the process related to the birth of the next generation and their feelings about sex. In fact, the so-called "sexual cognition" should begin with children's cognition of individuals and others (including their own bodies and others' bodies); That is to say, it begins with how parents cuddle, touch, care and stimulate an individual's attitude after he has a life, and how parents are relative.
The way parents touch and cuddle their children, as well as the close contact between parents, are the most primitive information that can be transmitted. Once the child can understand what others mean, he can start talking about sex with him.
This is the time when children ask questions.
Psychologists believe that perhaps the first word spoken by children's bodies is education. Tell children that their bodies are treasures given by heaven, and penis and vagina are no different from other organs of the body; No matter what body shape or skin color, it is basically beautiful. This sound consciousness will lay a correct foundation for sexual cognition in adolescence and adolescence. "
Usually when children are four or five years old, they will not only be curious about their own bodies, but also want to know about others' bodies. When he sees that other people's bodies are different from his own, he will want to know the reason. As for the various parts of the body and their functions, we should explain them clearly and give them the correct names. If sex is a taboo topic when you are growing up, you may have to turn to books, newspapers, magazines or libraries.
What's wrong with calling the reproductive organs "below", "little cock" and "peeing"? First of all, giving special or funny names to some parts of the body will make children think that all parts of the body are not born equal. Ear, navel and other parts can be discussed in Kan Kan, but some parts are always hesitant. This difference in attitude will make children feel that you are avoiding, and there must be something wrong.
It's better to be right than to say more.
If the correct address is not used, children will have communication difficulties in kindergarten. At that time, the teacher would only hear a room full of ups and downs, but no one knew the correct name of penis and so on. The knowledge that children seek and understand changes with their growth, and the starting point of knowledge comes from the cognition of the body. Let children know their bodies from the beginning, and they should be direct and frank, and keep consistent statements; Then, as children grow up, you will gradually tell them more complicated processes in detail. In this way, children can have a solid and sustained cognitive foundation for sex.
However, for children (whether children, older children or even adults), actions are always more effective than words. Children can learn a lot through the interaction between parents, such as caring, gentle or delicate gestures. Sex also includes our attitude towards others, how to cherish ourselves, and our smiles. From the moment children are born, they can learn a lot from what they see and feel. Perhaps you will be surprised that children begin to recognize through hugs, caresses and intimate atmosphere around them from infancy; But in any case, please understand this characteristic of children and give them correct sex education.