1, the influence of family atmosphere on children's mental health
In a family with tense atmosphere and disharmony between parents, father and mother are often upset, grumpy, rude, lacking in filial piety and even abusing their elders.
For children who have not been able to live independently and rely entirely on their parents, in such an environment, children are prone to emotional tension. Children are in this kind of mood for a long time, lacking warmth and care, and are easy to form unsociable, selfish, cynical and other bad qualities, which have a negative impact on their mental health.
2. The influence of family emotional communication on children's mental health.
Emotional communication is an important part of family psychological environment. Bad communication is not conducive to the formation and development of children's personality.
(1) Accuse and complain about communication. The communication of complaining makes family problems often disappear in mutual accusations and complaints, and the problems are not really solved in the end.
(2) Accommodate and please communicate. A family addicted to pandering, without a sincere love between family members, will develop some unhealthy personality characteristics such as dependence, stubbornness, weakness and willfulness.
(3) communication. Nagging communication is mainly manifested in mothers and some overly trivial fathers. Under normal circumstances, such parents don't care much about the real feelings of others, and they are entangled in many trivial matters of little significance, giving their children the biggest feeling of nagging and annoyance. The performance of this gap is that on the surface, both sides are talking, which may last for a long time, but there is no information exchange at all, which will cause children to have rebellious and contradictory psychology.
The habit of domestic violence will be passed on to children.
There is a phenomenon in psychology called learned behavior. If children live and grow up in an environment with domestic violence, they will be exposed to ways to solve family conflicts or disputes by violence. In the long run, children will imitate this behavior and give priority to solving problems with violence in future marriages.
Therefore, if there is a domestic violence problem in the family, parents should make timely adjustments to avoid using violence to solve the problem in front of their children.
Peng Guoqiu said, "Most people who have domestic violence have psychological problems and personality disorders, and the bad family environment in childhood really easily leads to their mental health."
solution
Stop loss in time is to protect yourself and your children.
Considering the need to give children a complete family, many people will choose to tolerate after domestic violence. However, some studies have shown that if domestic violence occurs in marriage, if you learn to' stop loss in time' and blindly tolerate it, it will only bring more harm to yourself and your children.
From the psychological point of view, unconditional tolerance and forgiveness will only lead to the escalation of domestic violence, the perpetrators will become more and more rampant, and the victims will suffer more violence, which will eventually lead to a worse family atmosphere and environment.
Countless tragedies have proved that if the victim still holds a "compassionate heart" that wants to reform the other side without the intention of repentance, most of the results will fail.
The research shows that: "The choice of tolerance and forgiveness for domestic violence has no positive impact on children, but will lead to the shadow of children's future marriage."
Compared with children who grew up in a harmonious family, children who grew up in a disharmonious family are more likely to have problems in their future marriage, such as fear of getting married and having children, which are all related to the family growth environment. In addition, the disharmonious family environment will also affect children's character and character development. "
Therefore, when domestic violence occurs, the victim can't expect the perpetrator to control himself rationally, and the victim should bravely stay away from the perpetrator, which is the best protection for himself and his children.