The hard work is over. Looking back on this period, our working ability and experience have grown, and we need to write a work summary seriously. You can refer to the model essay before writing. The following is a summary of my work in cultivating children's sharing behavior in family education, which is for reference only and I hope it will help you.
With the progress of society and the development of science and technology, people increasingly need to have the quality of cooperation and sharing with others in all fields of life. Being good at cooperating and sharing with others is the requirement of the times and the necessary quality for children's future survival and development. Montessori, a famous Italian educator, once pointed out: We can't teach the virtue of "patience" to three-year-old children, but it is possible for children to experience it in real environment. Practice has proved that only by guiding children through appropriate methods, subjectively making children have internal motivation and desire to share, and making children's sharing behavior more stable and orderly, can children finally consciously produce sharing behavior. In this way, with good sharing behavior, children will become a new generation with four basic abilities, which is put forward by the International Education Committee of the 20th century (2 1): education must revolve around four basic abilities-learning to know, learning to do things, learning to live together and learning to survive. This is the necessary condition and ability for children to face the challenges of the future world.
Before the study, we learned from the usual conversations with parents, home visits and surveys that many parents are indifferent to whether their children have the good social behavior skills of "sharing with others", which leads to poor sharing behavior of children. The reason for this is the following：
1, parents generally attach importance to children's knowledge learning and mastery, and often ignore the cultivation of sharing this social behavior skill;
2. Some parents don't know whether their children can share education, and they don't pay enough attention to it;
Nowadays, children are the apple of their eye at home. Parents are afraid that their children will suffer losses outside, and often give negative education to their children, which leads to their self-centered consciousness;
4. Some parents lack good sharing behavior and cannot set an example;
Many parents blindly "pay" and don't know "take".
In view of the above problems, we take various forms and means to guide parents to actively participate in the research of sharing education, ensure the consistency of family education, thus forming a strong educational synergy and providing favorable protection for the formation and internalization of children's sharing quality. Therefore, this paper puts forward some concrete and operable methods on how to cultivate children's sharing behavior.
First, update parents' ideas and arouse their attention to sharing education.
Because parents' education, environment, culture and occupation are different, there are also differences in educational concepts. Under the influence of exam-oriented education, many parents attach great importance to their children's learning and often ask us if their children can learn the knowledge taught by teachers. Children have learned several children's songs and songs, and rarely ask about other aspects of development. It can be seen that parents pay more attention to the development of children's intelligence and ignore the cultivation of good social behavior skills.
In order to make parents pay enough attention to the cultivation of children's sharing behavior, we use various forms and ways to actively change parents' ideas and urge parents not only to pay attention to children's knowledge education, but also to cultivate children's good social behavior skills. For example, parents should hold regular discussions on relevant contents, how to make children learn to share, use parents' garden to publicize the importance of "how to cultivate children's concern for others" and "how to cultivate children's sharing quality", open half-day kindergarten activities to parents, introduce teachers' advanced educational concepts, experiences and skills, guide families to accompany them freely, and give full play to the interactive role of sharing among children and between children and parents. It is also required to share not only the good things at home with children, but also with the elderly. In addition, we also invite parents to participate in sharing education activities, so that they can go deep into their children, feel the fun brought by sharing, experience the role of sharing in their children's development, and let parents further understand the importance of sharing education to their children. Only when parents' thoughts are improved can they really infiltrate advanced ideas into their own behavior and promote the change of their behavior.
Two, guide parents to lead by example, and actively play an exemplary role.
Imitation is an important way for children to learn sharing behavior. Because role models have the function of encouragement and guidance, children have strong observation and imitation ability, so when they see others' sharing behavior, children will imitate and learn. Parents are children's first teachers, and their words, actions and actions will leave a deep impression on children's hearts, which has a direct enlightening effect and strong appeal. Some parents usually pay more attention to their words and deeds at home, have love for others and have a positive impact on their children. For example, when dividing snacks, parents consciously divide the food when eating. When they have a happy experience, they should tell their children in the form of sharing, "Mom (grandma, grandpa, dad) has a happy thing, and I really want to tell you that I want you to be happy with me." Seeing children playing with toys, parents can consciously walk over and say to their children, "Can I play with you?" Or, "Can you give me some toys?" Under the subtle influence of this atmosphere, children will also try to care for others and think for others. However, some parents have incorrect ideas in ideology, which has a negative and adverse impact on their children. Many parents think that it is enough to give their children adequate care at home. Therefore, when interacting with people around them, they lack love and don't know how to care about others. Some parents are afraid that their children will suffer losses outside, and often warn their children: keep good things for yourself and eat them slowly, and don't give them to others; Don't lend the new toy you just bought to others casually, or it will break. It is conceivable that if children live in this family environment for a long time, it is difficult to produce good sharing consciousness and sharing behavior.
