Some people say that in the second half of life, it is health. It is true that only on the premise of healthy body can we realize the possibility of various life values. Health is like a bosom friend, cherish it, and don't wait until it is lost to know its value. People have experienced ups and downs in the workplace, witnessed the changes of life and death, and suffered the hardships of life. The most rare thing is to keep a heart that loves life and is moved by a little happiness.
The ancients said: "When the moon is over the Mid-Autumn Festival, people will rest in middle age." This sentence means that when people reach middle age, we will enter the second half of life. At this time, it is very important to know how to adjust health and interest. The most painful thing in life is not failure, but powerlessness.
Some people say that in the second half of life, it is a mentality. A good attitude, a person who is not old, a good attitude, is naturally cheerful and optimistic, indifferent and open-minded, has a young attitude, and naturally does not give people the feeling of being old, and even makes people feel that they are not old at all. A good attitude is better than tonic, and having a good attitude can surpass many panaceas.
Have a good attitude, be happy, have a good attitude, get rid of the bondage of utilitarianism, be indifferent and open-minded, not greedy, not compare with others, enter a quiet and peaceful state, and make yourself happy for the rest of your life. Life is too short to be happy or unhappy, so why not face it calmly and laugh it off.
Look at the world with a troubled heart, and the world is full of troubles; Look at it with a clear head, life is lovely everywhere. There are not so many days. Some people will miss it all their lives. Be kind to yourself and cherish the people in front of you. The ancients said, "The straight tree is cut first, and the well is exhausted first." Trees that grow straight become useful, so they are always cut first; The water in the Ganjing is sweet, so people try to draw it first, so they dry up first.
Keep a low-key and calm style, "cultivate your inner talent", so that our second half of life will be less tortuous and more peaceful. Only in this way can our blessings for the rest of our lives come uninvited.
Some people say that in the second half of life, the fight is the pattern. What is the pattern? Pattern is a person's vision and mind, and it is the cognitive range of things. Zeng Guofan once said: "Those who seek great things should focus on the pattern first." Therefore, the essence of the big pattern is: stand high, look far, and know how to choose.
In "Wandering in Zhuangzi", sparrows show off to Dapeng that they can freely shuttle between branches. How can we understand the vastness of Dapeng spreading its wings in Wan Li when we only stare at people between square inches? In Zhuangzi Autumn Water, Hebo gloated that all the beautiful scenery in the world was on his side. When he came to Beihai, he saw the endless horizon, only then did he know how naive and ridiculous his previous ideas were.
How can a person who sits on a well and watches the sky appreciate the vastness of the world? People with large patterns often have more detailed systematic thinking. In the Fifth Discipline, the author Peter Shengji pointed out that when thinking about solving a problem, systematic thinking regards it not as an isolated or divided problem, but as an organically related system. Systematic thinking is like a blind man touching an elephant. You may touch a leg or an ear, but some people can feel it like an elephant.
The overall pattern is a kind of wisdom, a realm and a temperament. People live differently, and the original difference lies in the pattern. Big heart, small things. If the heart is small, the matter is big.
Ms. Zhang Quanling said that in the second half of life, fighting is retreat. She gave an example: a chicken tried to fly over the high fence in front of her, but it couldn't. It tried many times, but it was all flushed and chicken feathers everywhere. But once it stepped back a few steps and suddenly found that the fence that looked very high was actually only over one meter wide and could be bypassed. It is not easy to take a step back.
In boxing, boxers always take a step back before attacking, because they know that the best way to make a heavy punch is to take a step back, and attacking with backward strength will definitely be better than normal attack. In fact, the same is true in life. After striving for talents, we should also strive for this backward force. Therefore, retirement is actually for better growth.
Pushing backward is not to bury your intelligence, but to reserve more strength for the next step. Forced not to make you depressed, but to take the opportunity to constantly improve yourself. Forced not to let you avoid the problem, but to give you one more choice. In the first half of your life, you may fight for passion and persistence, while in the second half, you fight for the space and energy of retreat. To say the least, it is really vast and unattainable.
In the second half of my life, I fight for toughness. I'm still talking about resilience today. General Patton once said: The measure of a person's success is not when he stands at the peak, but his resilience after falling from the peak to the bottom.
