In other words, whether parents are alive or dead, they should stick to their ambitions, match their words with their deeds, and always remember their parents' correct teaching. This is called filial piety. If parents are honest and obedient when they are alive, they forget their parents' teachings when they die and start acting arbitrarily, then it is not filial piety.
Second, life, things with courtesy; Death, ritual burial, ritual sacrifice. -The Analects of Confucius. Become the second ruler. "
When parents are alive, they should serve with courtesy; After the death of parents, it is necessary to bury and sacrifice with ceremonies, which is the embodiment of sincere respect. We should take it seriously and not ignore it.
Third, ask Xiao Meng. Confucius said: Parents only worry about their illness. -The Analects of Confucius. Become the second ruler. "
When Meng asked what filial piety was, Confucius didn't give a positive answer. He said: What parents are most worried about is that their children are sick. This means that we should cherish our health, be healthy and safe, and not let our parents worry, even if it is filial piety, which is the most basic.
Fourth, today's filial piety is that it can be raised. As for dogs and horses, you can keep them. Disrespect, why not? -The Analects of Confucius. Become the second ruler. "
Filial piety to adoptive parents should not only stay at the level of material security, but also be considerate of parents' feelings and respect their wishes. Otherwise, it is no different from raising a dog and a horse.
Fifth, Xia Wenxiao. Confucius said: color is difficult. If something happens, the disciple will handle it; There is wine and food, written by Mr. Wang. Do you think it is filial piety? -The Analects of Confucius. Become the second ruler. "
This time, it is time for Xia Zi to ask about filial piety. Confucius said that the hardest thing about filial piety is being able to keep a Zhang Shanliang face to parents. Therefore, supporting parents is only an obligation. As for filial piety, it mainly depends on the attitude towards parents. If there is anything, let young people do it; Is it filial to let the old people enjoy something delicious and delicious?
My parents advised me several times, but I respected my ambition and had no complaints about my work. -The Analects of Confucius. Standing four "
Parents sometimes make mistakes. When children see their parents making mistakes, they should gently persuade them. Even if our parents don't listen to our opinions, we should still respect them and shouldn't have any resentment.
Seven, parents are here, don't travel far, you must travel well. -The Analects of Confucius. Standing four "
We shouldn't run around when our parents are alive. If we have to go out, we must tell our parents where we are going, what we are going to do and when we will come back. These must be explained clearly in advance, and don't worry parents.
Eight, the year of parents, you must know. One is joy and the other is fear. -The Analects of Confucius. Standing four "
Parents are old, and there is not much time for filial piety. Be sure to know their age. On the one hand, we will be happy for our parents' longevity; On the other hand, we will worry about fewer and fewer parents, reminding us to be filial in time.
Nine, the father is the son, and the son is the father. Go straight in. -The Analects of Confucius. Lutz XIII "
On the surface, it is true that the son reported his father, but it is not in line with human feelings. When something goes wrong, the father hides it for his son and the son hides it for his father. This is human nature and reasonable. Although it may violate laws and regulations, it also contains integrity.
Ten, Confucius said: Give it unkind! The child was born for three years, and then he was separated from his parents. To lose a husband for three years is to lose the whole world. Have you loved your parents for three years? -"The Analects of Confucius and Yang Huo XVII"
Confucius' students killed me and gave me a name, thinking that three years is too long to lose my parents, and one year should be enough. So Confucius said the above passage:
Killing me is heartless! Three years after a child is born, it depends entirely on the upbringing of his parents, and it will take three years before he can leave his parents' arms. A three-year mourning period is a common funeral in the world. Haven't I been raised by my parents for three years? It means killing me is an ungrateful villain. Is it too long for your parents to support you for three years?