Therefore, we guide parents to fully understand their position in their children's minds, understand the exemplary role of their words and deeds, and truly set a good example for their children. Usually, children are not only taken care of enough, but also treated sincerely and helpfully in contact with relatives and friends. In daily life, we should honor the elderly, and satisfy the elderly first if there is something delicious and delicious; When going out by car, take the initiative to give up your seat to the old, the weak, the sick and the disabled; When others are in trouble, help them in time ... loving parents are bound to have positive sharing behavior, which will also promote the generation of children's sharing behavior. Parents really care about others, and children will see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts. This kind of intangible education will have a strong shock in children's hearts, prompting children to learn to care about others, put themselves in others' shoes, and on this basis, send out the behavior of sharing.
Third, guide parents to choose a variety of content and ways to share education with their children.
With the profound changes in the social environment, children have become "family centers". Parents' excessive protection and accommodation to their children has obviously reduced communication with their peers, which is not conducive to children's socialization, and also provides a hotbed for children's "exclusion" and "exclusion" behavior. Some children don't let others play with toys they don't play with; Some children always catch the biggest and best food in their own hands, which is called "exclusive" behavior. This behavior not only affects the healthy development of children themselves, but also affects the communication and feelings between children. Sharing is a kind of prosocial behavior, which means that children enjoy things together with others, and its opposite is "exclusive", "exclusive" and "multi-occupation". The development of sharing behavior is an important aspect of children's social behavior development. In daily life, some things will happen anytime and anywhere. Although these things are common, they are often good educational opportunities to cultivate children's sharing behavior. People, daily scenes and past exchanges between peers are all good educational opportunities. These parents should pay enough attention to it, always be conscientious, seize the opportunity and cultivate their children's sharing ability in time.
1. Use the image of literary works to cultivate children's sharing cognition.
Children often learn by observing and imitating. Therefore, the proper positive image in literary works is most conducive to the cultivation of children's sharing cognition. For example, the little girl in the story of "The Golden House" lost her friends and became lonely because of selfishness. When she shared her beautiful golden house with small animals, she made friends again. This image seems to be the companion around the child or the child himself, so everyone likes her very much.
2. Use daily situations to cultivate children's sharing experiences.
In daily life, parents should always consciously tell their children some meaningful things they have seen or heard, so that children can be happy and sad with themselves and share their feelings in a subtle way; Slowly, the child will also tell you some happy things, sad things, and even dreams at night, so that everyone can feel and appreciate her emotions at that time. In addition, through empathy, children can learn to consider problems from the standpoint of others and feel the wishes and emotions of others, thus gradually forming their own positive and correct inner experience.
3. Use peer communication to cultivate children's sharing behavior.
When children gain sharing cognition and produce sharing emotions, can they get rid of self-centeredness and produce sharing behavior? Because children often perceive things according to their own needs and are easily disturbed by external stimuli, their sharing behavior is unstable; Some children are willing to exchange toys with others in front of their parents, but they take them back as soon as their parents leave, which can be said to be a false sharing behavior. It is still difficult for him to overcome his self-centered consciousness in his communication with his peers. Piaget once pointed out: "General peer communication and specific peer conflict are the necessary conditions for children to develop their ability to change their perspectives and the prerequisite for children to get rid of egoism." Therefore, parents should create opportunities for children to communicate freely as much as possible, encourage children to participate in group activities, inspire children to communicate, negotiate and coordinate with their peers, and guide children to take out books and toys to play with good friends. In the process of watching and playing, parents should properly train their children to cooperate. Let children fully feel the fun of interacting with others. When there is a conflict between children, we should first ask them to stand in the position of others, so that they can learn to consider the needs of others and form empathy, so as to overcome self-centeredness and cultivate the quality of cooperation and enjoyment.
Fourth, inspire parents not only to let their children feel love, but also to educate their children to learn to love others.
The formation of children's sharing quality is a process from cognition to behavior and gradually internalized, and it is also a complex evolutionary process. This can't be done overnight. Today's children are all only children, and their parents love them in every way, which can be described as obedient. However, some parents just love their children blindly, paying little attention to asking their children to care about others, thanking them for their love and giving them back. In the long run, it is easy for children to form selfish psychology. In view of this common phenomenon in the family, we pay special attention to inspiring parents not only to love their children, but also to guide their children to learn to love others and repay their care and love with practical actions. Sometimes parents can even take the initiative to ask their children for a little love, such as hoping that their children can share delicious food with their parents' grandparents and help their parents do some housework within their power. Parents should give affirmation and praise at the first time when children send out sharing behavior, so that children can get the motivation to move forward. Children will be happy only if they experience the fun brought by sharing. Over time, children will naturally change from passive sharing at the beginning to active sharing.
Under our guidance, more and more parents actively participate in the research of sharing education. Before the study, only 45% of parents could actively cooperate with our sharing education activities, and now it has increased to about 90%. This correspondingly promotes the enhancement of children's sharing awareness and the improvement of sharing level. Before the study, only 10% children could share it, and now such children have reached 80% of the total number. A glimpse of the whole leopard shows the far-reaching significance and great influence of family education in the development of young children.
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