"Into the wine," Li Bai said, "Oh, let a man with spirit take risks where he likes, and don't point his golden cup at the moon! . Since God has given talents, let them be used! As for the money, although it is scattered, it will get together again. Edison said, "I didn't fail, I just found 10 thousand unsuccessful ways." Pain+reflection = progress. Introspection is a quality.
In the face of all kinds of setbacks, the most effective way is to face up to the pain and reflect on yourself. The so-called "lesson from the past". Resilient people know how to let go. Nietzsche said, "Anything that can't kill me will make me strong." Resilient people know how to wait. Tough people know how to bargain-hunting. Just wait for the turning point in the time of persistent struggle.
Bob Bufford went further and wrote a best-selling book "The Second Half of Life", which aroused strong repercussions. In the book "The Second Half of Life", Buffet focuses on the critical moment of life-at the end of the schedule of the first half of life, we begin to ask ourselves: "Is this all?" He helped us realize that this "half-time break" is an opportunity for people to wake up physically and mentally, so that the second half of their lives can not only be successful, but also meaningful and colorful! If you want to have a successful second half, the key is not to change jobs, but to change your mind and re-plan your life. Bob Bamford is one of the few examples who can change the focus of life from success to meaning. This book can teach you how to turn the future into the most splendid time in your life.
Peter Drucker, a management guru, sincerely recommends writing this book as a preface: extraordinary, even extraordinary. The core is what should I do? How can I make myself the most useful? Where should I invest my talents, time and wealth? Can give me a purpose in my life? What is the noblest ideal that has influenced my life? Who am I? Where am I? Where are you going? How to get to the destination? My duty and mission is to give full play to the expertise given to me by God, not to do what I like.
People can't turn back time and erase past mistakes, so we have only two ways to go: to immerse ourselves in past mistakes; Or by the grace of God, admit mistakes and learn from experience.
Junichi Watanabe said that in the second half of life, the most exciting thing is being insensitive. Isn't the rest of your life hard? Junichi Watanabe, a famous Japanese writer, believes that "most people who reap happiness and success are slow-witted people." Junichi Watanabe's dullness is not a kind of stupidity in thinking, but a kind of indifference and numbness in mentality. It is a kind of wisdom that doesn't care about everything, and it is an open-minded attitude. This is what we need.
Passivity can promote people's growth and success. Insensitivity can help people find their true self. He put forward five iron laws to cultivate dullness:
1. Quickly forget unpleasant things;
2. Set goals and continue to challenge even if you fail;
3. Face the gossip calmly;
4. Always be grateful for jealousy and irony;
In the face of praise, don't push your luck and get carried away.
The road of life is full of difficulties, and nine times out of ten life is unsatisfactory. If you can deal with difficulties calmly every time, your life will be full of strength.
And this power comes from dullness. If you are insensitive to everything and don't blx, your life will have more opportunities and be closer to success. Every successful person has this wonderful insensitivity hidden in his heart. No matter what age you are, this kind of power can make people strong. It is no exaggeration to say that the second half of life is no longer the degree of hard work, but sensitivity.
Live up to your mission and watch the flowers bloom before the court; I have no intention of staying, and I have no intention of staying, looking up at the clouds in the sky. When people do things, they can treat their likes and dislikes as normal as flowers bloom and fall, so that they can have a peaceful mind; Depending on whether to stay or not, we can be indifferent to nature. Zeng Guofan: In the second half of life, remember four sentences.
Zeng Guofan said: "Things come in line, but the future does not. At that time, it was not mixed, neither love nor love. " And these sixteen words are Zeng Guofan's formula for doing things. No matter what you want to do, as long as you make up your mind, you must do it in a down-to-earth manner without hesitation. Only in this way can life respond to things and the future can be expected. Focusing on the present and doing the things at hand well, I think it is a person's greatest practice.
Author: Li Dewei
National policy think tank expert. Director-General of Management Consulting and Training Committee of Commercial Industry Committee of China Council for the Promotion of International Trade, President of Shanghai Branch of Management Consulting Alliance, Director of Standardization (Shanghai) Service Center of Commercial Industry Chamber of Commerce of China International Chamber of Commerce, and CEO of Shanghai Wolf Digital Technology Co., Ltd.